Don't Let Others Rent Space in Your Head: Your Guide to Living Well, Overcoming Obstacles, and Winning at Everything in Life

274 Pages·2005·0.98 MB·English

by  Gary Coxe

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DON’T
LET
OTHERS
RENT
SPACE
IN YOUR
HEAD
Your guide to living well,
overcoming obstacles, and
winning at everything in life
GARY COXE
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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DON’T
LET
OTHERS
RENT
SPACE
IN YOUR
HEAD
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DON’T
LET
OTHERS
RENT
SPACE
IN YOUR
HEAD
Your guide to living well,
overcoming obstacles, and
winning at everything in life
GARY COXE
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Copyright © 2006 by Gary Coxe. All rights reserved.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data:
Coxe, Gary, 1964-
Don’t let others rent space in your head / Gary Coxe.
p. cm.
ISBN-13: 978-0-471-74693-5 (cloth)
ISBN-10: 0-471-74693-2 (cloth)
1. Success in business. 2. Achievement motivation. 3. Expectation
(Psychology) I. Title.
HF5386.C885 2005
650.1—dc22
2005019914
Printed in the United States of America.
10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
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Special thanks to all those who believed in and stuck with
me for so many years! And I would also like to thank
those who motivated me by not believing in me.
To my father and mother, who supported me in everything
I wanted to do. Even as a small child, I was never told
that something wasn’t possible.
Thanks for letting me dream and dream big!
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Contents
Chapter 0
WHY MOTIVATION ISN’T ALWAYS MOTIVATIONAL 1
Chapter 1
WHAT DOES “DON’T LET OTHERS RENT SPACE IN
YOUR HEAD” REALLY MEAN? 13
Chapter 2
INQUIRING MINDS DON’T EVEN BELIEVE IT 23
Chapter 3
OKAY, YOU CAN RENT SPACE IN YOUR HEAD,
BUT ONLY TO GOOD TENANTS! 31
Chapter 4
YOU CAN’T CHANGE WHAT YOU
DON’T ACKNOWLEDGE 41
Chapter 5
WHEN LIFE GIVES YOU LEMONS, DON’T DRINK
THE LEMONADE 53
Chapter 6
IRRATIONAL OPTIMISM 59
Chapter 7
THE HOAX OF POSITIVE THINKING 73
Chapter 8
MENTAL VERTIGO—DO YOU HAVE IT? 93
Chapter 9
BEWARE OF THE MARATHON RUNNER WHO SMILES 103
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Chapter 10
BE PREPARED TO ABORT OR LOSE AN ENGINE—
THE POWER OF NEGATIVE THINKING 111
Chapter 11
NOTHING IS GOOD OR BAD, BUT THINKING
MAKES IT SO! 131
Chapter 12
POSITIVE THINKING IS A LIE, BUT IT’S A START 147
Chapter 13
REWIRING YOUR BRAIN—GOING BEYOND POSITIVE
THINKING: THE FOUR-STEP PROCESS 161
Chapter 14
FEELING IS BELIEVING 191
Chapter 15
PLAY GAMES WITH YOUR MIND INSTEAD OF
LETTING YOUR MIND PLAY GAMES WITH YOU 213
Chapter 16
ACKNOWLEDGE THE JOURNEY 221
Chapter 17
IT’S TIME TO RE-EDIT YOUR VIDEO 229
Chapter 18
ENERGIZING YOUR LIFE IN SPITE OF THE
OBSTACLES—PULLING IT ALL TOGETHER 243
Chapter 19
“FILL YOUR OWN WELL SO YOUR CUP CAN RUN
OVER TO HELP OTHERS” 253
Index 261