From Coach to Awakener

368 Pages·2003·44.79 MB·English

by  Robert Dilts

From
Coach
to
Awakener
Robert Dilts
From Coach to Awakener
Cooching is the process of helping people and teams to perfonn at the peak of
their abilities. It involves drawing out people's strengths, helping them to
bypass personal barriers and limits in order to achieve their personal bests, and
facilitating them to function more effectively as members of a team.
Historically, coaching has been focused toward achieving improvement with
respect to a specific behavioral perfonnance. This involves promoting the
development of that person's behavioral competence through careful
observation and feedback.
In recent years, the notion of coaching has taken on a more generalized and
expanded meaning. Personal coaching, executive coaching and life coaching
provide support on a number of different levels: behaviors, capabilities,
beliefs, values, identity and even spiritual. These new and more comprehen
sive fonns of coaching--executive coaching and life coaching--<::an be
referred to as capital "C" Coaching. Large "C" Coaching involves helping
people effectively achieve outcomes on a range of levels. We guide people to
learn about new environments, for instance; coach them to improve spe
cific behavioral competencies; leach them new cognitive capabilities; mentor
empowering beliefs and values; sponsor growth at the identity level; and
awaken people's awareness of the larger system or "field."
This book defines the types of contexts and situations which require the
capital "C" Coach to focus on one of these roles--<::aretaker, guide, coach,
teacher, mentor, sponsor, awakener- and provides a specific toolbox for each
role. In other words, it provides a comprehensive tool set to be used by an
effective coach to manage the entire scope of large "C" Coaching activities
from caretaking to awakening.
ISBN 0-916990-45-1
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From
Coach
to
Awakener
by
Robert Dilts
Meta Publications
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Library of Congress Card Number 2003104426
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Contents
Dedication
IX
Acknowledgments
X
Preface
XI
Introduction xiii
Origins of Coaching
XIII
The Coaching Revolution
XIV
Large "C" and Small "c" Coaching XVI
NLP and Coaching
XVlI
The Coaching-Modeling Loop
XVII
Levels of Learning and Change in Individuals
and Organizations
XIX
Levels of Support for Learning and Change
-A Road Map for Large "C" Coaching
XXIII
CHAPTER 1 CARETAKING AND GUIDING 1
Caretaking and Guiding 3
Environmental Factors 3
Caretaking 4
Guiding 6
Assumptions and Style of the Caretaker or Guide 7
Caretaker 'Ibolbox: "Psychogeography" 9
Using Psychogeography in Groups and Teams 10
Using Psychogeography to Facilitate Different
Types of Group Processes 14
Psychogeography as a Key Aspect of Coaching
and "Caretaking" 17
Caretaker 'Ibolbox: Guardian Angel 18
Guardian Angel Checklist 19
Guide 'Ibolbox: Mapping, Metaphor and Intervision 20
Mapping 20
Metaphor and Analogy 21
Intervision 22
Intervision Mapping Process 23
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Guide 'lbolbox: Self-Mapping and Causal Loops 26
Causal Loops 26
Making a Causal Loop Map 27
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CHAPTER 2 COACHING 33
Coaching 35
Behaviors 35
Behavioral Coaching 36
Coaching 'lbolbox: Establishing Goals 37
Defining Goals 38
Goal Setting Questions 41
Coaching 'lbolbox: Well-Formed Outcomes 43
Well-Formed Outcome Worksheet 47
Parable of the Porpoise 48
Coaching Principles Illustrated by the
Parable of the Porpoise 50
Relevance of the Parable of the Porpoise
to Coaching 52
Applying the Parable of the Porpoise 53
Coaching 'lbolbox: Feedback and Stretching 57
Coaching 'lbolbox: Contrastive Analysis and
"Mapping Across" 59
Contrastive Analysis Format 61
Body Posture and Performance 62
Gestures and Performance 63
Coaching 'lbolbox: Anchoring 64
Anchoring Your Inner Resources 65
Summary 66
CHAPTER 3 TEACHING 67
Teaching 69
