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CONTENTS
TOREWORD x”
ACKNOWLEDGEMENT xe
PARTI
WORRY AND ITS SOURCE.
1 FEAR AND WORRY 3-13
The Cause of Worry
Fear ard Superstition
Whar daes Worry Do to Us?
2 ouRTROUBLIS “oD
Facing Problems
Developing Courage and Understanding
Putting Problerns én Their Proper Perspective
3. WHY DO WE SUFFER? 28 50
"Uhe Nature of Life
‘Unileestanding the acts of Life
Fieeting Happiness
The Picture of Life
Can We Satisfy Desire?
Pleasure is not Happiness
Contemplate on Yourself
[AL ABUSE ANDMENTALHEALTH 5-60
Life in the Medern World
Life as a Battlefield
Towards Mental Health
PART I
HOW TO OVERCOME WORRY NOW
CONTROLLING ANGER 63-70
‘The Danger of Anger
Controlling Anger
THE DANGER OF SELFISHNESS 7-74
The Need to Cultivate Love and,
Compassion
OVERCOMING JEALOUSY AND
SEL.HSHINESS 75-8
"he Cause of Jealousy
Awareness of the Mind
Dealing wath Jealousy
DEALING WISH ENEMIES AND
CRITICISM. 82-94
Mireor of the Mind
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Picking Faults in Others
What wo do wheu Criticised
Don't Be Afraid of Criticism.
GAINING CONTROLOVERMOODS 95 10/
Consideration and Kindness
Acting Out of Compassion to All
‘TIE PRESSURE AND PLEASURE OF
BRINGINGUP CHILDREN 102-116
Pressure on Parents
Pressure on Children
Recognising Potentials,
Parents in Modern Society
THE FEAR OF DEATH ny 14
Coming 19 Terms with Death
What is Birth and Death?
Peaceful Deat
Death is Inevitable
WHY WORRY ABOUT THEFUTURE! © 125-129
‘¢ Do Not Worry About Our Future
‘oreving About the Future
Changing One's Fortune
PART IO
13
INGREDIENTS FOR HAPPINESS
HOWTO FIND REAL HAPPINESS (53-44
“The Search for Happiness
Ingredienes for Happiness
Where is Happiness?
14 FINDING PEACE AMIDST STRIFE.
AND CONFLICT 443-151
Unrest and Global Conflict
Establishment of Peace
Going Beyond Worldly Pleasures
15 MORALITY: THE SANCTITY AND
DIGNITY OF LIFE 192-162
Moral Conduct and Youth
Being Good or Doing Good?
Changing One’s Character Through Religion
26 YOUMAKE YOURIUCK ANDDESTINY 163-169
Don’c Blame the Stars
Destiny is in Your Hands
PARTIV
TECHNIQUES FOR HAPPY AND
SUCCESSFUL LIVING
17. SACRIFICING FOR OTHERS WELFARE 174-182
Kindness wo All Beings
The Spirit of Benevolence
The Real Conqueror
Haman Values
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GENTLE SPRECH
Weung Speech
Acting Wisely in'Tense Situations
Be Mindful of Thoughts
Culeivating Skilful Speech
THE VALUE OF LOVING KINDNESS
Loving and Kindness
Cultivaring Loving Kindness
TOLERANCE, PATIENCE AND
CONTENTMENT
Patience
The Power of Patience
BEING FRUSTRATED IN LOVE,
Breaking Up
TIAPPY MARRIED 11FP
Building a Successfal Marriage
Sex ia Marriage
Having a Good Marriage
YOUR BEAUTY
ACCUMULATION OF WEALTH
Comtemment
Clinging :0 Money
The Faulty Equation
Using Wealth Properly
LIVING IN HARMONY WITH OTHERS
Manners and Customs
183-194
195-200
207 - 208
209-215
26 23
204-227
228-234
255-243
Allowing Others the Right to Differ
Patience and Tolerance
Diplomacy
26 MAN CANCHANGE HIS
EXVIRONMENT 24-249
Cultivating Virtae
Using the Mind Creatively
Our Mission
27 HUMAN DIGNITY 250-255
Moral Shame and Moral Fear
Different Characteristics of Human Beings
FOREWORD
M: are born, they suffer, chey dic. That,
according t Anatole France is how a wise
man once sumined up che buman condition, On the
other hand, some free chinkers say: ‘Man is a little
machine, made possible by an accidental arrangement
of azoms and a naturalistic evolutionary process.
Sulfering is man’s inescapable lor in his steuggle for
survival. Tt has no ‘meaning’ other than thar, no pur-
pose, Death is a dissolution of chemical elements:
nothing else remains’.
While both the above are common observations
amongst certain sceptics, materialists and even some
great chinkers, other philosophers and religious
teachers have tied to discover some meanings and
purposes in life, especially with regard to the problem
of suffering,
According to the Buddha, tke characteristic of
every component ching is that it appears, decays and
disappears in a never-ending process. All component
things are subject 1 ceaseless change and conflict
(Dukkha). It is endured by all suffering beings who
su
believe in a permanent entity or soul. This belief gives
rise 10 selfish desire which can never be satisfied, ehus
leading to fear and worry
The Buddha provided a moral base to his teachings
when he declared that while there is suffering and
uncertainty in existence, nevertheless itis possible for
man (© experience happiness both in its absolute as
well as its wmporal sense if he learns 10 distinguish
between skilful and unskilful actions. To do this man
rust frst have Right View which means that he must
recognise the unsarisfactory nacure of his existence
and sensual pleasures and also co direct his life in the
proper manner ta see the end of uncertainty and un-
satisfactoriness.
Why Worry
The first edition of Why Worry was published in
1967 (19,906 copies) and since thea it has been in
such great demand that it has been reprinted no less
than six times at the rate of 5,000 copies per printing
Levers of appreciation and gratitude have poured in
from various paris of the world - the U.S., U.K,
Germany, South Africa and almost every Asian coun
oy. Those who have expressed their appreciation
of the book are not only Buddhises but Hindus,
Mustims, Christians and even some ‘free thinkers’
‘The appeal of the book has been partly duc to the fact
thar it has becn written simply and without pretension
and also because its main purpose was to reveal the
facts of life not only from the Buddhist point of view
