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Acknowledgments
I acknowledge Bert Hellinger for making us conscious of the Field that many of us
knew unconsciously through Breathwork and Voice Dialogue and took for granted.
Bert has brought the Constellated Field from the unconscious to consciousness. I
honor his courage and his greatness.
I sent an early version of this book to Philippa Lubbock when I was lost with it. Phil
gave me a jolt in the right direction with remarks like “The opening line is a kind of
footnote.” How right she was. Among other useful remarks was her acknowledgment
“How you work with fairy tales is masterful.” I had not noticed, nor did I feel
masterful in the draft Philippa read, but I do now. Philippa introduced me to Family
Constellations and was my primary teacher for them, besides Bert Hellinger. I share
the good karma from writing this book with Philippa.
Ewa Foley (www.foley.com.pl) brought me to work in Poland for the first time in 1996
and has supported my work through patches when I was reluctant to continue. If
anyone has been my life coach, it’s Ewa, in her sensitive, tactful, and almost invisible
way. I’m grateful. I’m also grateful to all my students and group participants in Poland
for being a marvelous group of people, daring, committed, and exciting to work with.
Two of my father’s sisters attended the university in Vilnius when it was part of
Poland. When I go to Poland, in a way, I come home.
Much Conceptual Constellations work was developed in Switzerland. Thank you too to
these group participants for their courage and encouragement. The first training I
taught in Conceptuals was in Brussels, organized by Isabelle Doornaert. Thank you,
dear Isabelle, and Olivier too, for the privilege of working with this advanced group of
constellators. It was thrilling.
I leave you to guess about my children’s contribution to this book.
My husband, Johannes Bronkhorst, walks with me along my path, our path, and dares
everything. Thank you, Darling.
And the Field has sent me three very special people, I’d even say Guardian Angels
(although they’d be too modest): Adrienne Armstrong, my copy editor for many books
past and more to come. A copy editor reads the text and reads the author’s mind where
the author hasn’t been explicit enough. Jenifer Wofford, who designed the covers.
Jenifer’s creativity knows no boundaries; it’s pure joy to work with her. Ian Hobson of
Kindle Monster has done nothing less than “uncle” me through the process of
publishing through Amazon CreateSpace, both ebook and POD (print on demand). I
could not have brought out this book without them.
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments
Part One Story
1. Stories
2. Our Birth Family
Our Handed-Down Family Stories Are Rarely True
Case Study: Truth and Ignorance in a Family Story
Case Study: Tom’s Relationship with His Mother
Children Carry the Burden of Family Stories
The Method of Family Constellations
3. The Constellated Field
The Field Does the Work
The Field Teaches through Representation
The Field Taught Me a Better Way to End a Constellation
The Field Taught Me Another Way of Obtaining Information from
Representatives
The Field Taught Me Another Way of Bringing in Representatives
The Field Taught Me That Everyone Is a Representative
The Field Taught Me to Open Windows
Case Studies: Opening Windows
The Field Teaches through Words
Empowerment
4. Some Problems in Family Constellations
Outcomes
Integrating Family Constellations
Immensity
Attempting to Control Others through Family Constellations
Addiction to Constellations
Someone Else Does the Work
My Recommendations
5. From Family Constellations to Conceptual Constellations
A Little Bit of History
Life Literacy
Part Two Conceptual Constellations
6. Introduction to Part Two
7. Exploring Regularities
Case Study: The Mother of the Bride
Case Study: The Illegitimate Child
Case Study: The Unfaithful Spouse
Case Study: Our Place in Our Family
Case Studies: Belonging and Conscience
8. Transpersonal Relationship Patterns
Case Study: Men and Women in Warsaw, Poland
Case Study: Men Are Bigger
Case Study: You Are Only a Woman
9. Healing Spaces
Case Study: Constellation for the Space, Toruń, Poland
10. Body Constellations
Case Study: The Bent Head
Case Study: Her Heavy Head
Case Study: The Big Girl
11. Sexuality
Case Study: Are Homosexual Relationships Different from Heterosexual
Relationships?
Case Study: Are Homosexual Open Relationships Different from
Heterosexual Open Relationships?
Case Study: Polygamy
Case Study: Transsexuality
12. Past-Life Work, Transition, and Rebirth
Case Study: Transition
Case Study: I’m Always Held Back
13. Timelines, Journeys, and Resources
Case Study: I Can’t Get Near
Case Study: The Suicide Walk
14. Chairs
Case Study: Chairs as Ancestors
15. The Personal Law/Lie in Rebirthing Breathwork
Part Three Story Again
16. Stories
17. Plot and Character
Plot
Working with the Seven Basic Plots
Only One Plot: The Quest
18. Emotions
Case Study: Fear in the Chair
Other Potential Constellations with Emotions
19. The Hero’s Journey
Case Study: “The Hero’s Journey,”
Brussels and Switzerland, 2011–12
The Hero’s Journey as a Voyage Traveled
Other Elements of the Hero’s Journey
20. Fairy Tales
Cinderella
Case Study: The Ugly Duckling
Case Study: The Fairy-Tale Journey
21. The Shaman’s Path: Consciousness and Activation
Consciousness and Activation
Shamanism and the Development of Consciousness
We Are All Shamanic
Case Study: Mandala: The Shaman’s Path
Shamanic Initiation: Choosing Paths
Case Study: Shamanic Initiation
22. Stories and Parables from Religions
Case Study: The Parable of the Chariot
Part Four Fate, Destiny, Karma
23. Fate, Destiny, Karma
24. Perfect Parents, Perfect Children
Case Study: I Want My Mother to Show Her Feelings
The Paradise Myth and Fairy Tales
Perfect Parents
The Journey Home
Appendix 1. What Conceptual Constellators Need to Learn and Know
Appendix 2. The Vase Breath
Table of Case Studies
Bibliography
About Joy Manné
Joy Manné’s Books
Dedication
I dedicate this book to
my dear friend Monika Kowalska,
Friend, translator, once my student,
Who encouraged this work before it had a name
Ogromnie dziękuję, Monisia, ogromnie dziękuję
A dinosaur-size thank you
