Table Of ContentOPEN HER
Activate 7 masculine Powers
to Arouse Your Woman’s Love and Desire
Karen Brody
DreamStream Press
San Francisco
Copyright © 2014 by Karen Brody
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or utilized, in any form or by any means,
electronic or mechanical, without prior permission in writing from the publisher.
Published in 2014 by Dream Stream Press, San Francisco
ISBN-13: 978-0615972329
ISBN-10: 0615972322
Cover design by Vanessa No Heart
Book design by Tom Crockett
Open Her: Activate 7 Masculine Powers to Arouse Your Woman’s Love and Desire is not meant as a
substitute for counseling. The author is not dispensing medical or psychological advice. Whenever
there is a concern about physical or emotional illness, a qualified professional should be consulted.
The author shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any
loss, damage, injury, or ailment caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by the
information or lack of information in this book.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Foreword
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter One: The Artist
Chapter Two: The Poet
Chapter Three: The Director
Chapter Four: The Warrior
Chapter Five: The Sage
Chapter Six: The Dark Knight
Chapter Seven: The Lover
Conclusion
About the Author
FOREWORD
Sexuality is a treasure trove, but it's also a minefield. It's the one life arena that's fraught with both
incredible primal energy, and also the possibility for endless pain and shame. And that's just within an
individual–once partners are involved everything becomes even more heightened. To navigate this
potent, tricky terrain, we need impeccable guidance. That's why I was so excited when asked to write
the forward for Karen Brody's book. Karen and I met, and have found great common ground as
educators of sexual and emotional intimacy.
I trust Karen's approach to sexuality and relationships, and deeply respect the message she has to
share with men. When it comes to practical insights that unleash the transformative potential of
sexuality within intimate relationships, this book is the gold standard.
What it's not: A way to get women into bed, or a way to get them to better serve your desires.
What it is: A guide for evoking ecstatic sexual union with your partner.
Karen understands that such union is first and foremost about oneself, and that when a man learns
how to open to his own unfettered masculine energy, only then is he capable of truly loving his
partner, and of calling forth the same true love from her.
Getting there, even to the point of knowing the value of such a path, is not an easy road for most
of us men. The rough combination of testosterone and cultural conditioning finds us, when relating to
women, in the mode of hot pursuit. We want to conquer, possess, ‘get’ ours. All of which tends to shut
most women down rather than open them up.
To make matters worse, few of us have the combination of looks and swagger necessary to pull
off the kind of misguided seduction we crave. As a result, we're either left empty-handed or
unsatisfied with the women we ensnare.
I experienced all of this personally in my teens and twenties. From an early age I felt both blessed
and cursed by the amount of sexual energy that coursed through me. I had a wild sex life, but all on
my own. That's because the women I wanted only wanted to be my best friend, and the women who
wanted me I didn't want at all.
The resulting isolation, and sexual frustration, created a dark storm at the center of my existence.
Luckily, I found my way to a great therapist. One day, I was complaining to her about how women
only wanted James Dean, and how I could never be him.
My therapist asked me what qualities I attributed to James Dean. I told her that Dean (or really the
archetype he represented) exuded such raw sexual energy that all he had to do was lean against a wall
and women would throw themselves at him. At this point my therapist caught me totally off-guard.
"Would you like to meet your own inner James Dean?" she asked. I felt shocked, confused,
challenged. What was she even talking about?
Using a practice called Voice Dialogue, my therapist had me move to another seat and began
talking to me as if I was actually James Dean. When I joined in the dialogue, much to my surprise, I
started to feel sexually confident. I could tell that I was radiating sexual energy in a new way, one that
wasn't so bound up in fear and doubt.
Then came the kicker. My therapist went silent. She just looked at me. It took me a few seconds to
realize that she was allowing her own sexual energy to enter the space between us in a palpable way. I
felt wanted by her, as a man, as a sexual man, while knowing full well this was also a completely safe
experiment.
We stayed in this incredibly charged silent gaze for at least five minutes. I can honestly say it
changed my life.
But not in the way you might imagine.
I didn't go from feeling undesirable to supremely confident in my sexual attractiveness. Instead, I
knew that the channels for sexual energy in me had just burst wide open. Before, my sexual energy
was like a tsunami inside a garden hose–insistent, overpowering, focused narrowly on escape and
release.
Now, the generative power of sexuality spread to every part of me like the waves of an infinite
ocean. Its waves seemed made of light, illuminating every aspect of my being ripe for discovery and
fulfillment.
Through sexuality, you might say, I gave birth to a new self, one that unleashed the man I'd
always longed to be. This was also a man that women wanted naturally–the right women–and a man
who could meet them in erotic connection without halting or hiding.
Which brings us back to this book. Besides being an exquisitely reliable guide in the realm of
satisfying sexual connection, Karen is also a writer of great grace and insight. She shares from a
fascinating feminine perspective all of those things women long for and so seldom find in their men.
She makes incredibly complex themes come to life in a clear, accessible way.
Karen has developed a schema for opening yourself that cultivates what she calls the “Seven
Masculine Archetypes.” I didn't know it at the time, but in the aftermath of what happened with my
therapist, that's what I did. Only I stumbled a lot in the process, and would have been enormously
grateful to have this book as a companion on the journey.
That's exactly what you have in your hands, a true companion on the journey of awakening
yourself, and also your love life. Either one would be enough. Together, they're irresistible.
Raphael Cushnir
July, 2013,
Portland, Oregon
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I’d like to offer my deep, heartfelt appreciation to the following people, without whom this book and
teachings would not be possible.
First, thank you to my mother, Gail, who passed away just before this book made it to
publication. I wouldn’t have the strength to walk this path had it not been for you and what I learned
from you about men and love.
To my sister, Lisa, who’s unending support and belief in me gives me a place to call home in the
world.
Thank you, my dear Jay. This book couldn’t have happened without you. You saw me so clearly
and gave me the courage to step into my life’s work. May you rest in peace. To Stephen, thank you for
the amazing adventure, the heartbreak and the love. Fernando, your devotion, love and support helped
bring this book to life.
To Tom Crockett, my creative editor, thank you for your masculine direction, your brilliant
insights, and for providing the masculine practices that accompany the opportunities in each chapter.
They’re simply gold. Your belief in this project, and your consistent encouragement and feedback,
made it possible for me overcome many hurdles and cross the finish line.
Thank you Raphael Cushnir for seeing the beauty in Open Her through your heart, and for
writing a forward that inspires the awakened, masculine potential within every man.
Thank you, Betsy Blondin, for your excellent proofreading, and Vanessa No Heart for your
brilliant, stunning cover design.
And thank you to these special friends who contributed in a variety of key ways to this book’s
completion: Kimmy, Lisa M, Adva, Allen, Gerard, Aysha, Peter O, Manny, Pattie C, Steve T, and
Michelle K.
And a special thanks to all the men who hurt me enough, through love, to inspire this book and its
wisdom.
