Tinder for Experts: How to Stop Losing Hot Matches, Relying on Cheesy Lines, Wasting Time & Getting Nowhere

106 Pages·2014·27.54 MB·English

by  White Panda

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Notes by the Author ...........................................................................................................................................................4
reprogrAm your miNd ........................................................................................................................................................5
Technological DisrupTion ....................................................................................................................................................................................6
TinDer’s percepTion: The sex app .........................................................................................................................................................................7
Your online persona: The sweeThearT principle ....................................................................................................................................8
Two core challenges: risk premium & Your perceiveD value ....................................................................................................11
creAte the irresistible profile ......................................................................................................................................13
who shoulD You Be? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................14
The profile picTure ...................................................................................................................................................................................................18
Your seconDarY picTures ....................................................................................................................................................................................21
coming up wiTh a DescripTion ..........................................................................................................................................................................25
use insTagram To achieve even more value ............................................................................................................................................28
swipiNg strAtegies ............................................................................................................................................................30
seTTing a range ...........................................................................................................................................................................................................31
swiping Technique ....................................................................................................................................................................................................32
when To swipe - herDing Your maTches .....................................................................................................................................................35
noT geTTing enough maTches? ........................................................................................................................................................................37
the Art of chAttiNg ...........................................................................................................................................................38
when To engage .........................................................................................................................................................................................................39
conversaTional value – how cool are You? .........................................................................................................................................41
TemperaTure TheorY – is she inTo You? .......................................................................................................................................................44
sTep 1: opening – geT her chaTTY! ...................................................................................................................................................................49
sTep 2: The fillers – have a fun conversaTion........................................................................................................................................56
sTep 3: The faceBook close ..................................................................................................................................................................................61
fAcebook: the best bAckgrouNd check .......................................................................................................................64
common Traps: who is she reallY? ................................................................................................................................................................65
opTimize Your image ................................................................................................................................................................................................67
reiniTiaTe anD BuilD rapporT over faceBook .........................................................................................................................................68
sexual escalaTion Techniques ........................................................................................................................................................................72
closing conversaTions anD keeping iT hoT .............................................................................................................................................76
settiNg up A greAt dAte ....................................................................................................................................................77
TYpes of girls You will meeT on TinDer ......................................................................................................................................................78
converTing warm leaDs .......................................................................................................................................................................................80
anTi-flake proTecTion ............................................................................................................................................................................................82
Dealing wiTh flakes .................................................................................................................................................................................................83
Techniques for sTuBBorn meDium anD colD leaDs ...........................................................................................................................84
tActics for iN-persoN tiNder dAtes .............................................................................................................................85
DaTe iDeas anD framing ........................................................................................................................................................................................86
logisTics: The keY To success .............................................................................................................................................................................90
sTimulaTing Topics anD lines To use on TinDer DaTes ......................................................................................................................93
coup de grAce: the fiNish.................................................................................................................................................96
seTTing The righT oBjecTives ..............................................................................................................................................................................98
pushing The sexual Tension inTo overDrive ...........................................................................................................................................98
overcoming all poTenTial oBjecTions .....................................................................................................................................................102
whaT comes afTer scoring ...............................................................................................................................................................................104
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otes by the uthor
Thank you for purchasing “Tinder for experts” and setting out to discover the immense potential of modern dating
innovations. This book is targeted towards men who strive to become experts in all activities they deem worthy
of their time. The advice will save you countless hours of trial and error, heaps of money from unsuccessful dates
and the frustration that comes along the learning curve. This is the instruction manual to quickly join the top 1%
of Tinder users and take full advantage of this amazing new way to meet women.
personAl ACCounT
even before the emergence of Tinder, i was successful with women for the better part of a decade. it all started at
a young age, when i decided to read about seduction psychology and finally began to understand what women
truly look for in a man. i cannot call myself a “pick-up Artist” since i have never practiced seduction professionally,
but i have read dozen of books from the masters in the field. i credit them for most of the talent i have developed
and for the many adventures i have enjoyed with beautiful intelligent women.
for a living, i am a serial entrepreneur working alternatingly between europe and Canada. After selling my last
venture, i embarked on a world tour that lasted a full year. At the same time, i separated from my girlfriend and
proceeded to polishing my seduction skills and getting back into meeting women. A new app called Tinder was
quickly recommended to me.
