Table Of Content“An essential practical read for anyone looking to super-
charge their motivation, but more than that it helps you truly
understand what you want and why, enabling you to break
through and create that vital change. This book undoubtedly
will light a fire inside you to create your own unique legacy.”
Ben Griffiths, Creator, The Primal Nation Fitness Revolution
& “The UK’s go-to-guy for Women’s Weight-Loss”
“How to Change Your Life is a book you can pick up at any
point and gleam some gems for your day or week. Some of
the insights and understandings of how our minds and bodies
work are worth a second read as there really isn’t a handbook
for the brain out there quite like this.”
Terry Elston, International Corporate Trainer & Author,
Trainer of NLP & Hypnosis, www.nlpworld.co.uk
This book is dedicated to the following:
My Children
My Father
My Friends
L.P
& All Those Who Believed In Me
How To Change
Your Life
Who am I and What Should I Do with My Life?
Benjamin Bonetti
© 2013 Benjamin Bonetti
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Bonetti, Benjamin, 1982–
How to change your life : who am I and what should I do with my life / Benjamin Bonetti.
pages cm
Includes index.
ISBN 978-0-85708-464-4 (pbk.)
1. Thought and thinking. 2. Self-actualization (Psychology) I. Title.
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CONTENTS
Introduction 1
Step One – Selecting the Material 7
The Importance of Identity 12
Values, Beliefs, and Honesty 18
Accepting Risk and Failure 25
Step Two – Rounding the Edges 41
A Different Approach 43
Educating Your Past 49
Forgiving and Letting Go 52
Realigning Your Dreams 65
Step Three – Setting the Stone 81
Success Preparation 88
Visualizing a Completed You 96
Installing a Learning Mind-Set 100
Moving Forward and Accepting Change 107
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Step Four – Leaving a Legacy 119
Building Your Temple 123
Living with a Smile 136
Passing On 146
Pick Up Your Tools 157
About Benjamin Bonetti 163
Index 167
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INTRODUCTION
O
ver 80 per cent of achievement can be attributed to
having the right mind-set. In relation to making
changes in your life, having the right mind-set means
much more than simply recognizing that change is needed; it
means accepting that change is always possible, wanting to
make changes, and committing to doing whatever it takes to
make those changes happen.
An individual’s mind-set can make the difference between
achieving their true potential in life or effectively getting
stuck in a rut, unable or unwilling to move on from negative
experiences that are now holding them back. The contents of
this book offer a human engineered MOT, designed to help
you identify your current mind-set and get you “on the road”
to achieving the life you want.
The relationship that you hold with yourself determines the
path that you will follow.
As you journey through these pages, you will explore the
deep inner values you hold and question the embedded beliefs
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you have developed based on past experiences, before discov-
ering the world of possibilities that opens up to you simply
by learning to use your “true brain” and realizing the optimum
ability of the human mind.
Throughout the book, I will be comparing the mental process
of change to the physical process of building a temple.
These principles are:
1. The preparation of the foundation – clearing out the
old and making way for the new.
2. The selection of materials – obtaining the right tools
for the right job.
3. Amending, adapting, planning and visualizing the end
result – creating the perfect strategy for your blueprint.
4. Laying the first stone and gaining momentum – build-
ing a legacy beyond what you thought was possible.
As listed above, before any building work can begin, the
ground must first be cleared in preparation for the setting of
a solid foundation. Each new and progressive step in the
building process – selecting the material, rounding the edges,
setting the stone – can then rest on those firm foundations
and a lasting legacy is created.
In addition, throughout each stage you will be asked to com-
plete both tasks and thinking exercises. These have been
engineered to trigger new and innovative thinking patterns
and reach into the deeper aspects of your subconscious mind
to question what you previously thought was possible.
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