Table Of ContentReversing Fear
The Secret Ability
of Every Powerful Person
by Paul Melinte
Reversing Fear
The Secret Ability
of Every Powerful Person
Thank you for requesting this free download! This article is about an emotion that may
accompany any of the five habits that you will learn about through reading my ebook, Be
Your Best Self! Five Powerful Habits of a Mentally Strong Person. You’ll hear more
about that book at the end of this article. But first, let me tell you just a little bit about
who I am….
I was born on February 5, 1985, in a little village in Romania.
Romania is a picturesque country in the southeast of Europe, but compared to most
western countries, is quite poor and undeveloped, especially in the rustic regions.
As a child I was quite shy and began spending a lot of time reading books.
I started with novels, and then moved on to psychology books, astrology, esotericism,
business books, political analysis articles, self development, psychiatry, and so on. I
actually read everything that crossed my path and that piqued my curiosity, especially if
the book was related in some way to subjects like personal evolution, the future, money,
and offered either uncommon or general knowledge.
Not having anyone in my life, either as a child or as an adult, who would share their
interests and passions with me, I often avoided telling people what I was actually
thinking. I was afraid they’d see me as a weird individual. Ironically, that ended up
happening anyway because, unfortunately, reading books or ebooks was not such a
popular habit in my village (especially among children).
At school I handled myself quite well and was one of the top pupils in my class. But the
truth is that I was completely bored with most of my classes (often due to the teachers)
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and in those classes I never gave my all. In contrast, when I really liked a class, I worked
to my fullest capacities and got the highest grades.
After finishing high school, I didn’t have enough money to attend a good university, nor
did I have any idea what I wanted to do with my life. So I chose to get a job and I worked
in a variety of places until 2010. That’s when I quit my last job, which was with the
Romanian Army.
Since 2010, I have been working only for me!
It has already been twelve years since I finished high school, and I’ve taken my life
seriously as an adult. I’ve experienced a great deal during this period of my life and I’ve
had a significant number of life lessons.
If I could give you one piece of advice for reading this short download, or about reading
in general, it would be this:
“Don’t EVER forget that the main role of education is not to fill your head with new
information; it’s to bring about beneficial changes in your life, helping you think and act
in better ways, compared to how you thought and acted previously.”
I sincerely hope this article will help to make these changes begin for you.
So now, let the following words introduce you to one way that you can start moving your
life in the direction of your dreams… let’s get into it!
Is it possible that fear can become your best friend and assist you in doing things that
you never thought you’d be capable of doing?
Yes, it’s possible! But for this to happen, you must stop treating your fear as an enemy
and learn to understand that fear is nothing more than a two-edged sword: an edge that
is making you tremble with doubt and an edge that will help you cut through negativity
and overcome limitations.
Mentally strong people understand this very well.
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In fact, this understanding has given birth to one of the most powerful habits of
powerful people: reversing fear.
What does it mean to “reverse fear,” and how can that help you?
Have you ever dreamt of doing something great with your life, but for various reasons,
you never took any steps toward fulfilling that dream because you were paralyzed with
fear?
What if, in such situations, rather than letting the fear paralyze you, you consciously
chose to use it to your advantage?
What if you were to establish, precisely because of fear, much bigger dreams than those
that are frightening you in the first place?
Is that really possible? Well, I believe it is, but it can sometimes be quite difficult. Still, it
is very much worth the effort, and I wouldn’t be talking about this topic if I hadn’t
experimented with this question myself, at least two times in my life.
The first time was in January of 2010. At that time, I was working for the Ministry of
National Defense in Romania. I had what one might call “a secure job.” There was only
one problem: I wasn’t earning enough money.
So, taking advantage of the fact that I had plenty of free time, I decided to look for a
second job. I ended up working part time as a real estate agent, in what happened to be
a very slow market.
Even though it was such a poor market at the time, I eventually started realizing that if I
were to work full time in real estate, and start my own company, I’d make a lot more
money than I would by keeping my job in the military and working only part time in real
estate.
I also realized that there were additional advantages, such as not having a boss to stress
me out, no tight schedule, the possibility of setting up my own rules and procedures, etc.
Basically, it was a beautiful dream, but…
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... I had no money stashed away (in fact, I was even in debt) and I was also renting an
apartment in Bucharest (the capital of Romania), quite an expensive city compared to
other cities in the country.
I recognized that I had to choose one of two options:
I could be satisfied with the little I had, remain in the military field, and give
up the real estate job (I could no longer do both); or
I could take a risk, quit my job, borrow several hundred dollars to start my
own business, and pray that in the first month I’d earn enough money to pay
for at least my rent and food… gambling that my risk would pay off in having a
better life!
I think you can imagine it was a hell of a tough choice.
