My Secret Garden

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by  Nancy Friday

Cover Page: v
Title Page Page: v
Copyright Page: vi
Dedication Page: vii
Contents Page: viii
INTRODUCTION: FORTY YEARS IN THE GARDEN Page: xiv
1. “TELL ME WHAT YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT,” HE SAID. Page: 1
2. “WHY FANTASIZE WHEN YOU HAVE ME?” Page: 15
FRUSTRATION: Page: 15
Madge Page: 15
Dot Page: 17
INSUFFICIENCY: Page: 20
Louella Page: 20
Irene Page: 22
Annette Page: 23
Maria Page: 26
SEX ENHANCEMENT: Page: 26
Patricia Page: 28
Suzanne Page: 31
FOREPLAY: Page: 35
Bertha Page: 37
Bellinda Page: 37
APPROVAL: Page: 41
Sally Page: 43
Vicki Page: 44
Francesca Page: 46
Sondra Page: 50
EXPLORATION: Page: 51
Karen Page: 52
Abbie Page: 55
Hilda Page: 56
Heather Page: 58
Kitty Page: 59
SEXUAL INITIATIVE: Page: 60
Carol Page: 64
Faye Page: 66
INSATIABILITY: Page: 69
Clarissa Page: 70
Annabel Page: 73
Iris Page: 73
Nora Page: 74
DAYDREAMS: Page: 76
Corinne Page: 77
Molly Page: 79
Alicia Page: 80
Lily Page: 82
Eliza Page: 84
Esther Page: 84
Shirley Page: 84
Lillian Page: 85
Viola Page: 85
MASTURBATION: Page: 86
Patsy Page: 89
Norma Page: 90
Adair Page: 94
Mary Beth Page: 94
Elizabeth Page: 95
Mary Jane Page: 96
Amelia Page: 96
Alix Page: 97
THE LESBIANS: Page: 101
Marion Page: 102
Jeanne Page: 105
Lisa Page: 108
Zizi Page: 109
Kate Page: 111
Anna Page: 114
Susan Page: 119
Melanie Page: 121
3. THE HOUSE OF FANTASY Page: 124
ROOM NUMBER ONE: Anonymity, or, “Taken by the Faceless Stranger” Page: 126
Linda Page: 127
Pamela Page: 131
Marie Page: 132
ROOM NUMBER TWO: The Audience Page: 136
Caroline Page: 137
Elspeth Page: 141
Mary Jo Page: 141
Melanie Page: 141
Celeste Page: 142
ROOM NUMBER THREE: Rape, or, “Don’t Just Stand There, Force Me!” Page: 146
Julietta Page: 147
Gail Page: 149
Dinah Page: 152
Sadie Page: 154
ROOM NUMBER FOUR: Pain and Masochism, or, “Ouch, Don’t Stop!” Page: 155
Barbara Page: 156
Edith Page: 162
Rose Ann Page: 163
Amanda Page: 164
ROOM NUMBER FIVE: Domination, or, “How Humiliating! Thank You.” Page: 166
Nathalie Page: 168
Poppy Page: 174
Heather Page: 176
Ingrid Page: 180
ROOM NUMBER SIX: The Sexuality of Terror, or, “Help! I’m Out of Control, Thank God!” Page: 181
Johanna Page: 183
Anne Page: 186
ROOM NUMBER SEVEN: The Thrill of the Forbidden, or, “No, You Must Not!... Here, Let Me Help You.” Page: 188
Emma Page: 190
Donna Page: 192
ROOM NUMBER EIGHT: The Transformation Room, or, “Life Can Be Beautiful.” Page: 193
Monica Page: 194
Betty Page: 199
Phyllis Page: 200
ROOM NUMBER NINE: The Earth Mother Room Page: 204
Vivian Page: 205
Marina Page: 207
ROOM NUMBER TEN: Incest Page: 209
Bella Page: 210
Dominique Page: 214
Lola Page: 215
ROOM NUMBER ELEVEN: The Zoo Page: 217
Jo Page: 219
Rosie Page: 221
