Table Of ContentTRANSFORMATIONAL LIFE COACHING
Other books by Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D., MCC
If Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules
If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules
If Success Is a Game, These Are the Rules
If High School Is a Game, Here’s How to Break the
Rules
If Life Is a Game, These Are the Stories
The Gift of Motherhood
Negaholics
The Corporate Negaholic
Negaholics No More!
The New Species
Waves of Change
What Is Your Message?
Become One
The Inner View
The Art of Giving
The Baby Boomer’s Bible
Transformational
Life Coaching
Creating Limitless Opportunities
for Yourself and Others
Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D., MCC
#1 bestselling author of
If Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules
Lynn U. Stewart, PCC
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Carter-Scott, Chérie
Transformational life coaching/Chérie Carter-Scott and Lynn U. Stewart ;
with foreword by Ric Giardina.
p. cm.
Includes index.
ISBN-13: 978-0-7573-0689-1 (trade paper)
ISBN-1310: 0-7573-0689-6 (trade paper)
1. Personal coaching. 2. Personal coaching–Practice. I. Stewart, Lynn U. II.
Title.
BF637.P36C37 2007
158’.3––dc22
2007032438
© 2007 Chérie Carter-Scott and Lynn U. Stewart
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Dedication
To all of our clients, students, readers, and friends
around the world who have entrusted us with their
personal development and training over the past
three decades; to all of our MMS certified coaches
who have taken the work to their different corners of
the world and brought the light of possibility to those
who had given up hope.
Contents
Dear Reader
1
The Relationship with the Self
1
2
Awareness
36
3
Listening and Connecting
70
4
Choices and Decisions
103
5
Articulating Objectives and Manifesting
Reality
134
6
Energy, Power Centers, Chakras, and
Flow
160
7
Living the Process
182
8
Marketing and Building Your Coaching
Practice
206
9
Coaching Yourself
247
10
Creating Community
275
The Living Language of Coaching
292
About the Authors
297
Foreword
When we take the time to look, we usually
find someone in our past who has had a profound
and positive effect on the course we set for ourselves
for the rest of our lives. Usually we see it clearly
only from the future that person actually helped to
create; sometimes we’re lucky enough—or perhaps
awake enough—to recognize that person for who
they are and what they are giving us while it is
happening.
For me, that someone is Chérie Carter-Scott.
And I was very lucky, indeed.
I met Chérie in May 1978. She was
facilitating a full-day time-management workshop
offered
through
her
company,
Motivation
Management Service, (MMS). I had been urged to
take the workshop by my partner in the law firm we
were putting together at the time on Union Street in
San Francisco. She had already attended it herself
and thought it would be of value to me. MMS was
directly across the street from our law offices.
Even in the list-populated, task-filled, paper-
intensive, pre-computer, and pre-PDA world of a
1970’s time-management program, Chérie’s open
and caring heart shone through. More than that, I
saw she was somehow able to focus and direct that
loving energy to assist others in solving their own
issues. It all resonated with something deep within
me.
Within days of the completion of that time-
management program, I registered for the MMS
Inner Negotiation Workshop, in which I cut years off
my recovery time from the perceived hurts of my
childhood. Within weeks of completing that
workshop, I registered for the three-month MMS
Coach Training (CT) intensive. Within months of
completing the CT, I left my law firm, carried my
boxes across the street, and joined the staff of MMS,
where for several years Dr. Chérie and Lynn Stewart
taught this often-very-much-in-his-head young man
how to move his center to his heart and do his
work—whatever it was—from that place.
And indeed, they taught me well, for I have
successfully carried Dr. Chérie’s heart-centered,
trust-yourself-to-have-your-own-answers,
trust-
others-to-have-their-answers approach into several
successful careers that have spanned the military,
law, government, high technology, and my own
consulting and coaching business.
And at the root of it all has been the MMS
coaching technique.
Here at last, in the words of the founder not
only of the MMS, but also of the entire coaching
industry as we know it, are those very same
techniques that she and Lynn have shared with
thousands of MMS Certified Coaches around the
world.
There are not enough words to describe how
pleased I am that this book exists, how honored I feel
to have been asked to write its Foreword, and how
delighted I am that it is now in your hands.
Ric Giardina, MMC Certified Coach (1978)
President and Creative Director,
The Spirit Employed Company
Author of Your Authentic Self: Be Yourself At
Work
Acknowledgments
We
would
like
to
thank
all
those
“ambassadors” who give relentless hours of
dedication and service to the MMS work around the
globe and to all of those who were in the first MMS
Coach’s Training in 1975 in San Francisco who
believed in us when there was no reason to, who
knew intuitively that something was “right” and
wanted to be a part of drawing out another’s truth:
Diana Bober, Jan Martin Brady, John Collins, Sandy
Ford, Addy Helbig, Jean Jones, David Manley,
Katherine Martin, Carol McCartney, Lynne Whiteley
Novy, Barbra Rasmussen, Franc Sloan, B.J.
Snowden and Christine Stockton. Without their
unwavering commitment, the work would not have
been possible. To Peter Vesgo and Michele
Matrisciani, who believed in this book and made it
available for the world to read. To Michael Pomije
and Isabella, my angel, whose unwavering support
on a daily basis inspires us to be the best coaches we
can be! And to those who live these principles in
their wok and daily lives…
CHERIE CARTER-SCOTT, PH.D., MCC
AND LYNN U. STEWART, PCC
1
Chapter 1
The Relationship with the Self
It is what a man thinks of himself that really
determines his fate.”
Henry David Thoreau
If you aspire to become a certified coach, you
must first focus on your relationship with your
“self.” [Before coaching another, you must first be
connected to yourself. You must be aware of what
goes on inside of you before you can build a bridge
to another. You can only ask another to do the work
that you personally have done. Becoming a coach is
a journey that starts with your relationship with you.
Your relationship with yourself is the central
template
from
which
your
personal
destiny
manifests. The relationship with the self is the most
important and crucial relationship in your life. Your
career, your personal relationships, your home, and
your health are all a direct result of the quality of
your relationship with you. The way you hold
yourself creates a vibration that sends a message to
the world about who you are, what you deserve, and
how you should be treated.
