Table Of Contentkavida rei
ultimate
erotic
massage
the complete sensual
guide to hands-on bliss
ultimate
erotic
massage
kavida rei
ultimate
erotic
massage
the complete sensual
guide to hands-on bliss
kavida rei
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Contents
What is erotic massage? 6
Benefits of erotic massage 10
EROTIC BEGINNINGS 12
SENSUAL EROTIC MASSAGE 42
1
Sensual essentials 44
2
Sensual exploration 58
INTIMATE EROTIC MASSAGE 110
3
Intimate massage 112
4
Oral massage 128
5
Self-massage 136
EROTIC EXTRAS 148
6
Foreplay & climax 150
7
Massage & fantasy 164
8
Tantric massage 178
Resources 188
Index 190
Acknowledgments 192
6 WHAT IS EROTIC MASSAGE?
What is erotic massage?
Erotic massage provides all the benefits
of regular massage, but unlike most
forms of hands-on manipulation it is
meant to be a deeply sensual experience.
Taking the best techniques from a wide
range of massage styles and giving them
a provocative and powerful twist, erotic
massage helps couples to tap into their
sensual natures. As the masseur, you will
discover how to pleasure your partner;
as the recipient you will learn to revel in
your partner’s touch. Erotic massage gives
you the tools to explore your sexuality
and connect physically and emotionally.
WHAT IS EROTIC MASSAGE? 7
WHAT DOES “EROTIC” MEAN? every moment, and to respond intuitively and lovingly.
The term “erotic” comes from Eros, the Greek god Everything is explained clearly, but the book is a guide:
of love, and describes the arousal of sexual feelings add your own strokes as you feel you want to.
or strong desire. You can introduce eroticism into
just about anything you do, be it listening to music, A PLEASURE IN ITS OWN RIGHT
dancing, or eating a meal. It simply involves engaging You and your partner can enjoy erotic massage as an
all your senses and using the activity to help you get end in itself, not necessarily as a prelude to sex. The
in touch with your earthy, sexual nature. key is to make it clear to your partner that you are
giving him or her a gift, without desire for a reward.
PRINCIPLES OF EROTIC MASSAGE Learn to derive joy from your partner’s body, and
Erotic massage makes use of sexual energy to increase from the pleasure you give. Enjoy the moans and
intimacy, prolong pleasure, heighten arousal, and sighs you are able to provoke simply by using your
intensify sexual fulfilment. It encourages individuals to hands, fingers, mouth, hair, and voice in different ways.
freely express sexual desire, lust, fantasy, and passion.
By promoting the flow of erotic energy throughout The recipient is able to enjoy a feeling of freedom and
the body, this type of massage can also have healing intense relaxation, but there are advantages for the
effects. It certainly enables the recipient to enjoy deep masseur, too. When you massage without an agenda
relaxation and the blissful sensations of erotic touch. or goal, the flow of energy becomes a cycle, passing
between you and building up to a reciprocal exchange
The techniques in this book owe much to Swedish, of pleasure. So the ecstasy is mutual!
Shiatsu, Taoist, and Holistic massage, and include all
the traditional strokes, such as kneading, feathering, Everyone has a unique response to massage so
hacking, and cupping. There is plenty of freedom in a masseur should never try to manipulate or “direct”
erotic massage to experiment with your own ways the recipient into any particular reaction or experience.
of massaging and touching. As you relax and drop Erotic massage should be nourishing, loving, holistic,
all expectations and agendas, you will find yourselves and empowering for both the giver and receiver.
trying new, intimate strokes and caresses that you Massage is not about “doing” something to another
think your partner might enjoy. What is important person but about “giving” to each other, and being
is to experience a heightened awareness of each and together in the moment.
8 WHAT IS EROTIC MASSAGE?
THE ENERGY CONNECTION awareness, in which every sense is alert and you feel
When sexual energy is coursing through the body, alive in the moment. For some, the intimacy and
human beings tend to feel at their most vibrant, orgasmic potential of erotic massage would define it as
energized, and alive. Fortunately, these feelings of “sex.” For others, it is not sex unless penetration occurs.
happiness and vitality are available to all of us every The definition is for you to make. Just be aware that
moment of the day, and you don’t have to be engaged traditional ideas about massage and foreplay leading
in sexual intercourse to experience them. You do, to sex can be limiting. Sometimes it is necessary to
however, need to learn how to tune into them, which rethink old patterns of behavior or challenge unvoiced
is where erotic massage comes in. Erotic massage can assumptions in order to provide room for freshness
take both partners into this state of optimum and spontaneity in a relationship.
