Date Like A Man: What Men Know About Dating and Are Afraid You'll Find Out

252 Pages·2001·0.86 MB·English

by  Myreah Moore

D A T E
L I K E A
M A N
WHAT MEN KNOW ABOUT
DATING AND ARE
AFRAID YOU’LL FIND OUT
MYREAH MOORE
Jodie Gould
and
This book is dedicated with love, respect and gratitude to all
the gay men in my life who are no longer on this planet. You
helped me learn to treasure myself. Love you madly and
miss you very much, my angels!
—MM
To my friends and family (nuclear and extended) for their
support and encouragement, and to my husband, Robert
Katel, who knew how to date me like a man.
—JG
Contents
ix Introduction
1 PART I
The Warm-Up: Preparing to Date Like a Man
Why Men Are the Master Daters
Men Know What They Want and Need
(And How to Get Those Wants and Needs Met)
What Do Your Wants and Needs Really Mean?
Developing Your “Most Wanted” Profile
Reflecting on Your Mirror Image
Men Like Themselves
Men Don’t Think of Themselves as Victims
Men Are Independent
Men Know That Money Is Sexy
Men Know That Power Is Sexy
Men Know They Can Be Sexy at Any Age
Men Understand the “Vision Thing”
27 PART II
Becoming a Master Dater:
Women Can Be Players, Too
Men Know Dating Is a Numbers Game
Men Believe There Are Too Many Women,
There Is Too Little Time
Men Don’t Worry About Potential
Men Don’t Talk About Relationships
iv CONTENTS
Men Don’t Overanalyze
Men Don’t Feel Comfortable in Homes That
Are Too Feminine
Men Like to Take the Initiative
Men Like to Make Plans
Men Want Acceptance
Men Know How to Set Boundaries
Men Like History, But Don’t Reveal Your Past
Too Soon
Men Like to Sleep with Their Women Friends
Men Can Have Sex with the Ex
Men Don’t Respond Well to Guilt
Men Don’t Like Nags
Men Don’t Like Women Who Are Fixated
Men Don’t Like Women Who Are Tactless
Men Don’t Want to Hear About Your Female Problems
Men Don’t Want to Meet Your Posse Too Soon
Men Like Women Who Eat
Men Like Women Who Can Be One of the Boys
Men Know How to Protect Themselves
Men Can Mix Business with Pleasure
Men Should Treat You Like a Business Client
Men Operate on a “Need-to-Know” Basis
Men Who Don’t Call After the First Date
Aren’t Interested
Men Have Their Own Holidays
Men Know How to Let Go
Men Keep Their Private Dramas to Themselves
Men Don’t Want to Be Bought
Men Know How to Lose
Men Know It’s Okay to Be Cocky
Men Know How to Break Up
Men Don’t Give Too Much
Men Are Opinionated
Men Don’t Like Wimps
Men Don’t Like Princesses
Men Don’t Like Women Who Are Wild
CONTENTS v
91 PART III
Dating the Master Dater
A Man Will Treat a Woman the Way He Treats
His Mother
If a Man Is Mean to Service People,
He’ll Be Mean to You
Men Fantasize About Sex, Not Relationships
A Man Who Cheats on His Wife or Girlfriend Will
Cheat on You
Men Know How to Disappear
If a Man Says He’s Never Been in Love, He Isn’t
Capable of Loving You
When a Man Says, “You’re Not My Type,” Believe Him
When a Man Says, “I’m Not Good Enough for You,”
Believe Him
Men Who Need to Find Themselves Aren’t Looking
for Marriage
Men Know It’s Okay to Look But Not Touch
Men Need to Bond with Their Buddies
Men Like to Fix Things
Men Like to Be Rescuers
By the Time a Man Says He Loves You,
He Probably Does
Men Borrow Money from Banks, Not Girlfriends
Men Know That Excuses Don’t Fly
Men Like to Have Their Egos Stroked
Clues That a Man Isn’t Interested in You
When a Man Says He’s Not Ready to Commit,
He’s Not Ready to Commit to You
The Players
129 PART IV
Having a Game Plan
The Sexual Waiting Game
(Men Hate It, But You Gotta Do It)
Men Know How to Advertise
vi CONTENTS
First, Second, and Third Date Game Plans
Men Are Fluent in Body Language
Men Like to Flirt, Too
Men Like Real Breasts
Men Like Hair They Can Touch
Men Like Long Nails, Not Claws
Men Respond to Color
A Man Will Show You When He’s Not Interested
Men Don’t Approach Women Who Travel in Packs
Men Don’t Like Too Much Perfume
Men Don’t Like Too Much Jewelry
161 PART V
How to Have Sex Like a Man:
Sex Tips from Men That You
Can’t Live/Date Without
Men Know the Difference Between Love and Lust
Men Will Have Sex Anywhere
Men Are Selfish About Sex
Men Like Women Who Are Fit
Men Like Blow Jobs
Get to Know Mr. Happy
Kiss It, Lick It, Squeeze It, Tease It
Deep Throating
Men Like Women Who Swallow
The Moveable Feast
Some Men Like Entering Through The Back Door
Men Like to Watch
Men Like to Masturbate
Men Like Pornography
Men Like Lingerie
Men Like Fantasy
Men Like to Talk Dirty
Men Like Women Who Bring on the Noise
Men Like Women Who Are Flexible
Men Like Quickies
CONTENTS vii
Men Like Lesbians
Men Don’t Like Condoms
Men Don’t Like Kissing
Men Like Compliments
Men Like to Bring Home the Trophy
Men Know Marriages Are Like Mergers
and Acquisitions
Men Want to Be the One to Propose
Men Have Different Proposal Styles
191 PART VI
Achieving Your Personal Best:
With or Without a Man
Men Love Sports (Duh!)
Men Like Golf Courses, Not Continuing Ed
Men Look for Bedmates, Not Soulmates, in Bars
Men Shop on a “Need to Go” Basis
Men Go Places (A Calendar of Events)
From the Mouths of Babes
225 Afterword
Becoming a Dating Champion
It’s Time to Start the Audition
229 Acknowledgments
About the Authors
Cover
Copyright
About the Publisher