The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top

306 Pages·2007·0.96 MB·English

by  Steve Santagati

T HE MANUAL
A True Bad Boy Explains How Men
Think, Date, and Mate—and What
Women Can Do to Come Out on Top
Steve Santagati
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The M a n u al

M a n u al
ATrue Bad Boy Explains How Men
Think, Date, and Mate—and What
Women Can Do to Come Out on Top
STEVE SANTAGATI
with Arianne Cohen
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Crown Publishers
New York
Copyright © 2007 by Steve Santagati
All rights reserved-
Published in the United States by Crown Publishers* an imprint of the Crown
Publishing Group, a division of Random House, Inc., New York.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Santagati, Steve.
The manual: a true bad boy explains how men think, date, and mate—and what
women can do to come out on top / Steve Santagati. — 1st ed.
p. cm.
1. Men—Psychology, 2. Dating (Social customs). 3. Man-woman relation
ships. I. Title.
HQ1090.S326 2007
64677082—dc22 2006034128
elSBN: 978-0-307-39423-1
Design by Lauren Dong
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This book is dedicated to every woman who flirted with me, slept with
me, slapped me, beat me at my own game, broke my heart or my ego,
taught me "how to" and "how not to." To every woman who under
stood me—who, in spite of myself, forgave me, dumped me, loved
me, took care of me, befriended me, or tortured me. This book is
dedicated to every curve of a woman's body, every lock of hair, every
mischievous smirk, soft hands, lingerie, foreign accent, scream of
outrage, sensitive vulnerability, beautiful kiss, warm hug, every body
type out there, and everything that makes women the most beautiful
creatures to look at and be around on the planet.

Contents
Introduction 1
Part I THE HEART OF THE BAD BOY
Chapter 1 Who Is a Bad Boy? 6
Chapter 2 Who He's Not 9
Chapter 3 The Myth of the Nice Guy 12
Chapter 4 Do You Like Bad Boys? A Quiz 16
Chapter 5 How Bad Boys Bring Out the Best in Women 21
Chapter 6 The Nurture of the Beast 24
Part H INSIDE THE MALE MIND:
HOW HE SEES YOU
Chapter? Window Dressing 29
Chapter 8 The Rest of the Closet 31
Chapter 9 Halloween Tricks 36
Chapter 10 Bum's the Word 39
Chapter 11 Cleavage, and Other Reasons to Wear a Shirt Well 42
Chapter 12 Get a Leg Up 46
Chapter 13 Body Beautiful: Makeup, Don't Break Up 49
Chapter 14 The Tomboy: You Don't Have to Dress Up to Get Down
Chapter IS Things Are Getting Hairy 54
Chapter 16 Shape Up, Shape Out 56
Chapter 1? Confidence Is Sexy! 59
Chapter 18 Porn Explained 62
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Chapter 19 Self-Confidence 66
Chapter 20 From Business Card to Bombshell 69
Chapter 21 Beauty and the Brains 23
Part III THE HUNT: BOYS ON THE TOWN
Chapter 22 Moving in Fast 29
Chapter 23 What's My Line? 85
Chapter 24 Open for Business 24/2 88
Chapter 25 Practice Flirting 92
Chapter 26 Checkout 98
Chapter 2? An Exercise Bike Built for Two 102
Chapter 28 You Can Do It, and I Can Help 106
Chapter 29 Take the Plunge (and the Wave and the Jump]
Chapter 30 Night Moves 113
Chapter 31 Love Online? 11?
Chapter 32 Fly Like an Eagle with a "Wingman" 125
Part IV BOY MEETS GIRL
Chapter 33 Datingon the Clock 128
Chapter 34 The Anti-Date 131
Chapter 35 Right Place, Right Time 134
Chapter 36 Head Games 138
Chapter 3? Tic-Tac-Yo 141
Chapter 38 Sext Messaging 148
Chapter 39 Tough Call 153
Chapter 40 Naughty by Nature 15?
Chapter 41 Be a Tease 162
Chapter 42 Second Base 164
Chapter 43 Resist Arrest 166
Chapter 44 Spontaneous Combustion 169
Chapter 45 Laying the Groundwork 1?4
Chapter 46 Below the Belt 182
Chapter 4? Black Widows 189
Chapter 48 Auction Annie 197