Table Of ContentTable of contents
About this book
How high is your bar?
Sugar, the devil in disguise
Secondary Payoffs
The Velcro
Whats love got to do with it?
Self-hatred
About beliefs
Hypnosis - F.A.Q
5 Step Self-hypnosis
Reframing visualization - exercise
Cutting the dependencies - exercise
Maintaining the changes
The Author - Connect - Free MP3
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About this book
Nothing works without self-love
It´s crucial to love yourself at a core level, in order to control what
you eat and drink. Your self-love is the filter between you and what
you ingest.
If the aforementioned filter has big holes, anything will pass.
Reversely, if the filter is more dense, then it´s easier to stop what is
entering. This book shows you how to enhance your self-love, and
use this self-love as a powerful tool and resource, to lose weight
and improve your general health.
It´s also a practical guide, how to easily put yourself into hypnosis,
using self-hypnosis. How to access your subconscious mind, replace
old and outdated beliefs with new and contemporary beliefs, and
how to maintain them.
The book also contains a number of simple steps for creating
wonderful powerful affirmations, that actually get accepted by the
subconscious mind.
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In this book you will learn to:
✓ Understand why you overeat.
✓ Understand why loving yourself, is crucial for your weight-loss.
✓ Master a powerful technique for cutting your dependencies.
✓ Understand and communicate with your subconscious mind.
✓ Master a simple bulletproof self-hypnosis technique.
✓ Learn how to negotiate with your inner parts.
✓ Learn how to reaffirm old self destructive beliefs.
✓ Create a beautiful self-loving slim body.
✓ Maintain and reinforce the changes you create.
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The ever present self-love
How high have you set the bar?
Have you ever thought about, to what extent you love yourself?
How high you have set the bar of your own self-love? Maybe you've
never wondered about that but just lived your life.
One thing is sure though. In everything you do, think, decide, feel
or imagine, the ever present self-love is deeply involved. Whatever
decisions you take, how you handle your relationships, what hopes
and desires you have, your self-love has founded the basis for your
behavior.
The height of the bar has shaped your life.
Let's examine your relationship with other people. Are you afraid of,
what they might think about you? Do you fear their reactions and
attitudes? Are you holding yourself back from expressing yourself?
Are you afraid to speak your mind out?
If you can say yes to some of the aforementioned statements, then
your self-esteem probably is suffering. Why?
Because you live in fear. In fear of what others might think and
believe about you. In fear of being judged, being kept out, being
wrong, failing, that you are a failure. In fear of being worthless.
The fear in you is quite a good indicator, on how high you love
yourself. Maybe some of the answers are found, in the way you
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control your life.
Are you internal or external controlled?
Internal or inner-controlled means, as the word also implies, that
the individual takes its decisions and choices based on inner needs,
desires, dreams, inner values and inner motivation. Externally
controlled individuals take decisions based on what others might
think of them.
The internal controlled person
1. Takes decisions based on own needs, dreams, values, desires.
2. Is largely independent of what others think.
3. Is in contact with his deepest desires and feelings.
4. Is conscious of his own value and right to self-determination.
5. Can make mistakes without being a mistake.
The external controlled person.
1. Makes decisions based on what others think and mean.
2. Withholds own needs and feelings.
3. Does not trust his own judgment.
4. Lets others have control.
5. Is very sensitive to moods and criticism.
Elevator Weight
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The proof that you are symptom treating yourself.
Take a look back in your past, on the fluctuations your weight has
created over the years. Has there been a tendency, that your
weight has moved up and down? Like an elevator?
Maybe you have tried to lose weight in many different ways. Tried
various diets, physical exercises, starving yourself. You may even
have resorted to eating various weight-loss pills, which miraculously
should help you become slim.
If your conclusion is, that your weight has been uncontrollable, and
has fluctuated up and down like an elevator, then you quite likely
have been symptom treating yourself.
When symptom treating yourself, you have been searching for
a solution the wrong place.
"While walking his dog a late evening, a man spotted an elderly
man, standing under a streetlamp, looking up and down the
sidewalk. "Have you lost something?" he asks the man. "Yes, I'm
looking for my house key that fell out of my pocket," says the older
man. "Are you sure that you have lost it right here?". "No, I lost it
over there," the old man replies, pointing into the darkness towards
the other sidewalk, "but there is much more light to search for it
over here".
This is why your weight has fluctuated, no matter how determined
you have been in your quest for becoming slimmer. You have been
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relieving, not resolving.
Deep down in your subconscious mind, all of your old programmings
and limiting beliefs, have been working on full steam. The
subconscious wants to create enjoyment, pleasure and calmness
and it always wins.
Relapse - The story of X
Let us take an example:
A woman, let's call her X, has for the last 20 years been living in a
turbulent relationship with her husband. The marriage has
sometimes been violent, and X has repeatedly subjected herself to
both mental and physical abuse.
For various reasons, however, X has remained in the relationship
despite the unbearable conditions.
Late one night, after another day of humiliation and violence, she
decides that enough is enough, and she leaves her husband.
A few months after X has left her husband, she visits a bar nearby.
Here she meets an unknown man. They start a relationship and
finally end up moving in together.
The first few weeks are okay, but as time goes by, the relationship
slowly evolves towards both physical and mental violence. X is back,
where she always has been, and where she had sworn never to end
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again!
The pattern repeats itself exactly as before, though the woman
deliberately had decided otherwise. Something snaps, and it snaps
in the subconscious mind. Nothing has changed. All of X´s limiting
beliefs are still intact and untouched.
Active subconscious beliefs:
- I do not deserve better
- What I know makes me safe
- It's probably all my fault
- I am a victim, bad things happen to me. I need comfort
- I'm worthless
Let us briefly return to X. Let's say, that our heroine finally manages
to keep herself out of the relationships of the aforementioned
character.
One might assume ( and hope ) that the worst of her troubles are
over. Well in a way, but yet none of her fundamental beliefs have
changed.
The subconscious still performs its work based on X´s pre-
determined level of ( or lack of ) self-love.
Let us assume, that one of the beliefs that X subconsciously has
chosen is:
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I am a victim = bad things always happen to me = I need
comfort
The emotional pattern above is subconscious for X. In other words
it lies beyond her conscious knowledge. That does not mean, its not
functional. On the contrary, it is very active around the clock.
During the day, X senses this activity by getting a strange feeling of
anxiety, emptiness and restlessness. The underlying subconscious
pattern requires release or distraction in some manner.
One of the subconscious minds primary purposes is to satisfy an
immediate need. The subconscious mind quickly scans the memory
for fast solutions, to resolve the unpleasant restlessness that X
feels.
While reviewing the past, the subconscious mind rediscovers
situations, where X (consciously or subconsciously) has been able to
release tension and discomfort.
What just one ice cream can cause.
Let us for a moment look back into the past.
X is 5 years old and outside riding her new bike. Something goes
wrong, and X overturns and bruises her knee. Mummy is fortunately
at home, but busy with an important phone call. She sees her
daughter come crying, but fails to be particularly present, because
of the aforementioned phone call.
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