Love and Hate in the Analytic Setting

282 Pages·2000·9.44 MB·English

by  Glen O. Gabbard

LOVE AND HATE
IN THE
ANALYTIC SETTING

A JASON ARONSON BOOK
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Gabbard, Glen O.
Love and hate in the analytic setting / by Glen O. Gabbard.
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Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 1-56821-671-8 (alk. paper)
I. Transference (Psychology) 2. Countertransference (Psychology) 3. Psychoanalysis.
4. Psychotherapist and patient. 5. Love. 6. Hate. I. Title. II. Series
[DNLM: I. Psychoanalytic Therapy. 2. Transference (Psychology) 3. Love. 4. Hate.
5. Professional-Patient Relations. WM 460.6.GlI2L 1996]
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CONTENTS
Introduction ix
Prologue: Baptism by Fire 1
1 Love in Analytic and Nonanalytic Settings 7
2 On Hate in Love Relationships: 41
The Narcissism of Minor
Differences Revisited
3 Sexual Excitement and Countertransference 66
Love in the Analyst
4 The Analyst's Contribution to the 107
Erotic Transference
5 Love and Lust in the Male Analyst-Male 138
Patient Dyad
6 Erotic Transference in the Male 157
Adolescent-Female Analyst Dyad
7 Technical Approaches to Malignant 179
Transference Hate
8 Passive Hate in the Transference 208
Epilogue: Myths, Movies, and Magic 225
References 232
Credits 255
Index 257

INTRODUCTION
In the last decade or two, a sea change has occurred in the
way that we conceptualize the analytic relationship. The
analyst is no longer viewed as a dispassionate interpreter
of the patient's intrapsychic conflict. We now recognize
that analysts are likely to experience feelings similar to
those that stir the patient and often with the same degree
of passion. Moreover, these intensely felt affects are now
viewed as having the potential to discombobulate the
analyst and lead to enactments that reflect the analyst's
involvement. Fortunately, the psychoanalytic profession
has reached the point where feelings of love, hate, sexual
arousal, envy, contempt, boredom, and assorted other
affects can be openly discussed and understood as useful
contributors to the analytic work.
In 1991 I chaired a panel at the annual meeting of the
American Psychoanalytic Association in New Orleans
entitled "Hate in the Analytic Setting." With considerable
candor, the panelists, including the late Donald Kaplan,
Milton Horowitz, Alan Skolnikoff, and Stanley Coen,
spoke openly about their experiences of hating and being
hated in the consulting room. The following year, Henry
Smith and I proposed another panel entitled "Love in
the Analytic Setting." This proposal was accepted by the
Program Committee, and at the December meeting of the
American Psychoanalytic Association in 1992, Dr. Smith
chaired the panel and I presented some case material