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NEWSLETTER \ Issue 27 \ Summer 2010
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Antony Grey, perhaps 
the greatest 
campaigner for gay 
PredAtory
rights this country has ever 
seen, died on 30th April this  Anne Lister
year, aged 82. His work for 
the Homosexual Law Reform 
lesbiAn..?
Society and the Albany Trust 
are well-known and well-
documented. Ourstorian, Linda 
interviewed Antony in his West 
London home in 2007 and was  What a joy it was to attend Helena  was that Anne’s so-called ‘prey’ enjoyed the 
pleased to discover, first of all,  Whitbread’s talk about nineteenth  attentions they received so much they willingly 
that this charming, intelligent  century lesbian diarist, Anne  entered into marriage-type relationships with 
man with a keen sense of justice  Lister, at Hove Library recently. Helena has  her! 
was a fellow-Libran. The purpose  spent about 25 years working on the diaries  As far as I can see, having read the diaries 
of the interview was to garner  and translating the secret code in which  myself, the only way Anne can be seen as 
Antony’s memories of his visits to  intimate details of Anne’s life are written. She  predatory is if you regard being a lesbian as 
Brighton. He recalled his first trip  has published two books of extracts from  inately predatory – otherwise, she’s simply making 
here at Easter 1950, not very long  Anne’s diaries: I Know My Own Heart and  the first move. There is no doubt that she has 
after the war when Brighton was still  No Priest But Love and is now working on a  to think carefully about how she’s going to do 
Antony Grey in the 1940s
a bit shabby but being painted up.  biography. Warm-hearted and appreciative  this – in the absence of any lesbian community, 
He’d been attracted to Brighton because it was  Asked if the arrival of the Gay Liberation  of both Anne’s activities and  her potential lovers are 
Her gaydar  
the only town in the country with a reputation  Front had come as a surprise, he replied: “It  her personality, Helena’s  following social convention 
for being a good place to go if you were gay –  came as a complete surprise – not to me but  k).  talk provided an antidote  was in good  (and economic necessity) and 
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“Brighton and Amsterdam were the two places  to people like Lord Arran and Leo Abse, who  co. to the, at times, poisonous  working order... playing heterosexual. As she 
that attracted one for holidays.” He stayed at  fondly believed that once they’d decriminalised  on. documentary, Revealing Anne  received very few brush-offs, 
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the Old Ship Hotel and discovered: “the bitches  homosexuality they could put the lid on it  c Lister, screened on BBC2 last month. Fronted  it seems she was adept at reading signals – her 
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beach, where I got my fingers burnt in a sense  and it would all go back quietly underground  er by gay comedian, Sue Perkins, this peculiar  Gaydar was in good working order. In thinking 
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because I was naïve and idealistic in those days  and people would not make an exhibition of  @fr programme was unlike any other television  about Anne’s behaviour, I am constantly reminded 
and I didn’t realise how bitchy  themselves.It got me into  nfo history I’ve ever seen. Using the brand of chirpy  of stories in Ourstory’s two books: Daring Hearts 
some of these people could  People would not  terribly bad odour with the  n (i sneering that currently counts as comedy, Sue  about Brighton in the 1950s and ‘60s and Barbara 
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be – and were. It was a good  make an exhibition  gay movement because they  cks spent the first half of the programme painting  Bell’s life story. Looking for love, sex and ‘marriage’ 
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education.” He remembered  of themselves... thought I was an agent of a  er  Anne as ‘predatory’ and ignoring the testimony  in those unsympathetic days required both 
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with great affection a  very paternalistic attitude.”  a of scholars with a much deeper understanding  strategy and intuition – and on occasion a little 
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she gave support and accommodation to  but that the only honour he’d really value was  sig came through loud and clear from Helena’s talk  her personality by laying bare her innermost 
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books from Nina; a copy of the DVD  Pr lovely lolly
“a strong supporter of the Homosexual Law  own platform by writing a Blog. We all in this  nt  When Helena Whitbread published her 
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Reform Society and raised money for it by doing  country – and the Commonwealth - owe a debt  m ● We’d like to say a great big thank-you  first book in 1988, she turned the world of 
the Dioscese of Chichester a framed  entertainment evenings. None of the London  of gratitude to Antony for his pioneering work  eau to everyone who shows their support for  lesbian history on it’s head – here for the 
photograph and obituary of the much- clubs did anything of the sort.”  and achievements. by B Ourstory by sending money or enabling funds  first time was incontrovertible evidence 
loved Father Marcus Riggs, who founded  ed  to come our way – every penny counts and  that nineteenth century women had sex 
the Open Door centre for people living  A feAst of tAlents... nt
Pri none is wasted. As well as contributions from  with each other and weren’t just romantic 
with HIV and AIDS. 10.  individuals, we have welcomed this year the  friends. Somehow, though, it seems we 
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What a brilliant night we had with our LGBT  followed by some of today’s young lesbian  y 2 support of Brighton & Hove City Council  can’t quite cope with that – we can’t 
History Month event on 26th February. Taking  singers – and a veteran or two. Special thanks  stor from their Small Grants and Equalities &  just celebrate this fact and feel a deep 
over the whole of Jubilee Library with a 400- and appreciation go to Nicky Mitchell for  Our Inclusion budgets, of the Sussex Community  connection to our lesbian past. We have 
strong audience, we performed Ourstory’s hit  co-ordinating the event, to Eric Page for the  on  Foundation, who have made grants from the  to demonise Anne Lister – where does 
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show, The Lavender Lounge Bar – memories  décor and Brighton & Hove City Council for  g Grassroots and Sports Relief funds and from  that come from?
