Erotic Power: An Exploration of Dominance and Submission

276 Pages·1983·42.485 MB·English

by  Gini Graham Scott

CITADEL PRESS
· An Exploration of
Dominance and Submission
GINI GRAHAM SCOTT, PH.D.

EROTIC POWER
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EROTIC POWER
An Exploration of
DOMINANCE & SUBMISSION
by
Gini Graham Scott
CITA DEL PRESS
Secaucus, New Jersey
Copyright© 1983 by Cini Graham Scott
By arrangement with Praeger Publishers
First published under the title ])ominnnt 11·ome11 .'i11lm1/1.1/11e Men
All rights reserved.
Published by Citadel Press
A division of Lyle Stuart Inc.
120 Enterprise A\'e., Secaucus, N.J. 070~H
In Canada: Musson Book Company
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:'11anufactured in the United ·states of America
ISBN: 0-8065-0968-6
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Contents
Acknowledgments ............................................. vii
Introduction .......... ............................ .. ............ ix
PART I: DISCOVERING DOMINANCE AND SUBMISSION .... 1
Chapter l. The Attractions of Female Dominance ... ...... ........ 3
Chapter 2. Becoming Involved .............................. ... 15
PART II: D&S RELATIONSHIPS ................... .......... 35
Chapter 3. Types of D&S Relationships ......... ....... ......... 37
Chapter 4. Casual D&S Relationships .......................... .41
Chapter 5. Ongoing D&S Relationships ........ ................. 55
Chapter 6. Loving Couples ................... ................. 77
PART Ill: JOINING THE SCENE .......... ................... 91
Chapter 7. Workshops for Dominant Women and
Submissive Men ................................... 93
Chapter 8. Foursomes ........................................ 115
Chapter 9. The Organized Scene & the SM Church .............. 123
Chapter 10. The Party Scene ................................... 135
PART IV: PSYCHOLOGICAL DYNAMICS OF D&S .. .. ....... 151
Chapter 11. Power: Its Use and Meaning ........ .... ... .... ..... 153
Chapter 12. Pain, Bondage, Humiliation, and Other
Techniques of Power ................. ... ... ...... 165
Chapter 13. Eroticism and Fantasy .. ....... .................... 175
Chapter 14. Toys and Techniques .............................. 185
Chapter 15. Insiders and Outsiders ............................. 193
Chapter 16. The Dark Side of D&S ................... .......... 201
PART V: THE COMMERCIAL WORLD OF D&S ............. 207
Chapter 17. Professional Mistresses ................. ... ......... 209
Chapter 18. The Professional Session ........................... 223
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Chapter 19. Mistresses by Mail: Fantasy Tapes
and Letters .... ...... ............. ... .. .. ........ 233
Chapter 20. Magazines and Books .. .......................... .. 239
Chapter 21. Conclusion .. ...... .......... ...................... 253
About the Author ................................. ... .......... 257
Acknowledgments
I want to thank the many people who helped me in preparing the book.
First, many involved in dominance and submission relationships or active
in the "scene" gave me information and advice. A dozen of them read the
manuscript and made suggestions, although I can't thank most of them
publicly. But to those I can, Penny Sunlove and Layne Winklebleck (aka
Mistress Kat and Mouse), I offer my deepest thanks. Also, special thank
you' s to the many members of the Society of Janus, the SM Church, and the
Gemini Society, who offered continuing assistance.
In addition, I received much help and encouragement from many
sociologists, anthropologists, psychologists, and sexologists. In particular, I
would like to thank George DeVos, Marcello Truzzi, and Charles Moser,
who offered their comments and support.
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