Astonishingly, i had a lot of trouble meeting the women i wanted on Tinder. my approach was simply not adapted
for this form of interaction. i grew determined to upgrade my seductive skills and convince my ideal matches to
go on a date with me. by the end of my travel year, i finally had it down to a science. in fact, i was meeting more
quality women than at any other point in my life.
my success with the app amazed my friends and they began to ask me for lines and advice. This made me see first
hand how small changes could dramatically improve their experience on Tinder, no matter how good looking or
charming they happen to be. These friends slowly convinced me that there was real value in laying out my entire
process in writing.
i see Tinder - and dating in general - as a sales process. most guys fail to get the women they deserve because they
do not know how to convey the best of themselves. This book will make you an expert in self-promotion. your
challenge will then be to live up to the expectations of all the new women eager to meet you!
ACknowledgemenTs
perfecting techniques for Tinder was a long and arduous procedure, but it was greatly enhanced by the
contributions of two close friends: dr. stinson and the marv. The three of us shared a rare advantage: we had
an entire year filled with the free time to test Tinder in many different countries. This enabled us to develop
innovative techniques and become experts in our own right.
Their ideas helped bridge the gaps in my understanding and were crucial in motivating me to write a complete
comprehensive method. Tinder has enabled us to live unforgettable experiences, and now we believe it is your
turn!
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reprogram your mind
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echNologicAl isruptioN
welcome to the age of Apps! seemingly every aspect of life is being made easier by the smart device in your
pocket. you now have the power to be connected to absolutely anyone at any time. The implications of this
second internet revolution are far reaching.
The traditional “options” to life’s everyday problems used to be confined in space and limited by the scarcity of
information. you need a gas station, ask around for the nearest one. fast-forward to today and you can find the
one that minimizes the detour and grants you the appropriate reward program.
for those of you who have spotted where i am getting at, congrats! i am addressing the Tinder skeptics. next time
you are hoping to get lucky at a bar with only 10 or even 50 decent girls (some of which might not even be single),
stop to realize that Tinder connects you to hundreds if not thousands of girls nearby!
Tinder has arguably brought online-dating to the masses. girls who would never dare to advertise themselves
on match.com find far less social stigma in uploading a few facebook pictures and swiping through the endless
ocean of contenders. This breakthrough brings unique implications for men and women respectively.
The female behavior on Tinder varies greatly from traditional online dating. This being said, the “online-daters”
will sometimes try their luck on Tinder. These women will be among the easiest to meet and sleep with. They are
comfortable going on dates with men they have never previously seen in person and they will display the common
eagerness (sometimes desperation) that characterizes this bold segment. yet some “online-daters” will balk at
Tinder’s superficiality and its lack of profile customization. in summary, if you enjoy Tinder, i highly recommend
you give traditional online sites a try: you will have more sex, but the “normal girl” is harder to come by.
This brings me to the majority of girls on Tinder: the “normal girls”. These will download the app for fun, personal
gratification and because it has become an extremely popular pastime. These girls are single and you can sleep
with them, but there exist some very palpable challenges to this entirely new sphere of dating. This book will
break down these obstacles and give you a broad set of tools to overcome them.
And finally, what does this technological revolution mean for us, the single men? The economist cited Tinder as
the modern-day cure for desperation; turning men away from prostitution and other such sins. so let us take a
look at supply and demand. supply has suddenly surged thanks to Tinder implying less effort (ie. price of pursuit)
for more of the women you would usually get. odds are that this abundance will be more than you can handle
and you will up your price (standards), ending up with hotter women and, yes, fewer prostitutes.
so no matter your seductive skill level and no matter how handsome you are: you are missing out on a huge
amount of potential if you do not get comfortable using Tinder. The following chapters will show you how to save
time along the learning curve and avoid feeling creepy when interacting with new women.
