Table Of ContentGRIEF IN
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GRIEF IN
CHILDREN
S E C O N D E D I T I O N
A HANDBOOK FOR ADULTS
A T L E D Y R E G R O V
FOREWORD BY PROFESSOR WILLIAM YULE
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Contents
(cid:1)
FOREWORD ................................. 9
INTRODUCTION .............................. 13
1. Children’sreactionstogrief andcrisis ........... 15
Children’sunderstandingof deathatdifferentages ... 15
Immediategrief reactionsinchildren ............. 22
Usualgrief reactionsamongchildren ............. 24
Otherpossiblegrief reactions ................... 40
Thedifferencebetweentraumaandgrief ........... 44
2. Differenttypesof death ...................... 47
Thedeathof aparent ......................... 47
Thedeathof asibling ......................... 55
Thedeathof agrandparent ..................... 59
Thedeathof afriend ......................... 60
Childrenandsuicide .......................... 62
Otherdeaths ............................... 69
3. Deathandcrisisatdifferentdevelopmentallevels ... 71
Preschoolchildren ........................... 71
School-agechildren .......................... 72
Adolescence ................................ 73
4. Whatmakesthegrief worse? .................. 77
Adults’handlingof thedeath ................... 77
Typeof death ............................... 77
Relationshipwiththedeadperson ............... 78
Support ................................... 79
Accesstoareplacementperson .................. 80
Fantasiesandcausalthinking ................... 80
Personalityandformerexperience ................ 81
5. Sexdifferencesinchildren’sgrief ............... 83
6. Careforchildreningrief andcrisis .............. 87
Counsellingtheparents ....................... 87
Presentingchildrenwiththenewsofadeath ....... 88
Children’sparticipationinrituals ................ 90
Properpreparation ........................... 92
Companyof atrustedadult ..................... 94
Concreteexpressionsof grief ................... 95
Viewingthebody ............................ 97
Conversationandplayingoutimpressions .......... 99
Participationinthefuneral ..................... 99
Cremation ................................. 100
7. Guidelinesfortakingcareof children’sneeds ...... 103
Openanddirectcommunication ................. 103
Deathfollowinganillness ...................... 107
Makingthelossreal .......................... 110
Givetimeforcognitivemastery .................. 113
Stimulateemotionalcoping ..................... 118
8. Handlingdeathintheplaygroupandatschool .... 125
Beingpreparedbeforeadeathoccurs ............. 125
Teachersasaresourcegroup .................... 127
Teachers’ownneeds .......................... 127
Terminalillnessof achild ...................... 130
Theneedof individualstudents ................. 132
Howtogivenotificationof adeathatschool ....... 137
ImmediateIntervention ........................ 139
Ritualsintheschool:thefuneral ................. 140
Classroommemorialandotherrituals ............. 143
Classroommeetingaboutthedeath ............... 146
Useof otherexpressivemeans ................... 157
Visitingthesceneof theevent ................... 159
Visitingthebereavedparents .................... 159
Contactbetweenschoolandhomefollowingadeath .. 160
Commemoratingthechild ..................... 161
Handlingdeathintheplaygroup ................ 162
9. Crisis-orgrief-therapyforchildren ............. 167
10. Bereavementgroupsforchildren ................ 175
11. Caringforoneself ........................... 179
Self-care ................................... 181
Peersupport ................................ 182
APPENDIX:GRIEFINCHILDREN–GUIDELINESFORCARE ... 183
RESOURCES ................................. 185
REFERENCES ................................. 189
INDEX ..................................... 199
Description:This fully updated second edition of "Grief in Children" explains children's understanding of death at different ages and gives a detailed outline of exactly how the adults around them can best help them cope.Whether a child experiences the death of a parent, sibling, other relation or friend, or of
