Know All About Manners & Etiquettes: a Comprehensive Guide on the Subject

266 Pages·2004·12.58 MB·English

by  Verma

Know all About
Manners
&
Etiquettes

Know aU About
Manners
&
Etiquettes
A Comprehensive Guide on the Subject
Ram Partap Verma
ABHISHEK PUBLICATIONS
CHANDIGARH-17
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First Edition: 2009
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Contents
Preface vii
l. Introduction 1
2. Work Etiquette 22
3. Interview Etiquette 35
4. Table Manners 49
5. Drinking 80
6. Conversation 96
7. Advice for Modem Women 140
8. Advice for Modem Men 153
9. Salutations of Courtesy 167
10. Modem Dating 190
II. The Hip Funeral 193
12. Men's and Women's Clothes 218
13. Sports Manners 246
14. Travel Etiquette 254

Preface
Etiquette is a code of behavior that influences
expectations for social behavior according to contemporary
conventionall1orms within a society, social class, or group.
Rules of etiquette are usually unwritten, but aspects of
etiquette have been codified from time to time. Rules of
etiquette encompass most aspects of social interaction in
any society, though the term itself is not commonly used.
A rule of etiquette may reflect an underlying ethical code,
or it may reflect a person's fashion or status.
Manners involve a wide range of social interactions
within cultural norms as in the "comedy of manners", or a
painter's characteristic "manner". Etiquette' and manners,
like mythology, have buried histories especially when they
seem to have little obvious purpose, and their justifications
as logical ("respect shown to others" etc.) may be equally
revealing to the social historian.
,Manners constitute the language in which the
biography of every individual is written. There is no one
subject of today which embodies more practical interest to
people in general, than a knowledge of the rules, usages
and ceremonies of good society. A lack of this knowledge
is felt by almost every individual, whether in the city or
country, at horne or abroad. The politeness is not a code of
superficial rules, arranged and trimmed up for particular
occasions, and then set aside at our pleasure.
Like "culture", it is a word that has gradually grown
plural, especially in a multi-ethnic society with many
clashing expectations. Thus, it is now possible to refer to
"an etiquette" or "a culture", realizing that these may not
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be universal. In Britain, though, the word etiquette has its
roots in the eighteenth century, becoming a universal force
in the nineteenth century to the extent that it has been
described as the one word that aptly describes life during
the reign of Queen Victoria.
Wearing pajamas to a wedding in a cathedral may
indeed be an expression of the guest's freedom, but also
may cause the bride and groom to suspect that the guest in
pajamas is expressing amusement, disparagement, or
disrespect towards them and their wedding. Etiquette may
be enforced in pragmatic ways: "No shoes, no shirt, no
service" is a notice commonly displayed outside stores and
cafes in the warmer parts of North America. Others feel
that a single, basic code shared by all makes life simpler
and more pleasant by removing many chances for
misunderstandings and by creating opportunities for
courtesy and mutual respect.
The very perfection of elegance is to imitate nature;
how much better to have the reality than the imitation.
Anxiety about the opinions of others always fetters our
freedom and tends to awkwardness. We would always
appear well if we never tried to assume what we do not
possess. The grand secret of never-failing propriety of good
manners and culture is to have an intention of always doing
right. There are persons who seem to possess the instinct
of courtesy to so high a degree as to require no instruction
or practice in order to be perfectly polite, easy and graceful.
Author
About the Book
Etiquette is a code of behavior that influences
expectations for social behavior according to contemporary
conventional norms within a society, social class, or group.
Rules of etiquette are usually unwritten, but aspects of
etiquette have been codified from time to time. Rules of
etiquette encompass most aspects of social interaction in
any society, though the term itself is not commonly used.
A rule of etiquette may reflect an underlying ethical code,
or it may reflect a person's fashion or status.
Manners involve a wide range of social interactions
within cultural norms as in the "comedy of manners", or a
painter's characteristic "manner". Etiquette and manners,
like mythology, have buried histories especially when they
seem to have little obvious purpose, and their justifications
as logical ("respect shown to others" etc.) may be equally
revealing to the social historian.
Manners constitute the language in which the
biography of every individual is written. There is no one
subject of today which embodies more practical interest to
people in general, than a knowledge of the rules, usages
and ceremonies of good society. A lack of this knowledge
is felt by almost every individual, whether in the city or
country, at home or abroad. The politeness is not a code of
superficial rules, arranged and trimmed up for particular
occasions, and then set aside at our pleasure.
Like" culture", it is a word that has gradually grown
plural, especially in a multi-ethnic society with many
clashing expectations. Thus, it is now possible to refer to
"an etiquette" or "a culture", realizing that these may not