Table Of ContentWritten by Dan – The Modern Man
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Becoming a Man Who Naturally Attracts Women
TABLE OF CONTENTS
The Author 4
Introduction 6
Chapter 1: Getting started 7
• 1. Momentum.
• 2. Reading this book with self-discipline.
• 3. Understanding vs. understanding + being able to do it.
• 4. This is like learning a musical instrument.
• 5. The past does not equal the future.
Chapter 2: Preparing for the journey 10
• The Four Stages of Learning.
• The reality of an attractive woman.
• What seems logical isn’t always right.
• What’s in a song?
• Mindsets.
• 6-Step Goal Setting Formula.
Chapter 3: The Flow 22
1. Begin an interaction 22
• What you can say to kick things off.
• She isn’t talking much. It must mean she doesn’t like me!
• Ladies! Whoah! *whistle*
• Pick-up persona.
• Whoahhhhh!! She’s HOT!
• Assume rapport.
• Getting some practice.
• Emotionally guarded conversation is not attractive.
• Relax.
• Project your voice.
• Don’t use submissive or apologetic body language or voice tones.
• Don’t try to be too perfect, but don’t let her knock you.
• Don’t lean or peck in.
• The 3-second rule.
• Beginning interactions with ‘openers’.
• Situational openers.
• Statement openers.
• Direct openers.
2. Spark the attraction 39
• Nervousness.
• Dominant reality: Whose reality is it anyway?
• Losing control of your reality.
• Status: The silent power.
• Status: Life.
• Status: Women.
• The status gap.
• Choose whether you react or not.
• Body language & status cues.
• Cool vs. Trying to be cool.
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• Social proof.
• What do women REALLY want?
• Personality traits: Confident, Masculine, Funny, Unpredictable, A gentleman, Sexual, Stylish, Adventurous, Socially
intelligent, Ambitious.
3. Establish genuine rapport 94
• Calibrating.
• Magnetic balance.
• Talking from your perspective.
• Work out what sort of women you want.
• Neediness.
• Vibing.
• What to talk about.
• Compliments.
4. Take things to the next level 109
• The Four Stages of Interest.
• I can’t believe I am doing this!
• Being alone together.
• Touch.
• Getting phone numbers.
• Before making the call.
• The first call.
• Setting up a meet.
• When a woman is being vague or difficult about meeting up.
• We set up our first date and she cancelled!
• What do to on a date.
Closing message 123
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TThhee AAuutthhoorr
Hi there
Thanks for purchasing my book.
I thought I’d write you a personal note and tell you a little about myself and why I wrote this book.
To start with, here are a couple of photos of me and the crew at our first ever 1-Day Seminar in
Melbourne on 10th December 2005.
It was an awesome day.
The Seminar was the culmination of years of research, practice, planning and preparation and when the
time came to deliver, I couldn’t have been more proud of Ben, Sev and Stu. Together, we delivered some
amazing messages to a room of over 40 guys from all around Victoria, Australia.
What drew me to this field?
I simply got to a point where I wasn’t happy about my success with women and dating. Although I
believed that I was a great guy and had been in a number of relationships with women; something just
wasn’t right.
When I stopped to think about it, I realized that I had basically been ‘getting lucky’ and hooking up with
women as they came along. As a result, the relationships weren’t very personally fulfilling.
I wanted to be able to meet amazing women that I respected and actually wanted in my life; women who
I could have a much deeper experience with.
I wanted to have the ability to meet new women and not have to worry about this part of my life any
more.
I wanted it to be NATURAL.
But, there was just one catch…
I wasn’t very good at meeting new women. In fact, much like 99% of men on this planet, the idea of
going to a social venue and approaching women I didn’t know made me feel a little uneasy.
So I stopped and thought about how I could change that.
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I then made a solid commitment to myself and promised that I would work on this area of my life until I
was completely comfortable with it. I wanted to eliminate any fears of interacting with new women, and
wanted to learn how to make the process easy, enjoyable and natural.
