Melody Beattie 4 Title Bundle

1109 Pages·2010·4.44 MB·English

by  Melody Beattie

Hazelden
Center City, Minnesota 55012
hazelden.org Codependent No More c 1987, 1982 by Hazelden Foundation
The Language of Letting Go c 1990 by Hazelden Foundation
More Language of Letting Go c 2000 by Melody Beattie
Beyond Codependency c 1989 by Hazelden Foundation All rights reserved.
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e-book ISBN (for “bundle” of four books): 978-1-61649-091-1

CODEPENDENT NO MORE
CODEPENDENT NO MORE
How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for
Yourself
Melody Beattie
OTHER BOOKS BY MELODY BEATTIE
Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time
Gratitude
Caring for Ourselves: Hope for Healthy Relationships DVD
52 Weeks of Conscious Contact: Meditations for Connecting with God, Self and
Others The Grief Club: The Secret to Getting Through All Kinds of Change The
Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents The Language of
Letting Go Journal: A Meditation Book and Journal for Daily Reflection More
Language of Letting Go: 366 New Daily Meditations
The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today’s Generation Playing It
by Heart: Taking Care of Yourself No Matter What Stop Being Mean to Yourself:
A Story about Finding the True Meaning of Self-Love
Hazelden
Center City, Minnesota 55012
hazelden.org
© 1987, 1992 by Hazelden Foundation All rights reserved
First edition published 1987. Second edition 1992
Printed in the United States of America No part of this publication may be
reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any
means—electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning, or otherwise
—without the express written permission of the publisher. Failure to comply
with these terms may expose you to legal action and damages for copyright
infringement.
ISBN-13: 978-0-89486-402-5
ISBN-10: 0-89486-402-5
Library of Congress Card Number: 88-82660
Editor’s Note
The Twelve Steps are reprinted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous
World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint the Twelve Steps does not mean that
Alcoholics Anonymous has reviewed or approved the contents of this
publication, or that AA agrees with the views expressed herein. The views
expressed herein are solely those of the author. AA is a program of recovery
from alcoholism. Use of the Twelve Steps in connection with the programs and
activities that are patterned after AA, but that address other problems, does not
imply otherwise.
Cover design by David Spohn Interior design by David Swanson Typesetting by
BookMobile Design and Publishing Services
“It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to
find it elsewhere.”
—Agnes Repplier,
The Treasure Chest
For helping make this book possible, I thank:
God, my mother, David, my children, Scott Egleston, Sharon George, Joanne
Marcuson, and all the codependent people who have learned from me and
allowed me to learn from them.
This Book Is Dedicated To Me.
Contents
Preface to the 1992 Edition
Introduction
Part I: What’s Codependency, and Who’s Got It?
1. Jessica’s Story
2. Other Stories
3. Codependency
4. Codependency Characteristics
Part II: The Basics of Self-Care
5. Detachment
6. Don’t Be Blown About by Every Wind
7. Set Yourself Free
8. Remove the Victim
9. Undependence
10. Live Your Own Life
11. Have a Love Affair with Yourself
12. Learn the Art of Acceptance
13. Feel Your Own Feelings
14. Anger
15. Yes, You Can Think
16. Set Your Own Goals
17. Communication
18. Work a Twelve Step Program