What to Expect: The Second Year: From 12 to 24 Months

796 Pages·2011·5.6 MB·English

by  Heidi Murkoff

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WHAT TO EXPECT
THE
SECOND YEAR
FROM 12 TO 24 MONTHS
Heidi Murkoff
and Sharon Mazel
Foreword by Mark D. Widome, M.D., M.P.H., Professor of Pediatrics,
The Pennsylvania State University
Workman Publishing • New York
To Erik, my everything
To Emma, Wyatt, and Russell, my greatest expectations
To Arlene, with so much love, always and forever
To my WTE family—and the moms, dads, babies, and toddlers everywhere
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Cover design: David Matt
Book design: Rae Ann Spitzenberger & Lisa Hollander
Cover illustrations: Tim O’Brien based on photographs by Deborah Ory
Cover quilt: Lynn Parmentier, Quilt Creations
Quilt photograph: Davies + Starr
Interior illustrations: Karen Kuchar
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Thanks
(Or, Ta-Ta)
I NEED HELP. There, I’ve said it... I need help, and lots of it. And as luck would
have it, I’ve not only got that help in spades, I’ve got the best a girl could hope
for. Starting, as always, with the man I’ve been blessed to wake up beside for 29
years—my partner in love, life, business, and pleasure, my DH and my BFF,
Erik (though occasionally that man is a six-pound chihuahua named Harry, who
manages to snuggle his way to the sweet spot between Erik and me-just like
Emma used to do back in the toddler day... though she didn’t shed).
And there’s more help where that comes from... plenty more. The WTE family
of books has grown, but happily so has the number of wonderful, talented,
committed WTE family members who have pitched in to help it grow. Some
have come, helped, and moved on (and when they do, I try not to take it
personally), others have stuck by me since WTE’s conception. Thanks a lot, or
as the toddlers say, “ta-ta” to:
Arlene Eisenberg, my first partner in WTE and my most important one. Your
legacy of caring and compassion lives on forever-you’ll always be loved and
always be remembered.
Sharon Mazel, you’re the wind in my sail, the answer to my questions, the
chocolate on my peanut butter-and always, the yin to my yang. How could I live
(or work) without you? Love to you, your ever-patient doctor husband, Jay, and
the four girls who’ve somehow raised themselves (really well): Daniella,
Arianne, Sophia, and Kira.
Suzanne Rafer, true friend, exceptional editor, awesome author advocate,
whose critiques are always as sharp as her pencils (and hey, I’ve even stopped
erasing some of them!). Not surprisingly-after all these years of passes, we’re
both wearing glasses.
Peter Workman, for his dedication, passion, and commitment, and for creating
the house that became WTE’s home.
Everyone else at Workman who has helped deliver my latest baby (I guess that
makes you my doulas): Bob Miller, new fearless leader, for your finesse with
facilitating and your excellence in expediting. David Matt, for always going,
well, to the mat for me-and for sharing an artistic vision that, let’s face it,
definitely doesn’t come cheap. Lisa Hollander and Rae-Ann Spitzenberger, my
two favorite designing women, for your talent-and patience. Painting genius Tim
O’Brien for bringing the world’s cutest toddler, Gigi, to life (and to Gigi, for the
smile you bring to my face every time I see yours), and to Anne Kerman for
finding Gigi. Lynn Parmentier for your crazy beautiful quilt. Karen Kuchar, for
capturing perfectly that quintessential toddler cuteness (and for your astonishing
grace under deadlines). Peggy Gannon for always going with the flow and
keeping the flow going. And my other phenomenal friends at Workman,
including Suz2 (Suzie Bolotin), Erin Klabunde, Walter Weintz, Page Edmunds,
Jenny Mandel, James Wehrle, Joe Ginis, Steven Pace, Marilyn Barnett, Jodi
Weiss, Emily Krasner, Beth Wareham, Barbara Peragine–and the entire sales and
marketing team.
Dr. Mark Widome, for your vast wealth of medical expertise, your deep
pockets of wisdom, your endless reservoir of patience, passion, and good humor-