And I did.
Without fail, a good friend and I would go out to bars and clubs every weekend to socialize. In between
going out, running a business and working full-time I would read books and articles, listen to audio
programs and watch DVDs on the related subjects.
When the weekend came around I would go out again and apply what I had learnt in the real world.
It’s now a little over two years later and my life has changed in indescribable ways. Rather than attempt
to tell you how I feel, I will ask you:
Can you imagine what it feels like to KNOW that women find you highly attractive?
Can you imagine the confidence you will gain from that knowledge?
Well, you won’t have to imagine any longer. I am about to share what took me literally thousands of hours
of researching, practicing, analyzing, discussing and revising to learn.
This book is the product of my journey to become more naturally attractive to women. It contains all of
the wisdom I acquired along the way, and I offer it now to you in the hope that whatever your current
situation is with women, whatever your past experiences and future goals are, this book will assist you
along the way.
Thanks again and let’s get started.
DDDDaaaannnn
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IInnttrroodduuccttiioonn
It’s always exciting when you buy a new instructional book, and I’m sure you’ll be wondering what
great things you can learn from this one.
In short, you will be exposed to certain categories of information designed to help you become a man
who naturally attracts women.
These are:
a) Mindsets: Your personal psychology.
How to think like a man who is naturally attractive to women.
b) Behaviors: Your actions.
How to behave like a man who is naturally attractive to women.
c) Non-verbal communication: Your body language.
How to communicate in ways that are naturally attractive without using words.
d) Verbal communication: Your words.
How to speak with a woman in a way that naturally generates attraction.
e) Perspective: Your perspective.
How to broaden your perspective and gain a deeper understanding of what is really going on
between men and women.
While also including the right amount of background theory to broaden your perspective, this book has
been structured around The Flow of a natural sexual courtship:
1. Begin an interaction.
2. Spark the attraction.
3. Establish genuine rapport.
4. Take things to the next level.
It has been written in this way to get you accustomed to The Flow and to understand why, for
example, you should spark attraction with a woman before attempting to establish genuine rapport.
All of this information has been tried and tested.
Each weekend, Clients taking a Modern Man Lifestyle Course are exposed to it all by our Coaches are
and shown first-hand, how it works in real-life.
It has been perfected.
It has proven itself effective time and time again.
It is now yours to keep.
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Chapter 1: Getting started
1. Momentum
Your life is about to change.
What once seemed like a daunting task will soon start feeling like a very NATURAL part of your life.
However, let’s be realistic.
This is a journey and like most things of value, it takes TIME.
Let me ask you a question…
Can you face the prospect of practicing over the next 6 months to 12 months until you begin to grasp
the concepts, behaviors and attitudes of a man who naturally attracts women?
Picture yourself practicing in all sorts of social situations.
Picture the rewards of being able to meet and attract women anytime, anyplace.
Can you commit to practicing until you get it?
Excellent.
I will now give you a very important piece of advice for your journey:
Remember to create MOMENTUM for yourself by recognizing and celebrating your mini-successes.
What do I mean by that?
Let’s say you approach a woman and she becomes attracted to you, but then you mess it up after a
few moments/minutes.
That’s okay!
Celebrate the successful part (she was attracted to you) and acknowledge the parts you need to
improve on.
Walk away and say, “Okay, what did I learn? What went well? What do I need to do better next time?”
Then approach another woman, and begin the process again.
2. Reading this book with self-discipline
For those of you who simply can’t wait to get to the tips, techniques and practical examples: Feel free
to skip to Chapter 3 and then revisit Chapter 1 & 2 later.
For those of you who want to PRACTICE SELF-DISCIPLINE and read this book with a CLEAR PURPOSE: I
guarantee that you will get a lot more out of each section if you work with the flow of the book.
Onward!
