Beyond Addiction Book PDF

336 Pages·2013·3.91 MB·English

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Beyond
Addiction
HOW SCIENCE AND KINDNESS
HELP PEOPLE CHANGE
A Guide for Families
JEFFREY FOOTE, PHD, CARRIE WILKENS, PHD,
AND NICOLE KOSANKE, PHD
WITH STEPHANIE HIGGS
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Clients and cases discussed are based on composites.
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For everyone who is hoping and working for change.
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In a gentle way, you can shake the world.
—Mahatma Gandhi
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Contents
Foreword by Robert J. Meyers, PhD, and
Jane Ellen Smith, PhD xiii
Where to Start
Introduction: Hope in Hell 3
PART ONE
What to Know
1. What Is Addiction? 27
2. Motivation: Why Do People Change? 44
3. Change: How Do People Change? 69
PART TWO
How to Cope
4. Start Where You Are 89
5. Self-Care I: Damage Control 102
6. Have Your Limits 119
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x CONTENTS
PART THREE
How to Help
7. Start Where They Are 133
8. Goals (and Problems) 142
9. Positive Communication 157
10. Reinforcement: The Driver of Change 174
11. Consequences 191
12. Treatment Options 207
13. Suggesting Treatment 236
14. During Treatment 247
PART FOUR
Live Your Life
15. Self-Care II: Building a Life 269
Acknowledgments 285
Appendix: When Is It an Emergency? 287
Resources 291
Notes 293
Index 307
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