Table Of ContentWhy Men Lie and Women Cry
2. Seven Things Men Do That Drive Women Insane 39
1. Why Do Men Continually Offer Solutions and Give
Advice? Why Women Become Upset by Men’s Solutions Case Study: Sarah and Andy How
Could Andy Have had it Better? When You Want to do Business with the Opposite Sex
How to Avoid an Argument with the Opposite Sex Solution
2. Why do Men Keep Flicking Through the Channels with
the Remote Control? Solution
3. Why Won’t Men Stop and Ask for Directions? Solution
4. Why Do Men Insist on Leaving the Toilet Seat Up? Solution
5. Why Do Men Make Such a Fuss About Going Shopping? How to Shop for Food
Clothes Shopping Solution
6. Why do Men Have Such Disgusting Personal Habits Flatulence Facts
Offending Foods Solution
7. Why Do Men Love Gross Jokes? How Jokes and Humour Ease Pain Don’t Feel Offended
Learned Behaviour - Blame His Mother Retraining a Man
3.Why Women Cry -The Dangers of Emotional Blackmail 73
Why We Cry
Why Women Cry More Than Men
1. As an Eyewash
2. As a Stress Reducer
Contents
Crying And Emotional Blackmail
How Blackmail Works
Case Study: Georgina’s Story
Emotional Blackmail
Case Study: Rosemary’s Story
Men and Emotional Blackmail
Case Study: Damian’s Story
Common Emotional Blackmail Tactics
Case Study: Julia’s Story
Case Study: Stephen’s Story
Case Study: Irene’s Story
How To Handle An Emotional Blackmailer
What You Can Say To A Blackmailer
When The Blackmailer Is Also In The Dark
When Blackmail Becomes A Life Sentence
4. Women’s Top Secret Point-Scoring System 101
Men See Only The Big Picture
Our Experiment With Brian And Lorraine
How Brian Scored The Month
How Lorraine Scored Her Meek
Penalty Points
Lorraine and Brian’s Reactions
Solution For Women
Solution For Men
Take The Test Now
Summary
5. Solving the Seven Biggest Mysteries About Men I 17
1. Why Don’t Men Know Much About Their Friends Lives? Solution
2. Why Do Men Avoid Commitment? Case Study: Geoff and Sally
What Most Men Think
Solution
3.Why Do Men Feel The Need To Be Right About Everything?
Case Study: Jackie and Don
Why Men Lie and Women Cry
Don’t You Trust Me? Solution
4. Why Are Men So Interested in ‘Boys’ Toys’? Do-It-Yourself Projects
5. Why Can Men Only Seem To Do One Thing at a Time?
6. Why Are Men So Addicted To Sport? Solution
7. What Do Men Really Talk About In The Rest-Room?
6.The Other Woman - His Mother 141
Enter the Dragon
His Mother - Her Burden
They’re Not All Bad
Case Study: Anita and Tom
Why Being a Mother-in-Law Can Be Tough
Case Study: Mark and Julie
Case Study: Bernadette, Richard and Diana
Setting Boundaries
7. Women’s Secret Ways With Words 159
1. Why Do Women Want to Talk So Much? Solution for Men
Solution for Women
2. Why Do Women Always Want to Talk About Problems? Case Study: Lisa, Joe and the
Midnight Argument Solution
3. Why Do Women Exaggerate How A Woman Can Delude Herself Solution
4. Why Do Women Never Seem To Get To The Point? Indirect Talk In Business
Indirect Talk At Home
Case Study: Barbara and Adam
Solution
5. Why Do Women Want To Know All The Little Details? Women Are Programmed To
Search For Details Solution
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8. Women’s Sex Appeal Test 183
Take The Test Your Score
9. What Made Roger Rabbit’s Eyes Pop Out 193
Case Study: Kim and Daniel’s Story
The Theory Of Beauty
What Science Shows
Women’s Bodies - What Turns Men On Most
Men’s Turn-ons In Priority Order
Turn-on 1: Athletic Body Shape
Turn-on 3: Full Breasts
Turn-on 4: Long Legs
Turn-on 5: Rounded Hips/Small Waist
Turn-on 6: Hemispherical Buttocks
Turn-on 10: Flat Belly
Turn-on 11 & 12: Arched Back and Vulva
Turn-on 13: Long Neck
How The Face Attracts Attention
Turn-on 2: Sensual Mouth
Turn-on 7: Attractive Eyes
Turn-on 9: Small Nose
Turn-on 8: Long Hair
The Connection Between Attractiveness And Pornography
Hentai Cartoons
How A Woman’s Clothing Impacts On Men
Cosmetic Surgery
The Other Side Of Attraction
What Men Look For
Solution
Summary
10. Men’s Sex Appeal Test 229
Take The Test Your Score
Why Men Lie and Women Cry
I I. Male Sex Appeal -What Turns Women On 237
What Science Shows
Women’s Top Turn-Ons
Turn-on 1: Athletic Body Shape
Turn-on 2: Broad Shoulders, Chest and Muscular Arms
Turn-on 3: Small, Tight Bum
Turn-on 4: Full Hair
Turn-on 5 &C 6: Sensual Mouth and Kind Eyes
Turn-on 7: Strong Nose and Chin
Turn-on 8: Narrow Hips and Muscular Legs
Turn-on 9: Flat Belly
Turn-on 10: Large Penis
Turn-on 11: Three-day Beard
What Women Want Long Term
What Women Look For in a Man
Solution
12.“Does this outfit make me look big?” 257
Who Lies?
