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What is Meet Your Sweet?
Your new life starts today. With MeetYourSweet.com, you get the ultimate toolkit to
creating the success you crave in Life and Relationships.
We know that you’ve got the smarts to take care of most areas of your life. So why
should dating and relationships be any different?
That’s why we here at MeetYourSweet.com take a life coach’s perspective to romance.
We don’t want to give you a paint-by-numbers program or dumb down what it takes
to master REAL success.
Rather, our goal is to empower you by giving you the life skills that you need to
achieve a complete personal and social transformation…
…the kind that will have you feeling confident, secure, desirable, and powerful, no
matter what challenge you face!
We’ve done the research, and we know what works. Our non-manipulative approach
harnesses capacities that everyone has within them. Whether you’re male or female,
young or old, single or in a relationship, we can help you become the absolute best
you can be at relating with the opposite sex.
Just imagine it. Gone are the days of struggling to get a date. Gone are the days of
struggling to keep someone attracted. Gone are the days of worrying about whether
you’re good-looking enough, popular enough, or captivating enough to get attention
from the opposite sex!
With MeetYourSweet.com, you get expert advice from a team of the world’s greatest
writers, life coaches, and counselors in the field of dating and relationships.
Every Meet Your Sweet course includes collaborations with top names in the
field. Our team of contributing authors includes our very own Slade Shaw and
Mia Summers, as well as Amy Waterman from 000Relationships.com and Andrew
Rusbatch from SaveMyMarriageToday.com.
So kickstart your personal and social transformation with MeetYourSweet.com. We
look forward to hearing how our courses have changed YOU!
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Contents
Introduction 9
What Is Supreme Self-Confidence? 11
Personal Confidence 13
Self-Awareness 14
Create a Plan of Action 15
Journaling 15
Worry Time 15
Don’t Do This 16
Focus on the Now 16
A Quiet Mind 17
It’s All Up to You 17
What Happened to Anne 18
Self-Doubt and Being to Stick with Decisions 20
Making Decisions is a Process 20
How to Feel More Comfortable Making Decisions 21
Making Good Decisions 23
Feeling Comfortable with Your Decisions 25
What Happened to Jonathon 26
Significant Life Event 27
Be Kind to Yourself 27
Share Your Feelings 27
Seek Help 27
Reframe the Experience: From Failure to Opportunity 28
What Happened to Kevin 29
Getting Angry At Yourself 30
Why Self-Confidence Isn’t About Succeeding 30
Winning in the Game of Life 31
Be Kind to Yourself 33
What Happened to Sarah 34
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Depending Too Much on Other People’s Approval 35
Why We Care About What Other People Think 35
Walk in Someone Else’s Shoes 36
Making Criticism Work to Your Advantage 38
What Happened to Janie 41
Feeling Helpless 42
The Law of Attraction 42
Focus on What You Can Control 43
Forget About the Fear 44
What Happened to Sam 45
How Do I Become More Personally Confident TODAY? 46
Personal Confidence Review 46
Personal Confidence Challenge 47
Personal Confidence Goals 48
Social Confidence 49
Why People Lack Social Confidence
49
Social Identity and Life Direction 51
Life Coaching 52
Emotive Responses 52
Demonstrating Social Awareness 54
Dressing to Impress 57
Making Conversation 59
Reading Non-Verbal Signals 60
Conversation Routines 61
Keeping Conversation Flowing 62
Embarrassing Social Situations 64
What Happened To Alex? 65
Learning to Laugh 65
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Overcoming Shyness 67
What is Shyness? 67
Being Shy Doesn’t Mean You Have Low Self-Esteem 69
Being Shy Doesn’t Mean You Don’t Like People 70
Your Shyness Makes Others Shy 72
Shyness Solutions 73
What Doesn’t Work: Alcohol 73
Jumping Off the Deep End 74
Techniques for Small Talk 75
Controlling Nervousness 77
Visualization 78
Self-Hypnosis 79
How Do I Become More Socially Confident TODAY? 80
Social Confidence Review 80
Social Confidence Challenge 82
Social Confidence Goals 83
Professional Confidence 84
Work and Self-Confidence 84
When You’re at Work, You’re on a Different Planet 84
Confidence Outside of Work Doesn’t Mean Confidence At Work 85
The Stressors that Target You and Your Self-Confidence 86
Why Work Stresses Affect Your Self-Confidence 86
Choose Your Own Response 87
Disassociate Yourself from Results 92
What to Do in a High-Pressure Situation 94
Preparation is the Key 95
Set Your Own Standards for Professional Value by Valuing Yourself 97
I’m Just Not Worth That Much! 97
How to Stop Undervaluing Yourself 99
Stand Up to the Inner Critic 100
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Success and Failure: Why Taking Risks is Worth the Effort 101