plus, can you write a fabulous foreword, or what? I’m not sure who’s luckier-the
students you teach, the children you care for, the parents you counsel, or me (I’m
just glad there’s enough of you to go around!).
Steven Petrow (MG), Vince Errico (Dimples), Mike Keriakos, Ben Wolin, Jim
Curtis (CSOB), Sarah Hutter, and all my wonderful friends and partners at
Everyday Health, for making our vision of WhatToExpect.com a reality. Thanks,
also, to the amazing WTE community of moms-not only for making our site the
special place that it is, but for sharing your bellies, babies, and toddlers with me
every day. With a special shout (and XO) out to my Facebook and Twitter
family-thanks for always being there for me.
Two other men I don’t wake up with but couldn’t face a day without: Marc
Chamlin, for your keen legal eagle eye, your business smarts, your unflagging
friendship and support; and Alan Nevins, for your masterful management,
phenomenal finessing, endless patience, persistence, and handholding (we’ll
always have Cairo). And to the newest member of the WTE team, someone who
has a great name and even a greater gift of communication: Heidi Schaeffer-
thanks for getting the word out!
The mamas of my other baby: The What to Expect Foundation, Lisa Bernstein
(mama, also to Zoe and Oh-that-Teddy) and Ruth Turoff (mama, also to the
beautiful Bluebell), for spreading mom power to those who need it most.
Emma (the toddler who started it all), Wyatt (the toddler who followed), and
my newest son, Russell-you’ve made me one lucky mama, and I love you all so
much.
And speaking of family that I adore: Sandee Hathaway, my sweet sister and
friend; my endlessly adorable father Howard Eisenberg; my treasured in-laws,
Abby and Norman Murkoff. And Victor Shargai, for your love, support, and
DNA.
To AAP, for being tireless advocates for children and their parents, and to all
of the practitioners who work every day to make little lives happier, healthier,
and safer.
And most of all, to all moms, dads, and toddlers everywhere. Big hugs to you
all!
Contents
FOREWORD: by Mark Widome, M.D., M.P.H
INTRODUCTION: Bye-Bye Baby, Hello Toddler
A TODDLER TIMELINE: The Second Year at a Glance
Developmental Milestones in the Second Year
12 to 13 Months
It’s Cumulative
13 to 14 Months
14 to 15 Months
15 to 16 Months
16 to 17 Months
17 to 18 Months
18 to 20 Months
20 to 22 Months
22 to 24 Months
CHAPTER 1
Your Toddler on the Grow
What You May Be Wondering About
Growth Charts
TWINS Different Growth for Different Folks
Measuring Your Wiggly Worm
The Tubby Toddler
MILESTONE Height and Weight
The Thin Toddler
Potbelly
ALL ABOUT: Growth Charts
CHAPTER 2
Your Toddler, Head-to-Toe
Hair Care
A Sticky Situation
Hair-Brushing Hijinks
Time for a Trim?
Shampoo Struggles
Chemicals in Shampoo?
Eye Care
Spotting Vision Problems
Blinking
Getting Glasses
Ear Care
Signs of a Hearing Problem
Sound Defense
Ear Piercing
Tooth Care
Tooth Problems Don’t Fall Far from the Tree
Toothbrushing Tussles
Time for Fluoride Toothpaste?
Teething, Round Two
Teeth and Sweets
MILESTONE Tooth Timetable
Gaps Between Teeth
Preparing for the Dentist
Visiting the Dentist
Skin Care
MILESTONE Keeping Clean... By Myself
Bath Rejection
Hand-Washing Resistance
It’s a Dirty Job
Dry Skin
Chapped Cheeks
Eczema
Other Skin Rashes
Skin Check
Screening Out the Sun
Sunscreen Struggles
Nail Care
Nail-Trimming Trials
Foot Care
Funny Feet
The Mystery of the Missing Arch
Choosing Shoes
Time for New Shoes?
If the Shoe Fits...
Girl and Boy Parts (a.k.a. Genitals)
Bottom Care
Strange Stools
The New Scoop on Poop
The Diaper Wars
No More Diapers?
Playing with Diaper Contents
ALL ABOUT: Thinking About Toilet Training
Potty Ready Signs
MILESTONE Potty Readiness
FOR PARENTS But Are You Ready?
Potty Able Signs
Potty Prep
Toilet-Training Trends
Ready... Set... Go Potty
CHAPTER 3
Your Toddler on the Go
What You May Be Wondering About
Walking
MILESTONE Getting Up and Going
Encouraging Walking
TWINS Walking to Different Beats
Delayed Walking
Going Back to Crawling
Coordination... or Lack of It
Born Early?
Taking the Ouch Out of Falls
Climbing
Climbing Out Of Crib