On Loving, Hating, and Living Well: The Public Psychoanalytic Lectures of Ralph R. Greenson

382 Pages·2016·4.998 MB·English

by  Robert A. Nemiroff, Alan Sugarman, Alvin Robbins

On LOving, Hating, and Living WeLL

On LOving, Hating,
and Living WeLL
The Public Psychoanalytic Lectures
of Ralph R. Greenson
Edited by
Robert A. Nemiroff, Alan Sugarman,
and Alvin Robbins
KARNAC
First published in 1992 by International Universities Press, Inc.
“dying is fine) but Death” is reprinted from XAIPE by E.E. Cummings, edited
by George James Firmage, by permission of Liveright Publishing Corporation.
Copyright 1950 by E.E. Cummings. Copyright ©1979, 1978, 1973 by Nancy T.
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is also made to MacGibbon & Kee, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers
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Dedication
This book is dedicated to the memory of Ralph R. Green
son, M.D., extraordinary clinician, creative scholar, and inspir
ing teacher; and to his family: his beloved wife Hildi and their
children, Daniel and his wife Barbara and Joan and her hus
band Andy, who keep the memory of this unique man vital for all
of us.

Table of Contents
Acknowledgments IX
The Man and His Life x1
The Public Lectures x1x
1. Misunderstandings of Psychoanalysis (1955) 1
2. Apathy, Boredom, and Miltown (1958) 15
3. People Who Hate (1960) 25
4. The Conflict Between Psychoanalysis and
Religion (1960) 41
5. Sleep, Dreams, and Death (1961) 57
6. Varieties of Love (1961) 85
7. Emotional Involvement-Genuine and
Counterfeit (1961) 101
8. Why Men Like War (1963) 123
9. Laughter and Tears (1963) 149
10. Masculinity and Femininity Reconsidered (1965) 163
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11. Sex Without Passion (1966) 173
12. The Fascination of Violence (1968) 185
13. Why People Hate Psychoanalysis (1970) 201
14. Hate in the Happy Family (1970) 213
15. The Dread and Love of Death (1971) 225
16. Boredom, American Style (1971) 235
17. A MCP Freudian Psychoanalyst Confronts Women's
Lib (1972) 249
18. Sophie Portnoy Finally Answers Back (1972) 271
19. Jealousy, Envy, and Possessiveness (1973) 281
20. Crisis in Adult Life: Prevention and Survival (1974) 297
21. The Devil Made Me Do It, Dr. Freud (1974) 313
22. You Only Live Twice (1975) 325
23. Beyond Sexual Satisfaction ... ? (1976) 339
24. People in Search of a Family (1978) 351
Acknowledgments
We deeply appreciate and take this opportunity to acknowl
edge the considerable help we received in the preparation of this
book. Foremost, of course, was the invaluable contribution of
Hildi Greenson, who provided us with beautifully edited tran
scripts of the lectures themselves and many hours of inspiration
as well as assistance with proofreading and correction of bio
graphical facts. Daniel Greenson too was especially generous with
his time and thoughtful advice.
The style and cohesiveness of our words benefited immeasur
ably from the editorial skills of Barbara Blomgren, whose help we
and other colleagues at The University of California, San Diego
(UCSD), have appreciated over the years. Phyllis Baumgart,
administrative coordinator of psychiatric residency training at
UCSD, graciously coordinated many aspects of manuscript prep
aration. Joyce Harding, administrator of the San Diego Psy
choanalytic Institute, kindly provided access to important
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