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Relationship
HOW TO
red flags?
discuss
WHY DO WE
burnout CHOOSE TO LOOK
THE OTHER WAY?
WITH YOUR
BOSS
Come as
you are
ACCEPT, EXPRESS
AND CELEBRATE
YOUR TRUE SELF
The secret
to long-term
happiness
THE ANCIENT GREEK
WISDOM YOU NEED
TO KNOW
PLUS
Social
ME-dia
BRING THE
JOY BACK TO
YOUR FEED
To go wrong in one’s own
way is better than to go
right in someone else’s
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Self-knowledge
is power
What’s your favourite colour? Hang
on, let me guess. Is it blue?
It’s a trick borrowed from Lauren
Labrecque, an associate professor
at the University of Rhode Island.
Lauren would ask the same question
to her students, already having a
slide prepared with her prediction:
80% of the responses would be blue. make decisions in-line with your honest
desires, needs, and values, those
It’s a safe bet. Worldwide studies choices become that much easier. So,
and surveys have found again and how do we get to that point?
again that blue is the most common
‘favourite colour’ among adults. On p38, we explore ‘dopamine
Scientists don’t really know why this dressing’ and meet the colourful
is the case, but if you’re worried people who will challenge you to
this means we’re all the same, you think differently about fashion and
shouldn’t be. Colours are subjective; self-expression. And our exclusive
not only do we each see them slightly journaling pages on p83 are a space
differently, but we also project onto to explore a limitless version of you.
them our individual experiences,
emotions, culture, and associations. But you’ve also got to face the hard
The result is a personal palette that stuff. We’re unpacking the concept of
tells the story of our lives, and which ‘pleasanteeism’ in the workplace on
could never be replicated or even, p14, and flick to p25 and you’ll find a
currently, completely understood. reflection on what would happen if, At Happiful, inclusivity,
in a world that wants you to hide your representation, and creating
Though, if you’ve ever taken a ‘What struggles, you practised radical self- a happier, healthier society
does your favourite colour say acceptance? are at the forefront of our
about you?’ quiz, you’ll know there’s mission. To find out more
something about being told that What does an honest, open, self- about our social and
liking the colour green means you’re celebrating you look like? Join us, as we environmental pledges,
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even if the science is dubious. makes us the
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that our preferences feed into our
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True to you
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14 What is pleasanteeism?
Are you hiding your feelings at work?
25 Radical self-acceptance
Here's what you have to gain
28 Adult bullying
It's time to stand up to it
38 Dopamine dressing
What can this colourful trend teach us
about the power of self-expression?
83 Who are you?
Unlock a limitless version of you with 38
our print exclusive journaling pages
Wellbeing
20 Anxiety through the ages
How to help kids at different stages
30 The truth about narcissism
35 Five common phobias
36 The burnout conversation
How to talk to your boss about burnout
49 What is money trauma?
The effects of childhood poverty last
a lifetime – here's how to deal with it
35
Try this at home
16 Questions to ask siblings
48 Meditation for hayfever
80 Microgardening
How to help life flourish in even the
smallest of spaces
69
82 Put joy back on your feeds
Relationships Positive pointers
53 Let's talk about porn 17 Ancient wisdom
We spoke to an ethical porn director What can a Greek philosopher teach
about the impact of the industry us about modern day happiness?
64 Get the balance right 22 The art of resilience
How to manage mismatched
work-life balance in a relationship 32 Get it down
Discover how writing 'morning
69 Running a red flag pages' can transform your wellbeing
66 Why do we ignore the signs
something isn't right? 58 The return to the office
How to navigate negotiations
78 Sexy time
74 The power of poultry
Is the ultimate tool for a better
sex life a calendar?
Expert review
Food & health
Every iss*ue of Happiful is
43 Food to soothe reviewed by an accredited
Chef Lauren Lovatt shares her tips counsellor, to ensure we
deliver the highest quality
content while handling
56 Challenging a misdiagnosis
topics sensitively.
What to do when you think you have
received the wrong diagnosis Life takes us on a wonderful
journey full of joy, sadness,
61 Finishing the course fear, and anger – sometimes
Here's what to expect from all at once! However, we don't
antidepressant withdrawal always allow ourselves to
experience all of our emotions,
32
66 Fab or fad? and in doing so we reduce our
Do superfoods really deliver? ability to truly live. Go to p25 for
an excellent insight into how
72 Snacks for better sleep self-acceptance can lead to a
more fulfilling and authentic
life. By allowing yourself to
Culture accept your emotions, you, in
turn, accept yourself, leading
8 Good news to greater connectedness with
Uplifting stories to make you smile the self and others.
