The First Relationship: Infant and Mother, With a New Introduction

192 Pages·2002·0.47 MB·english

by  Daniel N. Stern

The First Relationship

The First Relationship
INFANT AND MOTHER
Daniel N. Stern
WITH A NEW INTRODUCTION
HARVARD UNIVERSITY PRESS
Cambridge,Massachusetts
London,England
2002
Copyright©1977byDanielStern;copyright©2002
bythePresidentandFellowsofHarvardCollege
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10987654321
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Stern,DanielN.
Thefirstrelationship:infantandmother/DanielN.Stern.
p. cm.
Originallypublished:Cambridge:HarvardUniversityPress,1977.
Includesbibliographicalreferencesandindex.
ISBN0-674-00783-2(alk.paper)
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Formychildren
Michael,Maria,Kaia
Acknowledgments
The writing of this book owes much to discus-
sion with a number of colleagues and co-workers, and to the sug-
gestionsandcriticismstheyoffered.Inmostcasestheircontribution
relatesnotonlytothewritingof thebookbutalsototheyearsof
research and exchange of ideas that it is based on. I would like to
mentionespeciallyJosephJaffe,BeatriceBeebe,GailA.Wasserman,
Stephen Bennett, Sam Anderson, John Gibbon, J. Craig Peery, and
Liz Sharpless. I would also like to acknowledge Lawrence C. Kolb
andHowardF.Huntwho,inadditiontobeinginvaluablementors,
werecruciallyinstrumentalinmypursuitof thesestudies.Muchof
the research was supported by the William T. Grant Foundation;
The Research Foundation for Mental Hygiene, New York State;
andTheJaneHilderHarrisFoundation.Iamespeciallyindebtedto
PhyllisJacobsforhelpwiththepreparationof themanuscript,and
toSusanW.Bakerfortheunflaggingencouragementshehasgiven
inthewritingof thisbook.Mostof allIwanttopaytributetothe
parentswhohaveletuslearnfromthematfirsthand.

Contents
Introduction 1
1 Learning about Things Human 16
2 The Caregiver’s Repertoire 23
3 The Infant’s Repertoire 49
4 From Laboratory to Real Life 69
5 Where Do the Steps Lead? 91
6 Structure and Timing 97
7 From Interaction to Relationship 117
8 Missteps in the Dance 133
9 Finding Your Own Path 157
Notes 163
Index 171