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iNDer s erceptioN he ex pp
many describe Tinder as an app serving strictly to have a one-night stand or to find a partner for a casual no-
strings-attached relationship. This reputation is mostly unfounded and overall misleading, here is why.
i’m sorry to say, but the girls on Tinder are no hornier than the girls at the bar. depending, which bar you go to, the
converse may be true. however, you have a higher chance of getting laid because you have a far greater selection,
this is the law of large numbers. The more you try, the higher the probability that you will get what you expect.
so a lot of guys are already getting laid more thanks to Tinder, does that mean the girls are easier? initially, the girls
who you finally convince to meet you will have a stronger adventurous side than the average (see rick premium
later in this section). so yes, you will find easy ones, but they are the outliers and you would still have had an easier
time seducing them in the bar. often, they fall below your standards, but hey, you charmed her from the comfort
of your couch. hopefully, no one will see you two together!
understand that sleeping with the normal girls - the ones you truly want - is going to be harder than if you’d had
the luck of running into her alone at the bar. Think about it, you need to convince a girl who has never seen you
that she needs to spend some time with you, preferably one-on-one, as opposed to go on with life as usual or meet
one of the other million guys on the app. The good news is that the law of large numbers ensures that you will
succeed far more than at the bar, and there are techniques to multiply your odds.
once you succeed in meeting a girl from Tinder, casual sex is actually more likely than regular dates. This is because
the girl is usually well removed from your social circle and will not have to answer for the crazy things she decides
to do with you. Also, since this is the first time you meet, she is not expecting anything, leaving room for the magic
of spontaneity that is so crucial in guaranteeing sex on the first night. (see Coup de grace Chapter)
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our NliNe ersoNA he weetheArt riNciple
now that we understand the playing field, let us get into the specifics of the tactics involved. The sweetheart
principle is the approach that will maximize your chances with the largest number of girls. it underlies most
recommendations in this book and actually goes against many principles put forth in traditional pickup literature.
TrAdiTionAl ATTrACTion phAse
let us look at a traditional pickup in a bar. if you have read books like The game or mystery method, you already
understand the underlying dynamics. if you are a natural or utterly clueless, the scenario i am about to describe
should still make sense and will later serve to contrast what goes on in the Tindersphere. here is the scene:
i am standing at the bar with a friend; we are talking about something extremely interesting. suddenly, his
head motion serves to tell me that a very attractive girl has arrived to order. i turn my upper body to address
the girl and her friend “Excuse me girls, just quickly, can you help my friend and I settle a debate... who lies
more, girls or guys?”
The hot girl gives me a blank look; she has clearly been hit on dozens of times that night. yet her friend
chimes in with an answer. i retort: “Interesting you would say that! You must be the clever one!” Turn to the
hot one. “And you must be the one with attitude” and then give her a cheeky smile.
she proceeds to say that men lie more. since she gives me nothing more to go on, i begin to banter with her
friend about how the hot girl must have had a traumatic experience with a frenchman who offered to take
her to live in paris, but then turned out to be swiss and own a farm instead.
when the hot girl says half laughing that this is not true, i turn to her and give her a hug and utter: “Sure it
isn’t, but don’t worry, not all men are Swiss.” what has happened here?
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game connoisseurs will spot this as the attraction phase of a pickup. i created attraction by taking the hot girl off
her high horse. for the rest of the night, i would differentiate myself from the other needy men by staying slightly
cocky, thereby keeping her on her toes and demonstrating that i am also a prize to be won. i would also radiate
confidence so that the woman’s subconscious can begin to picture me as being good in bed.
Tinder is noT yeT reAl life
This dynamic on Tinder is completely different. To begin with, successful implementation of the above example
comes down more to the body language and tone of delivery than the actual words. on Tinder, you are stuck
using messages with a girl that has absolutely minimal insight into your character.
next, you are not competing with needy guys buying drinks or repeatedly trying to approach her. you are
competing with apparent douchebags, creeps and the sexually depraved. furthermore, guys who are generally
shy around women grant themselves every right to exude confidence over Tinder, thus quickly falling into one of
the aforementioned categories. The messages i have read on girls’ phones are simply unbelievable and prove that
the overwhelming number of male matches clearly have no shame!
