International Handbook of Love: Transcultural and Transdisciplinary Perspectives

1123 Pages·2021·15.722 MB·English

by  Claude-Hélène Mayer, Elisabeth Vanderheiden

Claude-Hélène Mayer
Elisabeth Vanderheiden
Editors
International
Handbook of Love
Transcultural and
Transdisciplinary Perspectives
International Handbook of Love
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Claude-Hélène Mayer Elisabeth Vanderheiden
Editors
International Handbook
of Love
Transcultural and Transdisciplinary
Perspectives
Editors
Claude-HélèneMayer ElisabethVanderheiden
DepartmentofIndustrialPsychology GlobalInstituteforTransculturalResearch
andPeopleManagement Römerberg,Germany
UniversityofJohannesburg
Johannesburg,SouthAfrica
InstitutfürtherapeutischeKommunikation
undSprachgebrauch
EuropaUniversitätViadrina
Frankfurt(Oder),Germany
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Acknowledgments
DearHuman:You’vegotitallwrong.Youdidn’tcomeheretomasterunconditionallove.
Thisiswhereyoucamefromandwhereyou’llreturn.Youcameheretolearnpersonal
love.Universallove.Messylove.SweatyLove.Crazylove.
Brokenlove.Wholelove.Infusedwithdivinity.Livedthroughthegraceofstumbling.
Demonstrated through the beauty of ... messing up. Often. You didn’t come here to be
perfect,youalreadyare.Youcameheretobegorgeouslyhuman.Flawedandfabulous.And
risingagainintoremembering.
CourtneyA.Walsh
Writinganinternationalmultidisciplinaryandculturallydiversehandbookabout
love is a monumental project. It could only succeed because many internationally
renownedauthorswerewillingtosharetheirexpertiseandperspectiveswithusand
tocontributethemtothisbook.Weareverygratefulforthat.
Wewouldliketothanksomeindividualsinparticular:
We would like to thank Professor Freddie Crous, Head of the Department of
Industrial Psychology and People Management, University of Johannesburg.
Freddie is the incorporated example of a loving leader and an extraordinary role
model for many people. A few weeks ago, he said in our annual departmental
meeting: “We must just love each other. We must just love each other.” When
ever have you personally heard a (male) leader in higher education or inany other
organisationsayingthisopenlyandyoufeltyoucouldjustbelievehim?
We would also like to thank Mrs. Ruth Cotzee, our wonderful language editor
whohasworkedwithusonseveralprojectsalreadyoverthepastfewyears.Ruthisa
greatexampleforpassionatelovewhenitcomestolanguage,andsheisalwaysvery
patientwithusandourwaysofexpressingourselves.
Further, we would like to express our thanks to all the individuals who have
participatedinourresearchprojectsandstudiesonloveandwhohavesharedtheir
knowledge,emotionsanddeepinsightswithus.
Finally, we would like to thank our publisher Springer International Publishing
AGforcontinuoussupportandinterestinourprojects.Especiallywewouldliketo
v
vi Acknowledgments
thank Shinjini Chatterjee and Ameena Jaafar, Nitesh Shrivastava and his team for
theircommitmentandsupportwithregardtothisbookproject.
We dedicate this book to the children in our lives: Blanche, Lolo, Ecee, Till,
Marie,Jan,Irma,Emilia,JulianandAnnabelle.
Contents
PartI IntroductoryChapters
1 VoicingtheStoriesofLoveAcrossCultures:AnIntroduction. . . . 3
Claude-HélèneMayerandElisabethVanderheiden
2 TheStateofEthnologicalResearchonLove:ACriticalReview. . . 23
WilliamJankowiakandAlexJ.Nelson
3 Love’sEthnographicRecord:BeyondtheLove/Arranged
MarriageDichotomyandOtherFalseEssentialisms. . . . . . . . . . . 41
AlexJ.NelsonandWilliamJankowiak
4 CulturalDiversityofRomanticLoveExperience. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59
VictorKarandashev
PartII ParticularFacetsandManifestationsofLoveinDigitalSocial,
CulturalandPoliticalContexts
5 Cyberspace:TheAlternativeRomanticCulture. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83
AaronBen-Ze’ev
6 Climbing,andFallingOff,Plato’sLadderofLove:TheEmotions
ofLoveandofLove’sUndoing. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101
WarrenTenhouten
7 TowardsthePerformanceofEmbodiedCulturesofLove. . . . . . . 123
FreddieCrousandLeighLeo
8 “AFriend?ASingleSoulDwellinginTwoBodies.”
Friendship—aSpecialKindofLove. .. . . . . . . .. . . . . . . .. . . . . . 135
ElisabethVanderheiden
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9 “HaveaFriendwithBenefits,WhomoffandonISee.”
FriendswithBenefitsRelationships. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 155
ElisabethVanderheiden
10 BuildingaCultureofRevolutionaryLove:ThePolitics
ofLoveinRadicalSocialTransformation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 177
MattYork
PartIII LoveinReligiousandBeliefSystems
11 Devotion:“BeingShoretotheOcean”. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 195
ThomasRyan
12 Ashk:TheSufiConceptforLove. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 209
ÇiğdemBuğdaycı
13 PremainkabIr’ssAkhI:IndigenousPerspectivesonLove. . . . . . 223
