Fire Your Therapist: Why Therapy Might Not Be Working for You and What You Can Do about It

274 Pages·2009·1.78 MB·English

by  Joe Siegler

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F i r e Yo u r
T h e r a p i s t
WHY THERAPY MIGHT NOT BE
WORKING FOR YOU AND WHAT
YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT
Joe Siegler, M.D.
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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To my parents, Alfred and Rosemarie, who taught me
that the heel of Achilles is the gateway to the sky,
and
To my clients, who are my best teachers.
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I do not speak these words, Love speaks them
This subject is something I know nothing about.
You can only tell this story if you are a thousand years old.
What can I know? I am a child of the present.
Yet the child I am is a parasite on the Eternal One
And my union with Him ages me centuries.
—Rumi
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CONTENTS
Acknowledgments ix
Introduction 1
PART I: Deciding Whether to Fire Your Therapist
1. Why Therapy Might Not Be Working 13
2. What to Expect from Coaching 27
3. Commitment, Accountability, and Responsibility 45
4. D ecide If Your Therapy or Current Approach Is
Working 58
5. Give Me One Good Reason to Fire My Therapist 68
6. T ransitioning: When You’re Thinking about
Making the Switch 81
7. Choose the Right Coach for You 93
PART II: Build the Life You Want on Your Own
and with Your Coach
8. A pplying the Spheres: The Key to Creating
a Full Life 113
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viii Contents
9. The You Spheres: Self, Body, Spirit, Fun, and Home 125
10. The Career Spheres: Work and Money 145
11. T he People Spheres: Love, Family, Friends,
and Community 159
12. Laser-Precision Outcomes 183
13. Overcome Obstacles to Achieve Outcomes 203
14. Approach Greatness 217
15. A Better Life and a Better World 238
Conclusion 251
Index 253
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