The danger with conventional gaming tactics is that during the initial stages, you risk being grouped with the
other weirdoes if you try to be cocky or confident. besides, a girl with so many options at the swipe of a finger will
not give you the benefit of the doubt and you’ll be left wondering why she suddenly went cold.
differenTiATe yourself by being The AbsoluTe biggesT sweeTheArT
i am talking about ryan gosling in The notebook. The guy who can do no wrong and was brought up to do
anything for a woman. someone who respects them so much that he is shy by nature and would never dare to
approach a girl in a bar or do anything player-like for that matter. This is the guy that all women dream about, but
would never actually be attracted to in reality.
The sweetheart principle will enable you to pleasantly surprise a woman. Thanks to Tinder, she has found the
perfect sweetheart that she otherwise would never have noticed! Also, this guy is so non-threatening that she
could picture herself being completely comfortable meeting up with him, even after telling herself she was only
using Tinder for fun and not to actually go on dates. when she does meet you, she will not worry about you
expecting only sex, since you have shown interest in other aspect of her life.
This is a powerful narrative. Although not the only one, the sweetheart approach will yield the highest success
because it appeals to a broad base of normal girls. in the later chapter, you will see many examples of how to put
this frame into practice at every step until the meet-up. don’t forget, once you finally do meet her, ryan gosling
needs to turn into James bond if you want to avoid a wedding and, instead, guide her seamlessly into your bed.
(see chapter on “Tactics for in-person Tinder dates)
remember: There is no foolproof formula to bed any girl on Tinder. There is only an attitude and some applied
principles that will maximize the output for the time you invest. focus on adapting your mentality and you will
see drastic improvements.
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other NArrAtives:
when you care about maximizing your chances of success, revert to the sweetheart principle. if applied correctly,
it will never turn a girl off. however, if you wish to save time or target specific outliers, you can apply a different
frame.
here are some examples of frame variations:
the sexual escalator: you have matched with a girl that is not worth much investment or you have a very limited
time horizon in this specific city – you want to cut straight to the chase. Although sexual escalation will alienate
the majority, you can end up filtering down to the ones you are looking for. There are ways to quickly identify which
girls are open to cater to your immediate needs and to get them to agree enthusiastically to a one-night-stand.
my good friend dr. stinson is truly a pioneer in this field.
(read about sexual escalation Techniques in the “facebook” chapter)
the social facilitator: here you play the cool guy that enjoys bringing people together and is not necessarily
looking for a date. you should absolutely implement this frame if one of these three points applies:
1. you have close friends in common with the girl
2. she is part of a community that you have strong ties with (Jewish, hispanic, fashion, Charity...)
3. she is visiting your city and does not know anyone (except perhaps the friends she is travelling with)
begin by pointing out that, through you, she can meet interesting people and have a great time. This is a sure shot
way to build comfort. if she is showing a specific interest in you, gradually push for a one-on-one meet-up (see
“Temperature Theory” in “The Art of Chatting”). you can always fall back on social group invitation if she does not
want to meet alone.
The social facilitator is also a last resort for other girls that have gone cold. if the date looks almost impossible,
invite them to cool events - the law of large numbers will insure that some will end up meeting you after all.
the tourist: This frame can be used in conjunction with the sweetheart principle. for various reasons, local girls
will go out of their way to meet you if you are a tourist, especially if you come from a place that they could picture
themselves visiting someday. if you act sweet and non-threatening, the girls will be happy to show you parts of
town that regular tourists would never see.
i have travelled much of the world using Tinder profusely, and this has led to some absolutely unforgettable
experiences!
keep in mind that sex will be more difficult since the girl will set up the date and your logistics may not be optimized
in a foreign land.
(see chapter on “setting up a great date”)
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