Table Of Content
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Co-Active Coaching
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C O - A C T I V E
C O A C H I N G
NEW SKILLS COACHING PEOPLE
FOR
TOWARD SUCCESS WORK LIFE
IN AND
2ND EDITION
LAURA WHITWORTH KAREN KIMSEY-HOUSE
HENRY KIMSEY-HOUSE PHILLIP SANDAHL
Davies-Black Publishing • Mountain View, California
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Co-active coaching : new skills for coaching people toward success in work and life /
Laura Whitworth ... [et al.]. —2nd ed.
p. cm.
Includes index.
ISBN 978-0-89106-198-4 (pbk.)
1. Self-actualization (Psychology) 2. Mentoring. 3. Motivation (Psychology)
4. Success—Psychological aspects. I. Whitworth, Laura.
BF637.S4W484 2007
158¢.3—dc22
2006030970
SECOND EDITION
First printing 2007
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This book is dedicated to the clients and coaches
whose lives we have touched
and whose lives have touched us . . .
and to the clients and coaches to come.
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Contents
About the CD . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .ix
Preface . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xiii
Acknowledgments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .xvii
Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .xix
PART I
Co-Active Coaching Fundamentals
1. The Co-Active Coaching Model . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
2. The Co-Active Coaching Relationship . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
PART II
Co-Active Coaching Contexts
3. Listening . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .31
4. Intuition . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .51
5. Curiosity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .69
6. Forward and Deepen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .87
7. Self-Management . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .105
PART III
Co-Active Coaching Principles and Practices
8. Client Fulfillment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .127
9. Client Balance . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .141
10. Client Process . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .155
11. Integration, Application, and Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 171
The Coach’s Toolkit
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Appendix A: Organizational Impact of
Co-Active Coaching . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 273
Appendix B: Coaching the Team,
the Organization, or the Relationship . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 281
Appendix C: Ethics and the Professional Coach . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 289
Glossary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 295
About the Authors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .303
Index . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 305
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About the CD
The accompanying CD contains audio files introducing and demon-
strating the co-active coaching model. Brief introductions highlight the
contexts and skills emphasized in the sample coaching dialogues.
To play the audio files on a PC, use one of the following three
options after you have inserted the CD in your CD drive:
1.If the “7795CD” window appears, click on “Play Audio CD.”
2.If the “7795CD” window does not appear, open “My Computer”
and double click on “7795CD” on your CD drive. (If “7795CD”
does not appear when you open “My Computer,” instead click
on “Tools,” then “Folder Options,” and then “View.” Look for
“Hidden Files and Folders,” select “Show Hidden Files and
Folders,” and click on “Apply” and then “OK.” “7795CD” should
then appear.)
3.Another option is to open Windows Media Player. Select “Copy
from CD” and then click on a track and the play option.
The CD also contains PDF files of the forms and exercises in the
Coach’s Toolkit, which you may download and print out for use with
clients. Please note: To read and print the PDF files, you will need
Adobe®Acrobat®(version 5.0 or newer) or Adobe®Reader®installed on
your computer.
The contents of the CD are listed on the following pages.
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