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INTRODUCTION
Fantasy plays a vital role in our sex lives from infancy,
through puberty and into maturity. The infant, nursing at
his mother’s breast experiences some kind of sex fantasy as
his little hands squeeze the swollen breast and his tiny lips
suck and gum at the hardened nipple. During childhood,
the chance sight of a nude woman or perhaps a co-habiting
couple will give rise to wild flights of sexually inspired fan-
tasy. During the years of puberty we find that masturbation
is nearly always accompanied by emotional fantasizing.
What boy does not have his “dirty magazines” or pictures of
naked women with whom he relates while performing the
act of masturbation. His hand becomes the fantasy female.
Throughout the later school years, while going through the
early pangs of puppy-love affairs girls as well as boys are
given to daydreaming which is simply another word for fan-
tasizing. Usually the hero or heroine is the crush of the mo-
ment. The fantasies are overly romanticized and generally
have a heavy undercurrent of sexual thoughts.
The sex drive is one of the most powerful of life forces. As
such it is perfectly normal that it should occupy much of the
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mind. Before one had had any actual sex experience, or be-
fore he has enjoyed sex with a particular girl, favorite actress
or what have you he can only imagine what it would be like.
This form of conscious, purposeful imagination is one of the
commonest forms of sexual fantasy and is practiced, in vary-
ing degrees, by virtually every man and woman alive.
I am reminded of the psychiatrist who asked the adolescent
youth:
“Tell me, son, do you ever suffer from immoral or dirty
thoughts?”
To which the lad promptly replied:
“Hell no . . . I love and thoroughly enjoy them.”
Psychologists who work among prisoners of both sexes who
are incarcerated for extended sentences report that for the
first six months these people are completely preoccupied
with sexual fantasies but, as they serve more and more of
their long terms, these are gradually replaced, in a majority
of cases, with fantasies concerned with fancy foods and
liquors.
In this book we shall attempt to establish a few guidelines
to aid you in properly directing your fantasies through sim-
ple explanation of the mental process involved in or under-
lying them. We offer a number of case histories to further
illuminate the various types of fantasy and the personalities
of the individuals involved. The successes of most of our the-
atrical productions on both stage and screen are due to the
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desire for fulfilling sexual fantasies in the minds of those at-
tending. This had tended to indicate that, contrary to much
published opinion, the female fantasizes about viewing the
sexual organs of males just about as much as males fantasize
about viewing the female genitalia.
It is generally agreed among psychologists that emotional
maturity in human living is reached only when the individ-
ual has dispelled all of the anxieties which plague the ado-
lescent or immature mind. Therefore, those members of both
sexes who wish to attend a “blue” movie or stage play, or who
like to read and examine the explicit photographs in the so-
called “pornographic” books are actually asserting and
adding to their maturity by so doing, inasmuch as they are
dispelling those anxieties created by their fantasies to do so.
As the mature reader knows, the subconscious mind, and
even the unconscious mind, must be satisfied in order to
eliminate or at least minimize frustrations and anxiety. These
two areas of the human mind do not possess the power to
reason and usually operate on human level of the conscious
mind of a first grade pupil.
The aim of this book, therefore, is to study, explain and show
some examples of sex fantasy forms, along with a commen-
tary on the mental development and emotional level of ma-
turity of the individuals in the cases cited. Undoubtedly as
you read about the experiences of others you will recall to
mind some of your own past fantasies. The erudite reader
will also find a tendency to attempt to classify himself ac-
cording to his related experiences and individual personal-
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ity.
Personality is best described for our purposes as being com-
posed of the sum total of all of the individual’s past experi-
ences, whether real life experiences or experiences in fantasy.
Bear in mind that no one’s personality is static or fixed since
new experiences are effecting it every day. Therefore, one can
condition himself toward a better personality by means of
positive fantasizing, followed-up with realistic action and
effort which may partially or completely fulfill the fantasy.
My experience leads me to believe that sexual fantasy occu-
pies about fifty percent of all fantasies at one time or another
in women as well as men. One correlation of this is that the
practice of masturbation is very common in married couples
as well as in single normal people of both sexes, applying to
all age groups. To think differently for one moment would
be to indulge in the ultimate fantasy. As we will see in the
ensuing chapters many an individual guards and protects his
fantasies as he would his very life; and often suffers accord-
ingly. This is especially true in the area of sexual fantasies.
It would be of inestimable value to a couple, married or hot,
to openly reveal to each other all of their fantasies and to
discuss them freely. Only through such intimate revelations
can the sex partners really learn to know and understand
each other and how to care for the individual erotic needs
of each of them. Such a practice would truly remove the
greatest of anxieties, that of fear of sexuality, or of the guilt
and frustrations so often associated with unfulfilled sexual
desires and needs.
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