SmartHelp for Good 'n' Angry Kids: Teaching Children to Manage Anger

223 Pages·2009·1.97 MB·English

by  Frank Jacobelli

SmartHelp For Good ‘n’ Angry Kids

SmartHelp For Good ‘n’ Angry Kids
Teaching Children to Manage Anger
Frank Jacobelli and Lynn Ann Watson
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For Margaret Rose and Barbara Ann, for loving so well
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No book, including this one, can replace the services of a qualified health professional.
Please use this book to teach your child to improve his or her behavior, and to help you
in communicating with your child’s doctor and/or mental health professional so you and
yourchildcanobtainthebestcarepossible.Ifyoususpectyourchild’sbehaviororthought
processisadangertohimself/herselforsomeoneelse,seekmedicalattentionforyourchild
withoutdelay.
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Contents
AbouttheAuthors xi
Foreword xiii
Acknowledgments xv
1 Introducing SmartHelp for Good ‘n’ Angry Kids 1
2 Making Sense of Anger 5
3 Major Theories about Anger: A Brief, Annotated Guide 15
4 Character: Factory Installed or Add-On Equipment? 19
5 The Labeling of Children: When Anger Leads to Diagnosis 29
6 Reaching and Teaching the Angry Child—And How to Stay
Sane in the Process 39
7 Learning Styles and Why They Matter 51
8 Kaytlin, Thomas, Lena, and Manny: A Few of Our Angry
Kids 57
9 Before You Begin 73
Workbook A Logical-Mathematical 79
ThisThing CalledAnger 81
Mein theMirror 83
WaltLearnstoWait 85
FiguringOutWhoIAm 87
CracktheCoolCode 89
BonnieCanBalance 91
Workbook B Bodily-Kinesthetic 93
Snack-Food forThought 95
FrankFeelstheFire 97
CountingtoCalm 99
Rockhound Rhonda 101
Don’tBlowIt 103
PaulHitstheWall 105
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S Workbook C Intrapersonal 107
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E Brenda in a Bag 109
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N Ray on theRise 111
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My Three FavoriteThings 113
ColorYouCalm 115
When Gary GetsGoing 117
Ben BeatstheBlahs 119
Workbook D Interpersonal 121
SizzlingSimon 123
‘I,’ ‘I,’Irene 125
HannahAsksfor Help 127
Mirroring Matthew 129
PlayingItCool 131
ChuckChecks ItOut 133
Workbook E Musical-Rhythmic 135
Larry’s Lyrics toLive By 137
Rappin’ RandyRaps ItOut 139
Bobby Keeps theBeat 141
Sam’sSecret Saying 143
Rockin’ Ricky 145
Shake ItOutYourShoes 147
Workbook F Visual-Spatial 149
Mike’s Magic Bike 151
WhatBugsYou? 153
PuttingFeelingstoFaces 155
The Train thatCould 157
Vinnieon Video 159
Picture This 161
Workbook G Verbal-Linguistic 163
‘AllorNothing’Alex 165
Havea TalkWithYourself 167
Keep it Simple,Sam 169
Sarah Says‘I’m Sorry’ 171
WhatI ReallyMean toSay 173
Carla’sCool FriendConnie 175
Workbook H Naturalist 177
Tip oftheIceberg 179
Andrea’sAntHill 181
Spencer inSpace 183
Vic, theVolcano 185
Stella Sees Stars 187
Felicia FindstheForest 189
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