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and songs from a 1960s gay club. This was  providing the funds. ©  the Co-operative Bank to enable work on  Linda Pointing
our website and in particular to allow online 
donations and sales. Along with everyone else 
brighton ourstory PO Box 2861, Brighton BN1 1UN we’ll be looking for ways to beat the austerity  Visit us online at www.brightonourstory.co.uk
measures – all bright ideas welcome!
JoHn 
Jane and Tash in  HAylock
rehearsal for Pulp
Programme for 
Curfew – a nightmare 
scenario of the future 
where a lesbian under-
ground resists en- John Haylock considered Brighton to be 
forced control by men,  his home in the short periods he was 
assisted by heroines 
not away in places far from England. He 
from the past.
spent his early adult life as a wartime soldier in 
the Middle East and Greece. While still in the 
army and at age of 28, his seduction by a “slim 
Egyptian lad with dark burning eyes in a white 
skullcap and galabea” finally persuaded him 
he was gay. He realised life for a homosexual 
in Britain in 1946 would not be an easy one. 
Soon after demobilisation, he left for a teaching 
Jude as Wonder 
job in Iraq. Over the ensuing years he visited 
Woman in Curfew
and taught in many other countries, but Japan 
was where he stayed longest and formed the 
greatest attachment. 
siren When I knew him around 1969, John shared  John Haylock
   5, Powis Grove, an elegant Brighton house with 
Tom Skeffington-Lodge and a young Japanese 
tHeAtre comPAny friend. A sixtyish upper-crust Labour MP in 
the Tom Driberg mould, Skeffington-Lodge  derek And 
also adopted Driberg’s reckless approach 
thirty years ago, at the height of the  be shed on it.” The play toured extensively to  to casual sex, offering hitchhikers lifts in his 
fervent, fizzing, feminist movement,  small towns all round the country and in Holland,  vintage Rolls. Skeffington-Lodge was loud 
tHe duke
three young women decided to set  hosted by local women’s liberation groups.  and, in small doses, could be outrageous 
up a lesbian theatre company. They called  Tash remembers that people found it quite  fun. John, by contrast, was understated. 
it Siren. Sitting on the wonky roof terrace of  shocking: “…even people with the same kind of  He proved to be better company and 
the illustrious women’s household at 95a, St  radical ideas as us were saying they hadn’t seen  wryly amusing. John’s laughter was 
James’s Street, Tash Fairbanks, Jane Boston  anything like this before…women would come  infectious, his face creasing like an  snogging in the back seats of a  The end of that evening is a bit of a blur. I 
and Jude Winter began the intensely creative  up and say, ‘I’ve never told anyone, but actually  engaging Cheshire Cat. He was inquisitive  cinema, most of us have done it at  have a feeling Derek and everyone went on to 
process of producing their first play, Mama’s  I’m a lesbian.’” and keenly observant. He had considerable  one time or another. But this isn’t a  the Zap club but I’m not sure. One thing I do 
Gone A-Hunting. They called for inspiration on  Tash and Jane were lovers when Siren started  taste, with wide interests in literature and art. I  tale about snogging, but about a cinema, The  know, I never did get the t-shirt…
the latest feminist texts – books that split open  and Jude was on the brink of becoming a  met John through David Atkin, companion of  Duke of York’s to be precise, which opened  Alf
conventional thinking with a double-headed axe  lesbian – she began an enduring relationship with  author Francis King. John had known Francis  the impact of the East on visiting westerners  its doors 100 years ago this September.
