You've Been Lied To…

238 Pages·2011·6.77 MB·English

You’ve Been Lied To…

You’ve Been Lied To…
the unToLd truth about
mainstream alcohol and addiction
treatment programs and the
SecreTS on how
to eliminate the problem
for good
BY Hank HaYeS
PuBL iSHed BY Leko Ton+2
Copyright © 2011 by Hank Hayes. All Rights Reserved.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Hayes, Hank
You’ve Been Lied To…The Untold Truth about Mainstream Alcohol and Addiction Programs
and the Secrets on How to Eliminate the Problem for Good.
ISBN 13:978-1463702397
ISBN 10:1463702396
LCCN2011913753
Printed in the United States of America
First Edition
Interior artwork by Anna Smedley
Front cover photography by Eyvind C. Boyesen
D
eDication anD
a
cknowleDgements
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W
ow, I can’t believe we got it done babe. How totally cool!!!
Without question I have to start my dedication off with
huge thanks to my beautiful wife Melissa, for without her
endless help, guidance and love this project would not be brought to life.
She has talked me down, pumped me up and supported me through ev-
erything, it’s a wonder how a marriage can endure so much yet still have
more magic than when we first met. Thank you for being there, for never
giving up and for always believing in me, I love you forever Babe…
I need to be careful because I know I could write pages on those I
want to dedicate thanks to for their positive influence in my life that have
given me the courage to look past what everybody else is focused on and
find the truth. I have to thank my Mom and Dad. These folks were trail-
blazers and role models who instilled in me beliefs that if you don’t stand
for something you’ll fall for anything. They taught me to respect all peo-
ple, to not take shit from anybody, and to make your dreams come true.
I want to thank my kids, Legend, Braxton, Dakota, Raina and Chey-
enne, for proving to me every day that walking angels do exist, for con-
stantly teaching me about life and showing me what best friends truly are.
I want to thank my first real mentor Bill Bancroft for teaching me
numerous invaluable lessons. Thank you SO much Big Bill for showing me
what it takes to make it—the big and the small.
I want to say thanks to my father in law Eyvind Boyesen. He is proof
that God does live within people. Thank you for all you’ve given to the
world and the legacy you’ve left behind. Within this thanks I want to
shout out to Momma Joy and the rest of the dozens of Boyesens and my
extended family. These guys know the meaning of family, big time!
I want to thank my special friends Jennifer Nunnikhoven, Tim Hea-
slet and Ray Fabela for being a cheering section, a sounding board and
true friends. True friends tell you no when you’re selling yes, true friends
tell you that you can do it when you think you can’t, true friends believe
in your dreams. Thanks guys!
Back in the mid-1980s I was turned on to Tony Robbins and he
awakened the giant within, from that time forward so many personal
development leaders, authors and educators have taught, motivated and
inspired me to go get the life that I wanted and do my best to be a role
model to others.
These great men and women are in no special order but have gotten
deep within my soul and for that I must acknowledge them. Mr. Jim Rohn,
Les Brown, Brian Tracy, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield, Darren Hardy, Bren-
dan Burchard, Joel Osteen, John Maxwell, the men and women in the U.S.
Armed Forces, T. Harv Eker, Dr. Stanton Peele, Dr. Tom Horvath, Bruce Lee,
Kevin Trudeau, Chris Widener, John Assaraf, Dr. Daniel Amen, Charlie “Tre-
mendous” Jones and John Salvaggio. There are so many others that have
positively influenced me. However I must stop somewhere.
Thank you all for what you have done for me. You have my word I
will carry the torch with the same passion and intent.
Hank Hayes
Son of Lewis Hayes and Eyvind Boyesen
Godspeed forever…
conTenTS
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ParT one
Getting to the truth n 11

The opener n 12

introduction n 14

Chapter One
How and why i came
to write this book n 18

Chapter twO
My introduction and
experience with the mainstream
treatment programs n 30
Chapter three
Blowing the whistle on the
foundation that the mainstream
treatment industry sits on! n 43
Chapter fOur
More irrefutable evidence
to break any doubts that
we’ve been lied to n 62
Chapter five
How people get hooked on
aa and why they stay with it n 73
Chapter six
Letting go of the pain of being
lied to, moving forward and beyond
to a significantly better life n 85
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ParT TWo
Getting Back on Track
and Beyond n 93
Chapter seven
What is recovery? n 94
Chapter eight
The master key to the life you de-
serve: Taking 100% responsibility
for the life you want! n 98