How Do I Become More Professionally Confident TODAY? 105
Professional Confidence Review 105
Professional Confidence Challenge 106
Sexual Confidence 108
Why People Lack Sexual Confidence 109
What Doesn’t Work: Comparing Yourself to Others 109
What Doesn’t Work: Spending Money 110
Sexual Confidence Comes from Self-Knowledge 110
The Path to Greater Sexual Confidence 112
Breaking Old Habits that Sabotage Your Sexual Confidence 114
Break Your Fear of Rejection 115
What Happened to Cody 116
Unleash Your Sexual Energy 119
Masculinity and Femininity: The Keys to Attraction 119
For Men: Unleashing Your Masculine Self 121
For Men: 10 Tips to Become More Attractive to Women 123
For Women: Unleashing Your Feminine Self 125
For Women: 10 Tips to Become More Attractive to Men 127
Become Sexually Confident in Dating 130
Who Should I Be Interested In? Selecting a Potential Mate 130
Meeting and Approaching Someone New 134
How to Ignite Attraction 136
Be on the Same Wavelength 136
Flirting 137
Be Alone Together 138
Don’t Just Talk 138
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Nonsexual Touch 138
Dating: The “Real You” Emerges 139
From Commitment to Relationship and Beyond 142
1. Clinginess and the “She’s Turning Into Me!” Phenomenon 142
2. Love interest on the scene: life goes on hold 143
3. Do you love me? Do you love me yet? Do you love me now? How about now? 143
4. The Best Mindset to Have 145
5. Ways to Deepen Your Connection in a Relationship 146
How Do I Become More Sexually Confident TODAY? 148
Sexual Confidence Review 148
Sexual Confidence Challenge 150
Sexual Confidence Goals 151
Concrete Confidence-Building Techniques 152
Stress: How It Affects Your Confidence and What to Do About It 153
A Quick Introduction to Stress 155
Physical Relaxation Techniques 159
Controlled Breathing 159
Progressive Muscular Relaxation 160
Mental Relaxation Techniques 161
Visualization 162
Meditation 163
Setting Goals: Why It’s Important and How to Do It 167
Setting SMART Goals 168
Specific 168
Measurable 169
Achievable 170
Realistic 170
Timely 171
What Is a SWOT Analysis? 172
How to Fill Out a SWOT Analysis 173
Strengths 173
Weaknesses 173
Opportunities 173
Threats 174
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What to Do with the End Result 174
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy: 175
Changing Your Thoughts to Increase Your Confidence 175
Benefits of Volunteering 177
What’s Involved in Volunteer Work 178
Deciding What Type of Volunteer Work Suits You Best 179
Where to Start Looking 179
How Do I Become More Confident TODAY? 181
Confidence Techniques Review 181
Confidence Techniques Challenge 182
Best of Luck… 183
Classic Confidence-Building Resources 184
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Introduction
A lack of self confidence has a tremendous negative impact on your life.
When you lack self confidence, you’re compromising your career, your friendships,
your relationships, your social life in general, and your life overall.
Self confidence is absolutely central to getting ahead in life – and I’m not just talking
about tangible accomplishments like getting that pay rise, promotion, or beautiful
partner.
I’m also talking about the intangibles that make life worth living, like the ability
to relax … the ability to feel secure … the ability to simply like and appreciate
yourself.
After all, it’s difficult to enjoy life when you’re always questioning your own talents
and doubting your abilities!
True self confidence doesn’t stem from achievements. It doesn’t stem from winning
awards. It doesn’t stem from receiving compliments.
It all starts from a belief in yourself and your own, innate talents and abilities.
Not what other people say; not how you’ve reacted to situations in the past; and not
the outcomes of those situations.
It’s self belief. And that is exactly what I’m going to help you to attain.
My name is Slade Shaw, and I’m here to help you achieve Supreme Self-Confidence
by taking a look at the skills you ALREADY possess … and showing you a new way
of thinking and acting that will lead to a greater feeling of confidence than you have
ever known.
If you feel competent and capable in just one thing, then you can enjoy that same
feeling in ANY activity you embark upon!
Imagine … feeling 100% confident in your ability to enjoy a relaxed first date,
make a difficult presentation, interview for a job, socialize at a party, or learn a new
skill.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve never been able to feel confident in those situations before.
The techniques and ideas that I am going to teach you will help you build a feeling
of confidence that will NEVER leave you, no matter what situation you’re in or
what’s required of you!
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