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GERALD CORESM ARIAINN E SCHN EIDER COREY
I Never Knew
I Had a Choice
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Ninth Edition
I Never Knew
I Had a Choice
Explorations in Personal Growth
Gerald Corey
California State University, Fullerton 
Diplomate in Counseling Psychology 
American Board of Professional Psychology
Marianne Schneider Corey
Consultant
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In memory of our friend Jim Morelock, a searcher who lived and 
died with dignity and self-respect, who struggled and questioned, 
who made the choice to live his days fully until time ran out on him 
at age 25.
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About the 
Authors
GERALD COREY is a Professor Emeritus of Human Services  at 
California State University at Fullerton. He received his doctorate in 
counseling from the University of Southern California. He is a 
Diplomate in Counseling
Psychology, American Board of Professional Psychology; a 
licensed psychologist; a National Certified Counselor; a 
Fellow   of  the  American   Psychological   Association 
(Counseling   Psychology);  a  Fellow   of   the   American 
Counseling Association; and a Fellow of  the Association 
for Specialists in Group Work. Jerry received the Eminent 
Career Award from ASGW in 2001 and the Outstanding 
Professor   of   the  Year  Award  from   California   State 
University at Fullerton in 1991. He regularly teaches both 
undergraduate and  graduate courses in group counseling 
and ethics in counseling. He is the author or coauthor of 
15 textbooks in counseling currently in print, along with 
numerous journal articles. His book, Theory and Practice 
of Counseling and Psychotherapy, has been translated into 
Arabic,  Indonesian,  Portuguese,  Korean,  Turkish,  and 
Chinese.
Theory and Practice of Group Counseling has been translated into 
Korean, Chinese, Spanish, and Russian.
Along with his wife, Marianne Schneider Corey, Jerry often 
presents work- shops in group counseling. In the past 30 years the 
Coreys have conducted group counseling training workshops for 
mental health professionals at many universi- ties in the United States 
as well as in Canada, Mexico, China, Hong Kong, Korea, Germany, 
Belgium, Scotland, England, and Ireland. In his leisure time, Jerry 
likes to travel, hike and bicycle in the mountains, and drive his 1931 
Model A Ford.
Recent publications by Jerry Corey, all with Brooks/Cole, Cengage 
Learning include:
■ Groups Process and Practice, Eighth Edition (2010, with 
Marianne Schneider Corey and Cindy Corey)
■ Theory and Practice of Counseling and Psychotherapy, Eighth 
Edition (and Student Manual) (2009)
■ Case Approach to Counseling and Psychotherapy, Seventh Edition 
(2009)
■ The Art of Integrative Counseling, Second Edition (2009)
■ Theory and Practice of Group Counseling, Seven Edition, (and Student 
Manual) (2008)
■ Issues and Ethics in the Helping Professions, Seventh 
Edition (2007, with Marianne Schneider Corey and Patrick 
Callanan)
■ Becoming a Helper, Fifth Edition (2007, with Marianne Schneider 
Corey)
■ Group Techniques, Third Edition (2004, with Marianne Schneider 
Corey, Patrick Callanan, and J. Michael Russell)
■ Clinical Supervision in the Helping Professions: A Practical 
Guide (2003, with Robert Haynes and Patrice Moulton).
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About the Authors ■ vii
Jerry is coauthor (with Barbara Herlihy) of Boundary Issues in 
Counseling:  Multiple  Roles  and  Responsibilities,  Second  Edition 
(2006), and ACA Ethical Standards Casebook, Sixth Edition (2006), 
both published by the American Counseling Association.
He has also made several educational video programs on various 
aspects     of counseling practice: (1) Theory in Practice: The Case of 
Stan—DVD   and  Online   Program  (2009);   (2)  Groups   in   Action: 
Evolution and Challenges—DVD and Workbook (2006, with Marianne 
Schneider Corey and Robert Haynes); (3)  CD-ROM for Integrative 
Counseling (2005, with Robert Haynes); and (4) Ethics in Action: CD- 
ROM (2003, with Marianne Schneider Corey and Robert Haynes). All 
of these programs are available through Cengage Learning.
MARIANNE   SCHNEIDER   COREY  is a licensed marriage and family 
therapist  in California and is a National Certified Counselor. She 
received her master’s degree in marriage, family, and child counseling 
from Chapman College. She is a Fellow of the Association for 
Specialists in Group Work and was the recipient of this organization’s 
Eminent Career Award in 2001. She also holds memberships in the 
American Counseling Association; the Association for Specialists in 
Group  Work;  the Association for Spiritual, Ethical, and Religious 
Values  in Counseling; and the  Western  Association for Counselor 
Education and Supervision. One of the books she co-authored, Group 
Techniques, has been translated into Portuguese, Korean, Japanese, 
and the Czech language.
Marianne has been actively involved in leading groups for different 
popula- tions, providing training and supervision workshops in group 
process, facilitating a self-exploration group for graduate students in 
counseling, and co-facilitating training groups for group counselors 
and weeklong residential workshops in per- sonal growth. She sees 
groups as the most effective format in which to work with clients and 
finds  it the  most  rewarding  for her personally.  With her husband, 
Jerry,  Marianne  has  conducted  training  workshops,  continuing 
education seminars, and personal growth groups in the United States, 
Germany, Ireland, Belgium, Mexico, China, and Korea. In her free 
time, Marianne enjoys traveling, reading, visiting with friends, and 
hiking.
Marianne has coauthored several articles in group work, as well as 
the follow- ing books with Brooks/Cole, Cengage Learning:
■ Groups: Process and Practice, Eighth Edition (2010, with 
Gerald Corey and Cindy Corey)
■ Issues and Ethics in the Helping Professions, Seventh Edition 
(2007, with Gerald Corey and Patrick Callanan)
■ Becoming a Helper, Fifth Edition (2007, with Gerald Corey)
■ Group Techniques, Third Edition (2004, with Gerald Corey, 
Patrick Callanan, and Michael Russell.
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Marianne  has  made  two  educational  video  programs  (with 
accompanying  stu-  dent   workbooks)   for   Brooks/Cole,   Cengage 
Learning:  Groups in Action: Evolution and Challenges—DVD and 
Workbook (2006 with Gerald Corey and Robert Haynes), and Ethics in 
Action: CD-ROM (2003 with Gerald Corey and Robert Haynes).
Marianne and Jerry have been married since 1964. They have two 
adult daughters, Heidi and Cindy, two granddaughters, Kyla and 
Keegan, and one grandson, Corey. Marianne grew up in Germany and 
has kept in close contact with her family and friends there.