Sexual Rapport Modeling. Situational Opener Technology

57 Pages·0.525 MB·English

by  Jagger Keanu J.

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Sexual Rapport Modeling

Situational Opener Technology

First Edition

By Keanu J. Jagger

Table of Contents

Table of Contents
Situational Opener Technology
Introduction
Modeling The Best
Getting The Skills
Chapter 1: Eight Beliefs For Opening
Introduction
Belief #1. Women Are Friendly
Belief #2. No One Is Looking At You
Belief #3. Women Like Sex
Belief #4. You Are Not Your Past
Belief #5. Women Are Not A Task
Belief #6. Expertise Comes With Experience
Belief #7. Expertise Comes With Experimentation
Belief #8. You Place Importance On The Process
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The Eight Belief Affirmations
Chapter 2: State Control
Introduction
Playfulness
Playful Exercise #1
Playful Exercise #2
Situational Comfort
Situational Comfort Exercise #1
Situational Comfort Exercise #2
Outward Focus Versus Inward Focus
Flipping the Switch
Throwaway Opener
You Start the Day Back at Zero
State Control Rules To Remember
Chapter 3: Where To Find Women
Introduction
Bookstores
Grocery Stores
Target And Walmart
The Gym
Coffee Shops
Lectures
Malls
Subways
Downtown
The Beach
Clubs and bars
Campuses
Chapter 4: Informational Openers
Introduction
Five Approaches a Day
Get In And Get Out
Keep a Journal
Approach From The Front
Propulsion Notes
Informational Opener Rules to Remember
Chapter 5: Observation Question Openers
Introduction
Building Up The Suspense
What About Your Intentions?
Exercise #1: Brainstorm
Exercise #2: Three Openers a Day
Observation Question Openers Rules to Remember
Chapter 6: Compliment Openers
Introduction
The Delivery
Element One: Give Specific Compliments
Element Two: How She Affected You
Some Examples
Element Three: Pacing
Taking It Away
Exercise #1: Brainstorm
Exercise #2: Three Openers a Day
Using Visualization Rehearsal
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Don’t Wait For a Sign
Compliment Openers Rules to Remember
Chapter 7: Opinion Openers
Introduction
“Apples or Oranges” Structure
Hooking Them In
“What’s your opinion?” Structure
Exercise: Three Openers
Opinion Openers Rules to Remember
Chapter 8: Opening Groups
Introduction
Opening Groups of Girls
Opening a Girl With a Guy
Opening a Girl With a Group of Guys
Chapter 9: Tease Openers
Introduction
Some Examples of Tease Openers
The Three Rules
Opinion-Tease Combination
Exercise #1: Brainstorm
Exercise #2: Open
Tease Opener Rules to Remember
Chapter 10: Opening Beautiful Women
Introduction
Women’s Sociability
Your Sociability
Perceiving Women’s Value
Chapter 11: Handling “Rejection”
Introduction
The Rare Situation
Turning Around Rejection
Chapter 12: Common Questions Answered
Introduction
What If I’m Caught Off Guard?
Should I Play Aloof?
Should I Go Alone Or With Friends?
What About Women Who Are Walking?
What Will Others Think?
Signing Off

Situational Opener Technology

Introduction

I’m excited to introduce to you my new Sexual Rapport Modeling series Situational Opener
Technology.

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What Sexual Rapport Modeling does is look beyond the normal surface social dynamics in
human interaction. For example, you’ve probably heard all kinds of contradictory advice on
how to interact with women. There’s the sloppy school of thought to “just be yourself,”
which tells you nothing. Then you have a whole market of books on “flirting” but they don’t
explain the psychological principles behind how flirting works.

You have simplistic sociobiology models that explain men are after young women with wide
hips and women are after successful men with good paying jobs… even though we all
know financially successful men who have trouble meeting women while another guy living
in their Mom’s basement has no trouble getting girlfriends.

You have the traditional dating model that explains men should beg and buy their way into
a woman’s favor.

So you have all these very primitive models and none of them go beyond surface level,
basic observations. All of these models are theories that try to describe the world but do so
poorly and imperfectly. None of these models are going to show you how to be a happy,
healthy individual with lots of women friends.

In fact, given how important communication is in today’s world, little research has been
done into how to move people into sexual rapport. Today we have new breakthroughs and
technologies in almost every scientific field, but there’s been little progress recently in the
field of human development and the way in which we change our behaviors. You can’t find
a single school or classroom for advice, training, or education in this area for getting sexual
rapport with others.

Modeling The Best

I came up with Situational Opener Technology because I wanted to make changes in my
own life. I wondered why you can have two people who seem pretty similar on the surface
– same looks, same money – and yet one seems to have a terrible time approaching
women and the other seems like women are just magnetically attracted to him.

I ended up reading 2 or 3 books a month on how to become better with women and tried to
dump as much knowledge as I could into my mind but I found little that was really helpful.
In fact, some of the things I read only held me BACK.

