Table Of ContentTable of Contents
Acknowledgments
PART ONE: The Secret to Making Love Work
Chapter 1: "You Say Tomato, I Say Tomahto"
Chapter 2: The Secrets of Personality Type Revealed
Chapter 3: A Perfect Fit: Verifying Your Type
PART TWO: How to Love the One You're With: Introduction to the
Couple Combinations
Chapter 4: The Traditionalists2: SJs with SJs
Chapter 5: Traditionalists with Experiencers: SJs with SPs
Chapter 6: Traditionalists with Conceptualizers: SJs with NTs
Chapter 7: Traditionalists with Idealists: SJs with NFs
Chapter 8: The Experiencers2: SPs with SPs
Chapter 9: Experiencers with Conceptualizers: SPs with NTs
Chapter 10: Experiencers with Idealists: SPs with NFs
Chapter 11: The Conceptualizers2: NTs with NTs
Chapter 12: Conceptualizers with Idealists: NTs with NFs
Chapter 13: The Idealists2: NFs with NFs
Chapter 14: Where Do We Go from Here? Final Thoughts,
Recommendations, and Resources
Appendix About the Research for Just Your Type
Just Your Type
Other Books by the Authors
Do What You Are
Nurture by Nature
The Art of SpeedReading People
Just Your Type
Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality
Type
Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger
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This is dedicated to the one I love.
—PDT & BBT
If you don't like someone, the way he
holds his spoon will make you furious;
if you do like him, he can turn his plate
over into your lap and you won't mind.
—Irving Becker
Acknowledgments
As with any book project, there are many, many people to recognize and thank
for their support, encouragement, and assistance. This book is certainly no
exception. We start by thanking the thousands of people who visited our Web
site to take part in the extensive research project to gather data for this book.
Thank you for your time, candor, and generosity in sharing your thoughts and
experiences with us. Next, we are grateful to the hundreds of couples who
allowed us to poke around in their relationships by participating in the in-depth
interviews. It was a privilege and honor for us, and we thank you for sharing the
joys and the frustrations of your relationships. We promised everyone
anonymity, so we won't list your names here, but we are grateful beyond words,
and we wish you all the best of luck and happiness.
There are also dozens of people who actively helped us recruit research
participants, and their contributions and assistance were invaluable. They are
Sandra Hirsch, Jane Kise, Linda Berens, Nicky Bredeson, Tom Carskadon,
Jamie Johnson, John Golden, Steve Buttner, John Beck, Peggy Holtman, John
Madigan, Gary Hartzler, Don Johnson, Susan Brock, Terry Duniho, Jean
Whitney, Richard Grant, Sarah McNaughton, Sarah Sharman, Lou Loomis,
Joyce Yarrow, Alice Gould, Glenn Orkin, Ed McKeon, Henry Milan, Robin
Holt, Rona Branson, Bill Murray, Donna Denoon, Scott Blanchard, Jerry
Vastano, Kevin Harrington, Irwin Nussbaum, John Knerling, James Francis,
Ralph Braithwaite, Rhonda LoBruto, Eleta Jones, Carol Pfeiffer, Sandra
Morgan, Gerry MacDaid, Margaret Fields, Bill Haddock, Mary and Brian
Twillman, Pat Swain, Sue Scanlon, Phyllis Reeds, Tad Graham-Hadley, Lou
Sanders, Madeleine and Bill Swain, Peter Grandy, Alice Noyes, Sue Lucas,
Helen Barron, and all the Association for Psychological Type (ATP) chapter
coordinators.
We especially thank John Cubeta, Ph.D., our friend and colleague, for his
assistance with the design and analysis of the survey. He crunched many a
number and created uncounted charts and graphs to help us make sense of all the
data we collected. And we are so grateful to our good friend Bert Miller, for his
brilliant mind, the great survey design, and his superb Web master wizardry. But
brilliant mind, the great survey design, and his superb Web master wizardry. But
mostly we thank him for his constant friendship, support, and love.
We recognize again and always the people who have taught us so much
about Personality Type through the years, including Mary McCaulley, Gordon
Lawrence, Sue Scanlon, Terry Duniho, and Naomi Quenk. We are grateful to
our many therapist friends for their advice and suggestions: Ruth Hofstatter,
Ginger Blume, Nicky Bredeson, Francie Brown, Linda Chase Wayman, Barbara
Hollender, and Jane Kimball.
We're grateful to our editor, Amanda Murray, and our other friends at Little,
Brown, including Sarah Crichton, Carl Lennertz, Sairey Luterman, Jane Comins,
Katie Long, and Gary Strauss. And we especially thank our great literary agent,
Kit Ward, for her continued encouragement, support, and advice. Thanks for
pushing us to write this book.
And we again thank our families and friends for their support and patience:
Bob Baumwoll and Martha Heller, Jimmy and Trina Stafford, Joel Lavenson and
Crista Cooper, George and Nancy Bacall, Jesse Stoner and Larry Zemel, Bob
and Susan Stern, Kip Kolesinskas and Lesley Schurmann, Christy and John
Burrmann, Evan Williams and Greig Shearer, La Donna Carlson, Marilyn and
Mel Gallant, Don and Genie Street, Paul Chill and Brigid Donohue, Carolyn
Koch, Gerry and Jan Smyth, Vera and Tony Tosoni, Gail and Ken Beare, Sheila
and Irwin Nussbaum, Vincent and Kathleen Trantolo, Joan and Dave Kingdon,
Ruth Hofstatter and Paul Selwyn, Jude Kauffman and Steve Kemper, Wendy
and Rob Benson, Nina and Evan Fox, Jane and Ted Carroll, Robyne Watkin and
Mark Anson, Thona McEnroe, Janet Penley, Daniel Oppenhiem and Julia
TenEck, Cheryl Greenberg and Dan Lloyd, Keats and Joe Jarmon, Amy Mazur,
Trisha and Dave Livingstone, Sue Piquera, Nancy Aronie, Greg and Cathy
Garant, Marc and Judy Tieger, and Debbie Barron.
And, finally, thanks to our children, Danny and Kelly, for their endless love,
enthusiasm, and patience during this very long writing process.