Dawn Page: 221
Wanda Page: 222
ROOM NUMBER TWELVE: Big Black Men Page: 225
Margie Page: 226
Raquel Page: 228
Lydia Page: 229
ROOM NUMBER THIRTEEN: Young Boys Page: 230
Evelyn Page: 231
Victoria Page: 232
ROOM NUMBER FOURTEEN: The Fetishists Page: 233
Faith Page: 234
ROOM NUMBER FIFTEEN: Other Women Page: 235
Christine Page: 240
Dolly Page: 242
Bee Page: 244
Venice Page: 245
Lilly Page: 245
Rita Page: 245
Mary Beth Page: 246
Viv Page: 246
Lee Page: 247
Willa Page: 247
Dana Page: 247
Cara Page: 248
Celia Page: 248
Theresa Page: 250
Tania Page: 251
Michelle Page: 252
Sandra Page: 253
Patty Page: 254
Stella Page: 257
Claire Page: 258
Gwen Page: 261
Rebecca Page: 264
ROOM NUMBER SIXTEEN: Prostitution, or, “Sadie Thompson Doesn’t Live Here Anymore.” Page: 266
4. “WHERE DID A NICE GIRL LIKE YOU GET AN IDEA LIKE THAT?” Page: 268
CHILDHOOD: Page: 268
Theda Page: 273
Lindsay Page: 274
Fiona Page: 274
Felicia Page: 275
Sonia Page: 276
Phyllis Page: 276
Marlene Page: 277
Kay Page: 278
Trudy Page: 279
Mona Page: 279
Stella Page: 282
SOUNDS: Page: 283
June Page: 284
Nina Page: 285
Meg Page: 286
Holly Page: 286
Evie Page: 287
WOMEN DO LOOK: Page: 288
Fay Page: 292
Sukie Page: 292
Constance Page: 292
Deana Page: 293
Anna Page: 293
Vera Page: 294
Una Page: 294
Lois Page: 295
Liz Page: 295
Winona Page: 295
Ruby Page: 296
Gale Page: 296
Imogene Page: 296
Francine Page: 296
April Page: 297
Myrna Page: 297
Laurie Page: 298
Jeanie Page: 298
SEEING AND READING: Page: 298
Mary Jane Page: 301
Miranda Page: 303
Margaret Page: 304
Alexandra Page: 306
Stephanie Page: 308
RANDOM ASSOCIATIONS: Page: 309
Susie Page: 311
Adrienne Page: 314
Doris Page: 316
Lulu Page: 318
Daisy Page: 319
Kit Page: 319
Flossie Page: 320
Josie Page: 320
Brett Page: 320
Sarah Page: 321
Maud Page: 321
Gelda Page: 322
5. GUILT AND FANTASY, OR, “WHY THE FIG LEAF?” Page: 326
WOMEN’S GUILT: Page: 326
Christiana Page: 330
Hope Page: 331
Lil Page: 334
Alison Page: 335
Clare Page: 336
Penelope Page: 338
MEN’S ANXIETY: Page: 339
Tina’s husband Page: 341
6. FANTASY ACCEPTED Page: 343
“OF COURSE I FANTASIZE, DOESN’T EVERYONE?” Page: 345
Gloria Page: 346
Hannah Page: 349
Sophie Page: 353
Bobbie Page: 357
Paula Page: 361
FANTASIES THAT SHOULD BE REALITY: Page: 374
Martha Page: 376
ACTING OUT FANTASIES, PROS AND CONS: Page: 377
Sylvia Page: 378
Babs Page: 381
Elizabeth Page: 381
Winnie Page: 383
Loretta Page: 384
Sheila Page: 384
Claudine Page: 385
Jocelyn Page: 389
SHARING FANTASIES: Page: 390
Lynn Page: 390
Jacqueline Page: 392
Doris Page: 397
Bonnie Page: 398
Jessie Page: 399
Esther Page: 400
Posie Page: 403
Mara Page: 404
Joan Page: 405
Adele’s husband Page: 407
7. QUICKIES Page: 411
AFTERWORD Page: 427
“In Defense of Nancy Friday” Page: 427
by Martin Shepard, M.D., psychiatrist Page: 427