It really clicked for me when I began MODELING the top guys “in the field” and combining
together everything what worked for them. I realized that when people succeed it’s
because they’re doing the same things over and over again. So instead of trying to
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reinvent the wheel, I went out and modeled only the people who were already getting
results. I found people who were good in meeting women and guys who seemed to have
the woman of their dreams. That way I was able to take what they were doing, apply the
same behaviors and actions to my own life, and get the same results. As a result of taking
some simple, easily learnable actions I met more women than I had thought was possible.

Sexual Rapport Modeling is a sweeping model based on a collection of other peoples’
models, and modeled only on what works. That way it’s always changing, always
developing, always improving.

Situational Opener Technology is an extension of this model. And I call it “Situational”
because I’ll show you exactly how to open women for different situations, meaning you
open based on the surrounding context of the situation.

Getting The Skills

Now, you want to be able to meet women anytime, anywhere. Progress comes from
consistent focus and concentrating your power to make little breakthroughs daily and
through that gradual method of learning you can completely transform your life. Because
anything you focus on on a consistent, daily basis, you’ll find yourself improving 1000% and
whatever you put your focus on you’ll find you manifest in your life.

And by making small steps every day you’ll be able to open women without fear and
hesitation and get good responses on a consistent, ongoing basis. And I’ll show you the
skills of how to get those responses more quickly than you ever imagined you could before.

Chapter 1: Eight Beliefs For Opening

Introduction

Now, in order to approach and open women effectively, you need to have certain beliefs
about how the world is and about how women are. The fact is we’re raised with all sorts of
beliefs that short-circuit us from being able to approach and open women.

What I’ve done is broken down the beliefs you want to have that will help allow you to
approach women without hesitation or fear.

Belief #1. Women Are Friendly

Belief number one. Human beings are friendly creatures, and that goes for attractive
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women as well.

I’m always surprised by the friendliness of responses I get from women when I approach
them. Even if you approach a woman with a scowl across her face, as long as you come
across as a genuinely warm, friendly, and playful person, a woman will take your lead and
follow you into that state.

Don’t underestimate how hypnotizable people in general are. If you approach a woman
who is upbeat and happy, and you come across as being down and sad, you’ll tend to drag
her into that negative state with you. But if you come across as upbeat and fun, she’ll get a
small high just from meeting you.

I’ve found that 97% of the time, women are friendly when you approach and open them.
They won’t turn their backs on you or insult you for no reason. Human beings are not like
that. None of us, men or women, want to come across as total jerks.

One of the self-sabotaging beliefs a lot of guys have is this idea that beautiful women have
their heads up their butts, that beautiful women are “bitches”. A lot of guys have this us-
versus-them attitude, like approaching a beautiful woman is asking for a fight with someone
with a bad attitude.

The fact is, this belief is just pure baloney, your imagination run amuck. Women are from
the same planet you’re from. They need love and acceptance just like everybody else.

Belief #2. No One Is Looking At You

Belief number two. When you approach a woman, NO ONE IS LOOKING AT YOU! No
one cares. It’s all in your head! Get over it!

Reality flash: the world does not revolve around you. People are not watching your every
move. Other people are too busy thinking about their OWN problems than thinking about
yours.

In fact, even if someone is looking at you, how do they know that you don’t already know
this woman you’re approaching, how do they know that this woman you’re approaching isn’t
already your friend. The only reason they would suspect anything is if you approach her
nervously and awkwardly.

As long as you approach women comfortably, in a relaxed manner, no one looking at you
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would know what you’re doing or what your relationship with the woman is.

Ever approach a woman where your physiological signs tell other people that she’s just
you’re little sister. Because you’re so relaxed about it, so natural about it. And that kind of
approach, where you’re that relaxed, is VERY sexy to women.

Belief #3. Women Like Sex

Belief number three. Women LIKE sex. Women WANT to meet men that turn them on and
make them feel sexy.

In fact, women’s capacity for sexual pleasure is much greater than a man’s. Women have
an organ, the clitoris, whose only purpose is that of sexual pleasure. And concentrated in
that little spot the size of a pea, are packed as many pleasure-feeling nerve endings than
on the entire male penis.

Behind closed doors, women LIKE to talk about sex as much as men do. Behind closed
doors, women like dirty talk in bed as much as men do. Behind closed doors, women are
more open to bisexuality and sexual experimentation than men are.

However, women are taught by society to hide their sexual desires from public view. They
feel pressure from their friends and family not to be a “slut”. Women are taught to look sexy
and yet not to be openly sexual beings in public.

As a result, on the surface, women may seem prudish, may seem like sex is not on their
minds. But the fact is, when you get a girl into the bedroom, they’re usually much, much
wilder than you may have expected at first as long as you make them comfortable with
expressing their sexuality.

The fact is women want sex, they want to meet a man who is not bound by the normal
social rules, and they want to meet a man who will give her permission to be sexually open
in bed.

Belief #4. You Are Not Your Past

Belief number four. You are not your past. The past does not equal the future.

I don’t care if in the past you’ve had trouble approaching women. I don’t care if in the past,
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you were nervous around women.

Look the past is over. It doesn’t exist anymore. The past is a hallucination, a movie inside
your head. Yes, the past can be reference to help you make good decisions in the here,
the right now, but the past doesn’t need to control you.