If I took the risk and resigned from the army, the future could end up mighty bleak
because I could be left without any money and few prospects.
I admit that, for a while, I thought my life wasn’t all that bad, and maybe if I remained in
the army, someday the wages might increase and I’d be happier with my situation.
But then a miracle happened.
Without consciously realizing it, I was able to reverse my fear and I made one of the best
decisions of my life.
Suddenly, I understood that if I were to quit my job and fail to make it on my own in the
real estate business, the only thing I risked was having to return to my parents’ house in
my hometown and live without a dime in my pocket for a while.
I admit that I was terrified at the time of that situation, however, because doing this
wouldn’t just affect me, but my family as well.
But then I asked myself another question: if I were to remain in the army, what
opportunities would I actually be losing?
I sat with this important question a long time, and the answer that finally came to me
drastically changed my life. I remembered that my greatest dream was to become an
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entrepreneur. My dream wasn’t to work in the military. In fact, I ran from the army my
entire life and only ended up with that job because I had been misinformed.
The longer I held this question in mind, and the more clarity I gained about my options,
the greater my fear was of losing the real opportunity in front of me to become an
entrepreneur. My initial fear that I might have to live for a time without money became
increasingly smaller.
I recognized that I wouldn’t actually be losing any opportunities of value to me by
leaving my army job, and I finally got to the point that it seemed silly to be scared of
possibly having to be without money for a while.
I wrote my resignation letter with a smile.
This is what it’s like to reverse your fear. And thanks to that process, it’s been more than
five years since I’ve been an employee.
Did I make the right choice? You bet I did!
I’ve gone through heavy moments, however. Yes, I’ve gone through some very heavy
moments!
In the first years, I managed quite well in real estate, even having some great gains in
my first month. But after about two years, the real estate crisis forced me into another
career change.
After investing so much time, hope, and energy into studying and working in the real
estate business, I had to reverse my fear all over again.
But because I had such success doing that the first time around, I was ready to do it
again.
This time I switched to online marketing. I can say with pride that my business got to
the point where I was able to earn as much in under 24 hours of work as I had earned in
an entire month as a military man.
This pales in comparison, however, to what I could have done if I had made reversing
my fear a daily habit!
This is what the richest and most powerful people in the world have done.
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While I have reversed my fear accidentally two times in recent years, such people have
made it a daily habit.
Although I’m not a millionaire (yet), I learned about this from Tai Lopez, a super
intelligent man who also happens to be a millionaire.
At one point, he stated that he has friends who are multi-millionaires, maybe even
billionaires, who are trying to reverse their fears all the time, no matter what happens,
good or bad.
For example, if one of these guys were to break up with his girlfriend, before going into
self-pity and gloom he would ask himself: what was the opportunity cost of this
relationship?
In other words, what was I losing by having this relationship, and what are the
opportunities that I can now enjoy since it has ended?
I’m not saying that the man is devoid of feelings, superficial, or some other negative
label you might want to apply. He has simply learned how to manage his emotions and
focus on his dreams.
And while it might seem like this is nothing more than the classic advice to see the full
cup/bright side of things, the truth is that it’s much more than that.
Because if you were to go to that same man and say something like, “Hey, I have a deal
for you that will bring you $1 million,” he would be very upset!
Why? It’s simple!
He’ll think of you as distracting him from his dream of making hundreds of millions or
even $1 billion per year.
Unlike many of us, mentally strong people know that businesses and opportunities are
like trains: a new one is always coming into the station, but few are those that take you
to your destination. Of those that do, some take you there faster, others more slowly.
That’s exactly why you need to be very selective about which train you take, and you
must refuse to listen to your little fears that are constantly repeating: “If you don’t get
onto that one, no others will come your way.”
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This doesn’t mean that you should be negligent and get on no trains. It means that when
you do get on a train, you need to be certain that it’s the best train you will ever be on in
that moment.
And if you ever feel like you should get onto a train, but you are afraid, you should ask
yourself: what will I really lose if I miss this train?
And now … here’s what I suggest you do, so that you can be certain that you haven’t
wasted any time reading this short ebook:
Choose the most important thing you want, but are afraid, to do.
Contemplate for several minutes, or an hour or more, what you will really lose
if you don’t do it.
I hope you have found this information to be useful!
If you like what you’ve read here, I invite you to check out my ebook, Be Your Best Self!
Five Powerful Habits of a Mentally Strong Person. It’s a content-packed ebook that will
help you to quickly and easily change your life and reach your dreams by changing your
habits. Click the link below to read more about it and make a purchase:
http://www.rqmind.com/5-habits
Thank you for your interest! I truly want to help you become the person you want to be
so that you can fulfill your dreams, and I will be producing more ebooks soon for this
purpose. By requesting this free download, you will now be among the first to know
when my next ebook is published!
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