Winner Takes All: The Eight Keys to Developing a Winner's Attitude

228 Pages·2001·29.63 MB·English

by  Ph.D. Noelle C. Nelson

Winner Takes All
Exceptional People
Teach Us How to Find
Career and Personal Success
in the 21st Century
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Winner Takes AH
Exceptional People
Teach Us How to Find
Career and Personal Success
in the 21st Century
Noelle Nelson
PERSEUS BOOKS
Reading, Massachusetts
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Nelson, Nolle C.
Winner takes all : exceptional people teach us how to Fino career
and personal success in the 21st century / Noelle Nelson,
p. cm.
Includss bibillographical references and index,
ISBN 0-306-46005-X
1. Success—Psychological aspects, 2- Succsss in business,
I. Title.
BF637.S8N42S 1999
158.1--dc21 99-12706
CIP
ISBN 0-306-46005-X
© 1999 Noelle Nelson
Perseus Books is a member of the Perseus Books Group
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Printed in the United States of America
To Suzy and Frank Cross,
the original Winners in my fife
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CONTENTS
PREFACE xi
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS xiii
QUIZ: ARE YOU A 21ST CENTURY WINNER? 1
INTRODUCTION 5
How to Use This Book 9
Notes 11
CHAPTER ONE: BELIEVE IN A POSITIVE FUTURE
When I Look into the Future, What Do I See? 13
Discover Your Beliefs about the Future ... 15
Challenge Your Beliefs, 24
How to Develop Beliefs that Work for You 33
Personal Success Log 1: Your Beliefs 33
Notes 36
CHAPTER TWO: CREATE A NEW FOUNDATION FOR SUCCESS
Who Am I? What Do I See in Me? 37
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viii CONTENTS
Success Relies on Your Inner Qualities 39
Building Competence 43
How to Create and Develop Your Personal "Who I Am"
as a Solid Foundation for Your Success in the Future , 53
Personal Success Log 2: Your Inner Qualities 54
Notes 56
CHAPTER THREE: BE WILLING TO DREAM
What Inspires Me? What Future Calls to Me? 57
You Gotta Have a Dream 57
Finding Your Dream 61
How to Dream a Dream for Yourself that Will Pull You
into a Successful Future 70
Personal Success Log 3: Your Dreams 71
Notes 74
CHAPTER FOUR: HARNESS THE POWER OF YOUR DREAM
How Do I Make My Dream Real? How Do I Make It Come Alive? 75
Make a Workable Choice 76
How to Develop a Workable Choice for Your Dream 90
Personal Success Log 4: Your Workable Choice 90
Notes 91
CHAPTER FIVE: ENGAGE THE POWER OF YOURSELF
How Does My Dream Fit with Who I Am? How Do I Commit to It? 93
Make a Wise Choice 93
Make an Empowered Choice 103
Make a Committed Choice 108
How to Develop a Chosen Dream that Works for You 109
Personal Success Log 5: Your Wise, Empowered, and
Committed Choice 110
Notes 112
CHAPTER SIX: BE RESOURCEFUL
What Are the Resources Available? How Am I Going
to Achieve My Dream? 113
Recognizing Resources 114
How to Find the Resources that Will Work for You 132
Personal Success Log 6: Your Resources 132
Notes 134
CONTENTS ix
CHAPTER SEVEN: DEVELOP A WINNER'S ATTITUDE
What Will Get You There, What Will Hold You Back? 135
What a Winner's Attitude Is Made Of 136
What You Can't Take with You (Negativity) 149
ASpecial Note on Fear 161
How Winners Deal with Negative Attitudes 162
How to Develop Your Winning Attitude 163
Personal Success Log 7: Your Attitude 163
Notes 164
CHAPTER EIGHT: BE FLEXIBLE, BE WILLING TO CHANGE
Where Am I Relative to Where I Want to Be? What Adjustments
Do I Need to Make? 167
Periodically Evaluate Where You Are Relative to Your Dream 168
Actively Seek and Welcome Feedback 171
Be Willing to Change 174
Run Systems Checks on Your Beliefs and Attitudes 177
Be Willing to Dream New Dreams 185
How to Use Flexibility to Continually Create and Re-Create
Your Success 187
Personal Success Log 8: Your Flexibility 187
Notes 188
CHAPTER NINE: WHERE ARE THEY NOW?
Once a Winner, Always a Winner? 189
Learning to Trust Success 191
Staying Open to New Possibilities 193
Using Winner's Resources 194
Not Everybody Succeeds: Who Doesn't Make It? 195
No Longer a Bugaboo: Age Becomes Valuable and Profitable 196
All You Need Is Enough 197
Creating Your Success Knowingly 198
Conclusion 199
RECOMMENDED READING 201
INDEX 203