Case Study: Sheelagh and Dennis’s Story
Types of Lies
Types of Liars
Who Lies the Most?
Common Lies Men Tell Women.
Why Lies Fail
Why Women Are So Good at Spotting Lies
Why Women Always Remember
Advice to Men
Young People Are More Likely To Lie, Cheat, Steal
When Everyone You Know Lies To You
Why the Lies of Friends and Family Hurt Most
Clues to Unmasking the Liar
Liars and Elephants
Going Once, Going Twice
How to Read Between the Lines of What’s Said
‘Only’ and ‘Just’
When They Say ‘I’ll Try’
Contents
Catching Liars With The Computer
What the Vocal Chords Say
Photographing the Lying Brain
Listening for Vocal Clues
Reading Body Language
Always Read Clusters
Smiling
It’s in the Eyes
The Pinocchio Effect
How Not To Be Lied To:
A Dictionary of Male Speech Patterns
13. When a Hunter Hangs Up His Bow - Retirement 291
The ‘Baby Boomer’ Problem
Graham’s Story
Sex And Retirement
When A Hunter Quits Hunting
How The Ancient Hunter Became Redundant
How Women Deal With Retirement
Peter And Jennifer’s Story
Why Men Can’t Handle Retirement
Why so Many Men Go Downhill So Fast
Yvonne’s Story
The Downsides Of Retirement
A Plan Of Action
Social Activity
Health
Sporting Activity
Community Or Charity Work
Spiritual
Sex
Financial Planning
Getting Organised
Paul and Dana’s Story
References 317 Picture Credits 323
Acknowledgements
We wish to thank the following people who have contributed directly, indirectly and,
sometimes, unknowingly to this book.
Our Team who have walked the steps with us on this journey: Ruth and Ray Pease, Dorie
Simmonds, Sue Williams and Trevor Dolby.
Bill & Beat Suter, Adam Sellars, Melissa, Cameron & Jasmine Pease, Mike St Carol Pease,
Len 8t Sue Smith, Fiona St Michael Hedger, Diana Ritchie, Dr Desmond Morris, Prof Alan
Garner, Gary Skinner, Dr Dennis Waitley, Mark Victor Hansen, Dr Themi Garagounas,
Bert Newton, Geoff St Sallie Burch, Tony & Patrica Earle, Debbie Mehrtens, Deb
Hinckesman, Dorreen Carroll, Andy & Justine Clarke, Kerri-Anne Kennerley, Frank &
Cavill Boggs, Graham & Tracey Dufty, John Allanson, Sandra & Loren Watts, John
Hepworth, Esther Rantzen, Ray Martin, Kaz Lyons, Victoria Singer, Graham & Josephine
Rote, Emma Noble, Yvonne & Barrie Hitchon, Richard Cranium, Ivor Ashfield and Helen
Richardson.
Introduction
We are born naked, wet, and hungry. Then things get worse.
CHINESE PROVERB
Why do men tell lies? Why do they feel they have to be right about everything? Why do
they avoid commitment? On the other hand, why do women cry to get their own way? Why
do they insist on talking a subject to death? Why don’t they initiate sex more often?
The gulf between the sexes, the misunderstandings and the conflict, even in the twenty-
first century, are still as present in all our lives as they were when Adam first fell foul of
Eve. In three decades of research into the differences between men and women, conducting
experiments, analysing miles of film footage, writing books, talking on television and
sharing information at conferences, we’ve received tens of thousands of questions about
why we men and women behave in certain ways. The letters, the phone calls and the emails
all come from people baffled by the kind of things the opposite sex does, and who feel
frustrated and helpless in knowing exactly how to deal with them. As a result, we wrote
Why Men Lie and Women Cry. Here, we’ve catalogued 40 of the most frequently asked
questions from readers and audiences around the world and have endeavoured to answer
them using our experience, research, surveys, latest studies, the sciences and, lastly,
common sense. We then developed workable solutions to get you on the right track to
communicating with the opposite sex.
Why Men Lie and Women Cry tackles those big ‘need-to-know’ questions women ask
themselves at lam on Sunday morning. Questions like, “Why do men ogle other women?”
and “Why do they always keeping telling me what to do and how to think?” Then there are
those complexities men wrestle
Why Men Lie and Women Cry