DharmP.S.Bhawuk
PartIV LoveWithintheFrameworkofFamilyandIntergenerational
Relations
14 VideographyofLoveandMarriageOrder. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 245
ElenaRozhdestvenskaya
15 Low-SESParents’LoveasEducationalInvolvementwithTheir
PrimarySchoolChildren:ASynthesisofQualitativeResearch. . . 267
NaomiTakashiroandCliffordH.Clarke
16 WhenaMother’sLoveIsNotEnough:ACross-CulturalCritical
ReviewofAnxiety,Attachment,MaternalAmbivalence,
Abandonment,andInfanticide. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 291
SergioA.Silverio,CatherineWilkinson,VictoriaFallon,
AlessandraBramante,andAleksandraA.Staneva
17 ASemi-PeripheralMythofthe“GoodMother”:TheHistory
ofMotherlyLoveinHungaryfromaGlobalPerspective. . . . . . . . 317
GergelyCsányiandSzabinaKerényi
18 LovingLikeIWasLoved:Mother-ChildRelationship
fromtheMalayMuslims’Perspective. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 333
DiniFarhanaBaharudin,MelatiSumari,SuhailizaMdHamdani,
andHazlinaAbdullah
19 Sexuality,LoveandSexualWell-BeinginOldAge. . . . . . . . . . . . 351
SofiavonHumboldt,IsabelLeal,andGailLow
20 “AMatterofAge?”LoveRelationshipsBetweenOlderWomen
andYoungerMen:TheSo-called“Cougar”Phenomenon. . . . . . . 369
ElisabethVanderheiden
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21 ATableforOne:TheHomosexualSingleandtheAbsence
ofRomanticLove. . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . 391
AlirazaJavaid
22 OnHomosexualLoveandRighttoSame-SexMarriage:
QuestioningtheParadoxof#LoveWinsDiscourse. . . . . . . . . . . . . 405
TinnaphopSinsomboonthong
23 LoveandConflictsBetweenIdentity-FormingValues. . . . . . . . . . 423
MichaelKühler
24 TheImportanceofFamilyMembersinLoveLetters. . . . . . . . . . . 439
PaulC.Rosenblatt
PartV LoveintheContextofCounselling,Psychotherapy
andPsychiatry
25 LoveatthePsychiatricWard. . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . 457
DominicHarion,SarahFrancescaLöw,SaschaSettegast,
andDominikZink
26 LovefromaPsychotherapeuticPerspectiveIncludingCase
Studies:TheNeedforEffectiveAltruism. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 481
Hans-JörgLütgerhorst,SabineDiekmeier,andJörgFengler
27 ComingHometoSelf:FindingSelf-CompassionandSelf-Love
inPsychotherapy. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 503
AakritiMalik
28 HowtoResearchPerformancesofLovewithTimelines. . . . . . . . . 521
SharonRoseBrehm
PartVI LoveintheContextofGlobalisation
29 CorrelatesofLoveAcrossRelationshipTypesandCultural
Regions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 543
CharlesT.HillandCollaborators
30 LoveinaTimeofGlobalization:IntimacyRe-imagined
AcrossCulturalFlows. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 567
BahiraTrask
31 TheExpressionofCompassionateLoveintheSouthAfrican
CulturalDiversityContext. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 583
RudolfM.Oosthuizen
32 LoveintheContextofTransnationalAcademicExchanges:
PromotingMentalHealthandWellbeing. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 599
RashmiSinglaandUlrikedePonte
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33 LivingwithLoveinToday’sWorld:PhilosophicalReflections
onSomeofItsComplexities. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 621
OndřejBeranandCamillaKronqvist
PartVII TheDarkSideofLove
34 LoveinUnhappyCouples. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 641
PaulC.Rosenblatt
35 “ASilverDuckintheDishWashingWater”orLoveandCrime
intheContextofPositiveVictimology. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 657
Claude-HélèneMayer
36 FreetoLove:ExperienceswithLoveforWomeninPrison. . . . . . 679
EstibalizdeMiguel-Calvo
37 Hatred,LifeWithoutLove,andtheDescentintoHell. . . . . . . . . . 699
WarrenTenHouten
38 WhentheLoveIsBad. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 719
PatriciaL.Grosse
PartVIII LoveinLiterature
39 CosmopolitanLove:TheActualityofGoethe’sPassions. . . . . . . . 735
RainerMatthiasHolm-HadullaandAlexanderNicolaiWendt
40 OntheDiscoursiveConstructionoftheSpanishHero
inInterculturalRomances. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 749
María-IsabelGonzález-Cruz
41 PassionLove,MasculineRivalryandArabicPoetry
inMauritania. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 769
CorinneFortier
42 “HowDoYouSpellLove?”—“YouDon’tSpellIt.YouFeelIt.”. . 789
WillievanPeerandAnnaChesnokova
43 “ThereAreasManyKindsofLoveasThereAreHearts”:
Age-GapRelationshipsinLiteratureandCulturalAttitudes. . . . . 807
AnnaChesnokovaandWillievanPeer
44 ImaginingLove:TeenRomanceNovelsandAmerican
TeenRelationalCapacity. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 827
EstellaCarolyeKuchta
PartIX LoveinWorkplacesandBusinessContexts
45 CompassionateLoveinLeaders:LeadershipSolutions
intheFourthIndustrialRevolution. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 845
Claude-HélèneMayer