Changing with Families: A Book about Further Education for Being Human

216 Pages·1976·24.717 MB·English

by  Richard Bandler,John Grinder,Virginia Satir

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John Grinder
Virginia Satir
The process of writing this book was, for
the three of us, an opportunity to change
and grow and integrate parts of our ex-
perience of doing family therapy and in-
dividual therapy. We came to understand
explicitlyhow the communications skills
we use in those contexts applied to writ-
ing this book together. Taking three very
different models of the world, three dif-
ferent types of background, we found a
way to use those same communication
skills to communicate with each other
and then finally to translate the com-
munication we found effective among the
three of us onto paper. So, we wanted to
tell those of you who are reading this
book that this book contains some of the
ways which we found delightful and use-
ful to use to communicate not only with
families in the context of therapy, but
also with each other in the process of
writing. The very same patterns that we
identify in this book as patterns of effec-
tive communication with members of a
family in the context of a therapy session
are precisely the patterns of communica-
tion that we used to write this book. And
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CHANGING
WITH
FAMILIES
by
Richard Bandler
John Grinder
and
Virginia Satir
A
Book
About
Further Education For
Human
Being
Science and Behavior Books, Inc.
Palo Alto, California 94306
© Copyright 1976 by Science and Behavior Books, Inc.
Printed in the United States of America. Allrightsreserved.
This book or parts thereof may not be reproduced in any
form without written permission of the Publisher.
Library of Congress Card Number 76-15450
ISBN 8314-0051-X
Typography by Penguin %Santa Clara, California
To
Bob Spitzer,
who has madepossible
so much ofthe actualization
ofour creativity.

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Table of Contents
About This Book and Us vii
Preface 1
PART
I
Introduction 9
Patterns of Effective Family Therapy, Level I ... 12
Patterns of Effective Family Therapy, Level II . . 54
Summary 86
PART
II
Introduction 95
Calibrated Communication Cycle 101
Feedback Communication Cycle 112
Gathering Information 117
Transforming the System 137
Consolidating Changes 166
Summary 173
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Epilogue 179
Further Reading 181
Bibliography 185