Today you can be a totally new person. Today you can do things or act in new ways that
aren’t normally “you”.

I mean what’s holding you back from today saying, “The past is over. Today I’m going to
be a new man. Today I’m going to be a new person. Today I’m going to be the kind of
person who approaches and opens beautiful women successfully.”

Yeah, your friends, your family they have expectations about the kind of person you’re
supposed to be… about certain ways you’re supposed to act. But you don’t exist simply to
please them, to fit a confining role of what they’re comfortable with.

All through our lives we’re changing, growing, maturing, expanding our possibilities of who
we are. You can use your past as a guide to help you navigate through the world, but it’s
not healthy to let it control you, or let what others think how you should be or act control
you. That’s living in a self-imposed prison.

So if you want to be able to approach women, you have to have this belief that you can
grow, learn, and change, and that just because you acted one way yesterday, doesn’t
mean you have to act that way today or tomorrow or next week or next year.

Today, tomorrow, next week, and next year, you can become a new person, a new person
who has abundance in his life. And just because you failed yesterday or the 10 days before
that, or the 100 days before that, what happened in the past does not equal what is going to
happen today. All that matters is what you’re going to do right now.

Belief #5. Women Are Not A Task

Belief number five. Do not view approaching women as a task.

Meeting women is a chore for most men. They feel pressure or feel they need to achieve
something or have their egos boosted. Instead, approaching women should be fun, playful,
something that you like to do, because you want to get to know this person in front of you
and find out who this person really is and what they’re really like. If you view the woman in
front of you as a task, as a goal to be achieved, you only serve in objectifying them which
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breaks rapport.

Imagine you meet a girl at a bar and she only sees you as a dollar sign. She only wants to
know how much money you make. In her mind she’s talking to you simply to a fulfill a goal
of finding a rich sugar-daddy and not there to get to know you. Women pick up on the
same thing when you see them as a mere task.

So, yes you can be determined in your goals, but be playful. Don’t view approaching
women as seduction but rather, as Sexual Rapport Modeling suggests, as an opportunity to
get sexual rapport with this person and create a genuine connection between you and her.

Belief #6. Expertise Comes With Experience

Belief number six. You must be in the field.

You cannot become good at opening with women and expect to have certainty of outcome.
You cannot have certainty of outcome in advance of experience.

It is only in the field that we find the truth. Because theory is just that; theory… utopianism
and idealism. We can talk theory all day until we’re blue in the face but it’s only with raw
experience do you learn the nuances of approaching women, only with raw experience do
you learn the relaxed confidence you need for having success.

You cannot understand Situational Opener Technology without being in the field doing it.
Your understanding can begin with this series. But there is little room for memorization.
There is little room for being an intellectual about this.

And the fact is, we’re trained all of our lives to be academics. Many of us tend to have the
disease of intellectualism, and infatuation with ideas that conform to preconceptions and
simplified categories at the expense of experience.

The reality is you’re going to have to approach women to get good at this. And you can’t
expect to be able to walk up to a beautiful woman whenever you want to unless you’re
freshly practiced, unless walking up to people and engaging them is part of your everyday
experience and what you do as a human being. Think of it as like exercising a muscle.
You can’t expect to bench your own weight on the first day you hit the gym. You have to
start out easy and build that muscle up over time.

Fortunately, this program starts you out with simple exercises you can do to build that
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approach opening muscle. I don’t just make you approach a bunch of women on the very
first day. Follow the exercises and you’ll be able to progress steadily. Follow the exercises
and without book study or memorization the skills you need will become automatic.

You’ve already made an investment in this program which means you’re ten times further
along than 99% of the people out there. The fact that you were willing to take action tells
me that you’re willing to take more actions to succeed. And it’s only by taking action and by
doing the exercises that you’ll find success.

Belief #7. Expertise Comes With Experimentation

Belief number seven. Everything you do is an experiment.

With approaching women, you HAVE to have a mentality of experimentation. You have to
be open to feedback and willing to make mistakes. The whole point is to go out into the
world and screw up everything I give you.

After all, do you know someone who wants to change their life but doesn’t do it? The
bottom line is knowledge is not enough. You have to be able to follow through. You have
to be able to consistently take action. If you don’t have that mentality of experimentation
you get stuck. You can’t just hope that everything will turn out okay. That’s what most
people do – they don’t have what they want and just keep hoping everything will change for
the better.

No, you have to study success and you can only become success’ student by
experimenting. I like to think of it as I’m practicing all the time. I like to think of it as I’m
lucky there’s so many attractive women out there and the world is my big computer
simulation that I can run all sorts of tests on. I’m learning all the time, I’m bettering my
social skills all the time. Every day is an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve.

Belief #8. You Place Importance On The Process

Belief number eight. You do not place any particular importance to any one approach
opener or to any one woman.

Do NOT place attachment on a particular interaction or on a particular woman. When you
do so, you’re only shutting down the process of becoming a social individual and of getting
rapport. When you place importance in any one woman or approach you’re only short
circuiting the learning process that requires repetition and experimentation. You’re
throwing your energy and intent in one direction when it needs to be thrown in another.
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