When Women Sexually Abuse Men: The Hidden Side of Rape, Stalking, Harassment, and Sexual Assault

208 Pages·2013·1.122 MB·English

by  Philip W. Cook, Tammy L Hodo

WHEN WOMEN
SEXUALLY ABUSE
MEN
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WHEN WOMEN
SEXUALLY ABUSE
MEN
The Hidden Side of Rape,
Stalking, Harassment,
and Sexual Assault
PHILIP W. COOK
WITH TAMMY L. HODO, PHD
Copyright 2013 by Philip W. Cook with Tammy L. Hodo
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When women sexually abuse men : the hidden side of rape, stalking,
harassment, and sexual assault / Philip W. Cook with Tammy L. Hodo, PhD.
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ISBN 978-0-313-39729-5 (hardcopy : alk. paper) — ISBN 978-0-313-39730-1
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Copyright Acknowledgments
The authors and publisher gratefully acknowledge permission for use of the follow-
ing material:
Colleen O’Brien. “NW Woman Editor Charged with Identity Theft, Cyber-
stalking.” KXLY TV Spokane, Washington, July 12, 2011. Copyright © 2011,
KXLY TV.
Martin Fiebert, PhD. “References Examining Men as Victims of Women’s Sex-
ual Coercion.” Annotated bibliography. Permission granted by author. http://.
cottal.org/LBDUK/referecnes_examining_men_as_vic.htm.
Tara Palmatier, PhD. “Female Stalkers—What Is Stalking and Can Men Be
Stalked by Women?” Permission granted by author. http://www.shrink4men.
com/ February 8, 2011.
B. H. Hoff (2011). “National Study: More Men than Women Victims of Inti-
mate Partner Physical Violence, Psychological Aggression. Over 40% of vic-
tims of severe physical violence are men.” M enWeb, online journal. Permission
granted by author. http://www.batteredmen.com/NISVS.htm.
Malcolm George, MD. “From Rape to Something More Diffi cult to Contem-
plate.” Article prepared for this volume, March 6, 1998. Used by permission.
Rosemary Purcell, BA, M Psych., Michele Pathé, MBBS, FRANZCP, and Paul
E. Mullen, MBBS, DSc, FRC. “A Study of Women Who Stalk,” American Jour-
nal of Psychiatry 158:2056–2060, December 2001, American Psychiatric As-
sociation. Reprinted with permission.
J. Reid Meloy, PhD, and Cynthia Boyd, PhD. “Female Stalkers and Their Vic-
tims.” Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry Law 31: 211–19, 2003.
Analysis of NISVS research and Correspondence with Centers for Disease Con-
trol and Prevention and Analysis of Department of Education Sexual Assault
on Campus Directive. Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (SAVE). www.
saveservices.org. Reprinted with permission.
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Contents
Acknowledgments ix
Introduction xi
1 When Women Rape Men 1
2 Sexual Coercion, Sexual Assault, and Sexual Abuse 39
3 Stalking 73
4 Sexual Harassment 99
5 Considering the Unthinkable: The Last Taboo 127
Notes 165
Selected Bibliography 181
Index 183
About the Authors 191
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Acknowledgments
Any book is a collaborative effort—a fact that is paid tribute to by
most authors. This book is no exception to that rule. This tribute
must start with a simple note by my fi rst (and only) literary agent, John
Harney of Boston, who, a number of years ago, helped with the fi rst
edit for the fi rst edition of Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic
Violence. He said, “Cut these paragraphs—it is a different subject that
belongs in another book.” My editor for that volume, Nancy Wolf, also
encouraged a book on this subject, and I am also very grateful that she
gave me some essential keys to better writing. Malcolm George, MD, of
London, in interviews conducted for that book, was very enthusiastic
that another book was needed, and as referenced in this volume, es-
sential to this work. Dr. George passed away in 2013 and this book is
dedicated to his memory. Martin Fiebert, PhD, of Long Beach, Califor-
nia is also acknowledged in the text, and his work is especially critical.
There are many other researchers, therapists, sociologists, and journal-
ists whose work we have drawn from, and we strived very hard to ac-
knowledge all in the notes or in the text and quote or paraphrased them
accurately. As noted, a special thank you again to those who gave us
permission to quote extensively from their work. Thank you for decid-
ing to tackle diffi cult issues in your research and reporting. Warren Far-
rell, PhD, of California, author of many volumes, including the essential
Myth of Male Power has been supportive of my work and it should be
known that he was the fi rst to publish a book regarding many of the is-
sues and subjects raised in this volume. I wish I had his gift for the pithy
and appropriate ‘ah-hah’ phrase. The organization Stop Abusive and
Violent Environments is recognized for helpfully agreeing to provide
correspondence, reports, and analysis.