RAV SEKHON
13 The wellbeing wrap
BA MA MBACP (Accred)
Rav is a counsellor
46 Do something new and psychotherapist
with more than 10
17 years' experience.
77 Good reads not to miss
Expert Panel Our team
Meet the team of experts providing information, guidance, EDITORIAL
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leadership consultant, and adolescent therapist
Ellen Lees | Head of Content
ADHD coach. specialising in trauma.
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Ballet company breaks all the rules
What do you think of when you’re their message of equality and knowledge and respect for the
asked to picture ‘ballet’? Perhaps inclusion, as they provide a original artform, holding open
it’s a certain type of body? And a stage for dancers often under- the door to allow audiences to
certain type of audience? Well, represented in ballet, whether access ballet in a completely
Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte that be due to sexual orientation, different way.
Carlo (aka The Trocks) are the gender identity, size, class, race, Art is an evolution and, as
comedy drag ballet company or ethnicity. Kevin Garcia – a dancer with
asking you to think again. Adapting both classical ballets, the company since 2017 – says:
They started out in 1974, as a such as Swan Lake, and also “Every time the curtain opens,
downtown New York drag act in modern works – with music from we represent progress for
the wake of the Stonewall Riots, Tchaikovsky, Chopin, Vivaldi, equality. We just do it dancing.”
and are now known for their and Massenet – while the dancers The Trocks are performing across
parodies of the conventions pair immaculate technique with the UK in September and October.
of classical ballet – and The comic timing, performances For more, visit trockstour.co.uk
Trocks are loud and proud about are each underpinned by a deep Writing | Kathryn Wheeler
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COMMUNITY
The movement to save millions of meals
The cost of living crisis is taking OLIO, an app dedicated to collect food from participating
its toll on many of us. Prices are helping neighbours share more businesses, and list it on the OLIO
rising at their highest rate for and waste less, has announced app for local people to collect
40 years, and a staggering 7.3 plans to work with FareShare to for free. FareShare takes surplus
million adults and 2.6 million save and redistribute meals by food that’s unsold or unwanted,
children are experiencing food providing surplus food instead of sorts it in regional warehouses,
poverty in the UK – nearly 14% of letting it go to waste. And there’s a and passes it on to nearly 10,000
all households. lot of food to go around, as more charities across the UK.
In response to the crisis, Tesco, than a million tonnes of edible, Get involved by sharing food or
One Stop, The Pret Foundation, unsold food goes to waste yearly – spreading the word now. It’s time
and other British businesses are that’s the equivalent of 2.4 billion to reduce food waste and help
coming together with OLIO and meals. those who need it.
FareShare to fight food waste and More than 50,000 volunteer Find out more at olioex.com
provide free meals. Food Waste Heroes will Writing | Bonnie Evie Gifford
MUSIC
Dropping beats and smashing
stigma: Fatboy Slim hosts workshop
for those with severe mental illness
A DJ workshop for people with session shared the joy of music
severe mental illness hit all the and allowed participants to learn
right notes recently, with musician creative, new skills.
Norman Cook (AKA Fatboy Slim) “Whilst there is growing
and Brighton-based DJs Audio understanding about the role the
Anonymous/Atomic Drop teaming arts and creativity can play in
up to teach. The masterclass recovery for people with common
was organised as part of Sussex mental health problems, much
Partnership NHS Foundation less is known about this for people
Trust’s arts and health programme, with severe mental illness, who Audio Anonymous/Atomic Drop
Make Your Mark, and was funded can often face the greatest stigma to challenge some of this stigma
by NHS charity Heads On. around their illness and, as a and bring the sheer joy of music to
Six people joined the workshop, result, have far less opportunities people.”
all with severe mental illness – to be creative,” says Natalie The workshop was the first in
which is when symptoms become Rowlands, senior occupational a series, all bringing creativity
so debilitating that the ability to therapist at Sussex Partnership, to those so often stigmatised by
function in occupational activities and lead organiser for the event. society – what can we say, it’s
is impaired. Taking place at “We are absolutely delighted to music to our ears.
Rockwater on Hove seafront, the be working with Fatboy Slim and Writing | Kat Nicholls
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