The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It

233 Pages·2008·0.79 MB·English

by  M. Gary Neuman

The Truth about
Cheating
Why Men Stray and What
You Can Do to Prevent It
M. GARY NEUMAN
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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The Truth about
Cheating
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The Truth about
Cheating
Why Men Stray and What
You Can Do to Prevent It
M. GARY NEUMAN
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data:
Neuman, M. Gary.
The truth about cheating: why men stray and what you can do to prevent it / M. Gary
Neuman
p. cm.
Includes index.
ISBN 978-0-470-11463-6 (cloth)
1. Adultery. 2. Men—Psychology. 3. Men—Sexual behavior. I. Title.
HQ806.N48 2008
306.73'6081—dc22
2008017674
Printed in the United States of America
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For Fred Jonas, a teacher of unparalleled kindness,
wisdom, and humility
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contents
Acknowledgments ix
PART ONE
Why and How Men Cheat
1. This Book Will Change Your Marriage 3
2. The Real Reasons Men Cheat 15
QUICK ACTION PROGRAM
Step One: Keep Tabs on His Friends and Family 34
3. Warning Bells, Cheating Signals, and Lying Signs 43
QUICK ACTION PROGRAM
Step Two: Change the Cheating Signals 48
QUICK ACTION PROGRAM
Step Three: Get Involved in His Work and Play Lives 59
4. Understanding the Male Mind: Connecting Emotionally 63
QUICK ACTION PROGRAM
Step Four: Practice Emotional Giving 87
5. The Power of Sex 91
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viii CONTENTS
PART TWO
How to Improve Your Marriage
6. Insightful Change: The Inner Voice
Recognition Formula 115
QUICK ACTION PROGRAM
Step Five: Emotional Giving 134
QUICK ACTION PROGRAM
Step Six: Sex 148
7. Lessons from Successful Marriages 151
8. Caring for Yourself 161
9. Responding to Your Husband’s Love 171
QUICK ACTION PROGRAM
Step Seven: Finding the Time to Love 179
Epilogue: What We’ve Learned about What You Can Do 181
Appendix A: Will Therapy Help? 185
Appendix B: Healing after an Affair 193
Recommended Reading 209
Index 211
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