and laid bare the lies that  Debs Trethewey, who came  since 1950, when he and Desmond Stewart  and the impact of the West on Japanese men  To celebrate its centenary, memories of 
Jude was on the 
women had for centuries  on board as Siren’s technician  stayed with Francis in Florence. One evening,  befriended by them. As Peter Burton remarked  the cinema are currently being collected 
been persuaded to believe  brink of becoming  for their second play, Curfew.  David took us on an expedition to Hastings  in his obituary in ‘The Independent’ after John’s  and Ourstory were delighted to be able to 
about themselves. In the  a lesbian... There was plenty for Debs to  old town. Over a candlelit dinner enhanced by  death in Brighton in 2006, “His novels may have  share something from our archive.
play, Women decide to  do, not just with the sound and  agreeable waiters, Francis and John unveiled  had something serious to say, but whatever  On 21 April 1988 Derek Jarman came 
leave planet Earth and Men try to stop them on  light systems but designing and building sets:  the secrets of discreet drinking holes along the  point he had to make Haylock made it with such  to The Duke of York’s with his new film The 
the grounds that they would be taking away  “The set for Now Wash Your Hands, Please, a  Sussex coast, proof that gay life did – and still  Last of England, organised in conjunction 
A candlelit dinner 
their life-support. An intergalactic judge is called  giant toilet seat, was a work of art in a way. It  does – exist outside the mecca of Brighton. with Brighton Action Against Clause 28. 
enhanced by 
upon to hear evidence on both sides. Siren’s  measured about fourteen feet by nine feet and all  John was an author and journalist. His  The evening featured one of his earlier films 
plays were hard-hitting but funny, too and  had to come apart and fit into a transit van.” entertaining autobiography about his life abroad,  agreeable waiters... Caravaggio, followed by Derek Jarman 
music played an important part. Tash played  In all, Siren produced eight plays with strong  ‘Eastern Exchange’, was published in 1997. It  decrying Clause 28 and the Conservative 
saxaphone, Jude, synthesiser and Jane guitar  lesbian themes but the pinnacle of their success  was only moderately revealing, at least about his  a lightness of touch that his readers often found  government’s attempt to make ‘promoting 
and they composed music and lyrics to move  came in 1985 with the thriller,  Pulp, which  inner self or about his partner of 20 years, Hiro  themselves laughing out loud.” homosexuality’ illegal.
the action along.  featured a very popular kiss. Jude recalls: “there  Asami. Of his sexual self we learn a little. During  John moved to live in a converted police  I have a personal memory of that night as I 
Mama’s Gone A-Hunting opened at the  was a romance between the characters and that  a 1962 trip to Luang Prabang in Laos, he notes  station in Cyprus not long after I got to know  was there with my then boyfriend, upstairs at 
Marlborough Theatre in Brighton – amid some  was the first time we’d done that. We played  that the only hotel “had a Vietnamese cook, a  him. There he had the 85 year-old Duncan Grant  the back… Anyhow, there was a fundraising 
confusion, as the creative process had been  to packed houses at the Drill Hall in London for  handsome young man, who was competent  come to stay and, for several months, a friend of  raffle and I managed to win a signed t-shirt. I 
so exciting no-one had stopped to write a  four weeks and were voted Time Out’s Best  not only in the kitchen.” John wrote a number of  mine recovering from illness. He was as kind in  had a bad cold and knew Derek Jarman was 
script. There came a point at which none of  Performance of the Season. There was a feature  novels and these probably tell us more about the  life as he was generous in spirit. HIV positive so my boyfriend went down and 
them could remember what came next. Jane  in The Face, which was a huge coup at the time.  person he was. They are set in Japan, exploring  Mark Rowlands collected it off Derek.
recalls: “nobody knew what the next line was  For the first time we were in a venue that had a 
because nobody had written it down! I think it  publicity machine. We were on a fee as well…” 
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was Jude went scrabbling round the back for  Beset by demons creative, emotional and 
a scrap of paper to see if there was any light to  political Siren sadly dissolved in 1990.