Developing Capabilities 69
Teaching and the "Inner Game" of Performance 70
Representational Channels 73
Representational Channels and Learning Styles 74
IV
Teaching Toolbox: Learning Style
Assessment Questions 76
Applying the Results of the Learning Style
Assessment Questions 79
Teaching Toolbox: Visualizing Success and
"Mental Rehearsal" 82
Teaching Toolbox: State Management 84
The Circle of Excellence 86
Modeling Capabilities 89
The T.O.T.E.: Minimum Requirements for
Modeling Effective Skills and Behaviors 89
Teaching Toolbox: T.O.T.E. Modeling Questions 91
Teaching Toolbox: Mapping Across
Effective T.O.T.E.s 93
Teaching Toolbox: Cooperative Learning 96
Cooperative Learning Process 96
Teaching Toolbox: Focusing on Feedback
Instead of Failure 98
Basic Perceptual Positions in Communication
and Relationships 99
Second Position 103
Teaching Toolbox: Building a "Second Position"
Perspective 105
Teaching Toolbox: Meta Mapping 108
Basic Meta Map Format 110
Teaching Toolbox: Imagineering 112
Imagineering Coaching Format 115
Summary 123
CHAPTER 4 MENTORING 125
Mentoring 127
Values 128
Values and Beliefs 129
The Power of Beliefs 131
Mentoring Values and Beliefs 133
Role Modeling 135
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Mentoring 'lbolbox: Establishing Inner Mentors 137
Mentoring 'lbolbox: Values Audit 139
Values Audit Worksheet 140
Aligning Values with Vision and Actions 143
Mentoring 'lbolbox: Creating Alignment for Change 145
Mentoring 'lbolbox: Putting Values Into Action 146
Mentoring 'lbolbox: Values Planning 148
Mentoring Toolbox: Establishing Practices 149
Belief Systems and Change 151
Mentoring 'lbolbox: Belief Assessment 154
Belief Assessment Worksheet 156
Mentoring Toolbox: Using Inner Mentors
to Build Confidence and Strengthen Belief 158
Mentoring Toolbox: The "As If' Frame 160
Reframing 162
One-Word Reframing 166
Mentoring Toolbox: Applying One-Word Reframes 167
Mentoring Toolbox: Values Bridging 169
Reframing Critics and Criticism 171
Getting Positive Statements of Positive Intentions 172
Thrning Criticisms Into Questions 174
Mentoring 'lbolbox: Helping Critics to Be Advisors 175
Summary 177
CHAPTER 5 SPONSORSffiP 179
Sponsorship 181
Identity 183
The Style and Beliefs of a Sponsor 184
Sponsorship Messages 185
Non-Sponsorship and Negative Sponsorship 187
An Example of Sponsorship 191
Skills of Sponsorship 194
Sponsorship Toolbox: Finding the Source
of Your Resources 198
Sponsorship Toolbox: Active Centering 204
Sponsorship 'lbolbox: Listening Partnerships 205
VI
Sponsorship Toolbox: "I See" and "I Sense" Exercise 208
The Hero's Journey 209
Sponsorship Toolbox: Mapping the Hero's Journey 212
Sponsorship Toolbox: Beginning the Hero's Journey 214
Archetypic Energies 217
Sponsorship Toolbox: Co-Sponsoring Archetypic
Energies 218
Sponsorship Toolbox: Proper Naming 220
Sponsorship Toolbox: Sponsoring a Potential 223
Sponsorship Toolbox: Group Sponsorship Format 227
Sponsorship Tholbox: Recovering Lost Sponsors 230
Summary 232
CHAPTER 6 AWAKENING 237
Awakening 239
"Spirit" and "Field" 240
Coach as an Awakener 241
Not Knowing 244
Nerk-Nerk 245
Uptime 247
Awakener's Tholbox: Creating an "Uptime" Anchor 247
Getting Access to the Unconscious 249
Awakener's Tholbox: Active Dreaming 252
Active Dreaming Exercise 253
Awakener's Tholbox: Awakening to Freedom 254
Awakening to Freedom Format 255
Double Binds 258
Awakener's Tholbox: Transcending Double Binds 261
Awakener's Toolbox: Creating Positive Double Binds 263
Bateson's Levels of Learning and Change 266
Learning IV 271
Overview of the Four Levels of Learning 273
Survival Strategies 275
Awakener's Toolbox: Updating Survival Strategies
through Bateson's Levels of Learning 277
Summary 281
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CONCLUSION 285
Creating an Aligned Path from Caretaker to
Awakener 287
Capital "C" Coach Alignment Process 288
A$TERWORD 297
APPENDIX A: A BRIEF HISTORY OF LOGICAL LEVELS 299
BmLIOGRAPHY 325
INDEX 329
ABOUT THE AUTHOR 341
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