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THE WICCAN WAY
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TO LASTING ROMANCE
Magic for Lovers is no! a spellb ook; Jl's a book of
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and their rela!lonship and some instruction in both
Experienced readers of Pagan wrilings will find physocal and maiiocal aspects or that. It 1s wrouen fn a
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mation. Some of lhc
workings outlined
presume you and lll.
your partner lo be RATING: 3½ Broomsl1Cks
a traditional couple
(and a ferlllity spell
doesn't account for
the possibility of a
couple adopting or
artificially insemi·
nating). Its outlook
is. of course,
Wlccan, and some
of the more duothe-
istic points might not click with readers who practice
olher forms of Pagar,lsrn. Deities are referenced only
in the contexl of being called on for spells, not in the
context of personal interaction< and relationships.
And Aphrodite might not be the wisest choice to call
on for a love working - unless what you are actually
looking for is a fling, not a long-term relationship.
The positive points of this book, however, out
weiiih these quibbles. Silverwind writes with a lo! of
hear!. Her openness, of!en referring to her own lover
and their relationship issues. reveals her commitment
lo her subject mailer. Her hl"allhy views. which lead
her to encourage her readers lo build healthy relation·
ships rather !han lo immerse themselves in obsessive
ones - create a good foundation for the workings.
Her spells are very accessible. They are nol rogid
but clearly meant lo be adapted. They are also quite
simple. Beginning practi!loners won'I be intimidated,
and no one will lose track of a workinfs purpose
amongst a flurry ol unnecessarily elaborate prepara
!ions. There are just a few ingredients, and the work
ings arc clearly for the sake of focusing on a goal.
The spells, however. arci lhe least of the value of
Silverw1nd's suggestions. She also offers instruction
on creating a love altar. practicing couple-breathing.
and giving your partner a massage.
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To Brian
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for the romance that inspired this book.
To Brighid & Ogmios
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for giving me the inspiration and the words.
To my parents
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for showing me that love can last a lifetime.
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Table of C ontents
Before You Begin . . . vu
A Few Words About Love & Magic
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PARTONE:TOOLS & TECHN lQ UES
1 Bedroom Feng Shui 3
2 Love Oil 7
3 Love Body Wash 9
4 Comforting 11
5 Couple-breathing 13
6 Eye-gazing 17
7 Tantric Sitting Position 19
8 Creating Sacred Space 21
9 The Love Altar 27
10 Sacred Sex 3 3
Magic for Lovers
PART TWO: ENHANCLNG RlTUALS
& BLESSlNGS
11 Gratitude Ritual 39
12 Romance Ritual 43
13 The Great Rite 4 9
14 Rekindling Love 53
15 Restoring Passion 57
16 Creating Fireworks 61
17 Ensuring a Lasting Relationship 65
18 Fun Time Ritual 69
PART THREE: UNlTlNG CEREMONlES
& BLESSLNGS
19 Meet the Parents 75
20 First Holiday Together 77
21 Private Hand.fasting 81
22 Public Handfasting 85
23 Merging Two Families 91
24 Post-wedding Vo\vs 95
2 5 Preparing for a Child 99
PART FOUR: HEALlNG &
BANlSHlNG RlTUALS
26 Releasing Festering Negativity 105
27 Cleansing Your Relationship 109
28 Healing a Rift 113
2 9 Returning Balance to the Relationship 117
30 Banishing Codependence 121
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31 Banishing Interference from Others 125
32 Healing from a Loss 129
33 Healing Sexual ProbJems 133
34 Stress Break Box 143
35 Releasing Stress 147
PARTFlVE: BLESSlNCS &MANlFESTlNC RlTUALS
36 Blessing Each Other for Love 153
3 7 Blessing Your Relationship Crystal 157
38 Blessing Your Relationship Candle 161
39 Blessing Your Hon1e 163
40 Manifesting Prosperity as a Couple 167
41 Manifesting Specific Goals 171
42 Manifesting Long-term Goals 175
43 Manifesting Career Success 179
44 Conceiving a Child 183
A Final Note 187
APPEND LC ES
A Timing 189
B Days of the Week 190
C Color Correspondences 191
D Gods and Goddesses 192
Bibliography 194
Index 196
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BEFORE BEGlN . . .
11 too often our wedding day is the first and last time
we manifest the spiritual aspects of our primary
romantic relationship. We are married by a priest or
~~:=;:::=::J priestess, we state our vows in a religious setting, such
as a church or temple, and we include prayers and blessings
throughout the event. However, as soon as the ceremony ends,
this special spiritual experience is replaced \vith the mundane
details of daily life and relegated to the obscurity of a photo album
or video.
I believe spirituality should be the foundation of your rela
tionship and play an active role in assuring its longevity. If you
need a little help adding more soul and more sizzle to your life,
you've come to the right place. Magic for Lovers offers dozens of
rituals that can help you re-ignite passion, strengthen your bond
as a couple, help you work through the tough times, and aid you
in manifesting your long-term goals. It will also remind you to
cherish each other every single day.
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Magic for Lovers
Throughout the text I use the term lover, rather than partner,
husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, mate, spouse, or significant
other. I believe you should always think of your partner as your
lover first and foremost, before all other titles, with the possible
exception of friend. Calling your beloved by the word that is usu
ally reserved for the bedroom serves as a constant reminder that
the two of you love each other in a way that you love no one else.
Keep in mind that whenever you perform a ritual your inten
tion is far more important than the actual words you say. And your
words, no matter how simple, will be more effective if they come
from your heart than if you read from a script that holds no mean
ing for you. My suggestions are intended to be just that: sugges
tions. Adapt them to suit your needs, your moods, your feelings.
If you make a mistake, feel free to laugh about it. Don't
,vorry if the ritual isn't flawless. I don't think I've ever accom
plished the perfect spell when more than one person was involved
in it. And if all this is new to you, I recommend that you read
through the book in sequence, then select the rituals when the
mood strikes or the need arises.
Some of the metaphysical practices I mention throughout the
book may not be familiar to you. What follows are very brief
descriptions that I hope ,vill inspire you to further study.
Feng Shui has come to be popularly thought of in the West
as the Chinese art of furniture arrangement, but it's much, much
more than that. This complex system for arranging your physical
environment to maximize the positive flow of qi (pronounced
"chee"), or the life force, employs two methods. I use the feng
shui principles of the Black Hat method, which divides the home
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