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3. Understanding vs. understanding + being able to do it
Anyone can say, “Yeah, I understand that…it makes sense.”
But can those same people do it?
Think about it.
Most guys can UNDERSTAND that they need to be confident and not worry about being rejected when
approaching a woman to begin an interaction. But, when it ‘comes to the crunch’ they just can’t do it.
Suddenly, they become paralyzed by their fear of rejection. The confidence they spoke about is
nowhere to be seen.
It is one thing to understand something and another to be able to do it.
Remember that.
4. This is like learning a musical instrument
If you want this area of your life to become NATURAL and EASY, then you will need to PRACTICE.
Let’s imagine that you’re learning to play the guitar...
In the beginning you struggle to play a few notes. Then, with a bit of practice you’re able to play short
pieces.
A smile creases your face.
“Wow… I did it!”
You keep practicing.
A month later you can play a full song. Three months later you can play an elaborate instrumental for
your friends or family.
You feel comfortable with a guitar in your hands.
Something that was once an AWKWARD CHALLENGE is now becoming fun.
One day, you reach a point of being able to pick up the guitar and launch right into playing something
beautiful without having to think about it.
It has become NATURAL.
Your experiences on your journey to become a man who naturally attracts women will closely mirror
this. At first a lot of what is suggested in these pages may seem awkward or difficult. Some of it may
even feel UNNATURAL when you try it.
Eventually however, you WILL feel comfortable interacting with women in the manner suggested. Like
the example of learning to play the guitar, a once awkward challenge will become enjoyable and
natural.
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5. The past does not equal the future
Forget your past with women.
This is a new beginning.
Forget what you’ve been told about women and dating from friends, family and TV – most people are
not speaking from personal experience, and have simply lifted their ‘knowledge’ from convenient
media sources such as magazines and television.
You are NOW taking charge of your life and have the RIGHT information at your fingertips to succeed.
If you can make a REAL commitment to yourself to get this area of your life handled, then you have a
lot of fun times to look forward to.
Chapter Summary
During this chapter we discussed some key points to remember as you get started on your journey.
They were:
1. Create momentum for yourself by celebrating your mini-successes.
2. The difference between understanding something and understanding and being able to do it.
3. That the past does not equal the future.
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Chapter 2: Preparing for the journey
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We’ll now briefly look at The Four Stages of Learning.
I didn’t invent this learning model, but it is often used to describe the stages we go through as we
learn a new skill; working our way from complete ignorance to instinctive ability.
I’ve included a short overview of The Four Stages of Learning in this book because like any other skill,
learning to naturally attract women is a process that progresses in stages. It will help you realize and
BELIEVE that YOU CAN BECOME more successful with women and dating if you just stick at it and
PRACTICE.
We’ll use ‘getting a woman’s phone number’ as an example of how things can eventually become
NATURAL for you.
Stage 1: Unconscious Incompetence
This is where any learner starts.
He is not aware that it is possible to obtain a woman’s phone number. Further, he is not even aware of
his ignorance to it.
To get to the next stage, he will need to become aware that men will often ask a woman for her phone
number, and that he is completely ignorant to how it is done.
Stage 2: Conscious Incompetence
The learner has become aware that certain behaviors and skills are required.
He becomes aware that it is normal to get a woman’s phone number, but is unsure of how to go about
it. He realizes that although other people know how to do it, he does not.
He wonders how others do it. He becomes determined to learn, but as yet has no knowledge and is
unable to obtain a woman’s phone number.
He becomes aware of his ignorance.
Note: Most readers may find themselves in between Stages 2 & 3 for most topics in the book. However,
I have to stop and remind you of something:
It is one thing to understand something and another to be able to do it.
Stage 3: Conscious Competence
The learner is able to execute the moves with conscious thought and effort.
He has learned the processes required to get a woman’s phone number, but they have not yet become
automated. He has to think through each stage carefully In order to do it successfully.
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