Expanded orgasm : soar to ecstacy at your lover's every touch

287 Pages·2002·5.82 MB·english

by  Patricia Taylor

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O R G A S M
S E Y
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OVER S VERY OUCH
e x p a n d e d
O R G A S M
S E Y
OAR TO CSTASY AT OUR
L ’ E T
OVER S VERY OUCH
PATRICIA TAYLOR, Ph.D.
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To Allen: may our passion ever grow
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments ix
Introduction 1
Step One: Getting Ready 27
StepTwo: Connect withYourself andYour Partner 39
StepThree: Build the Right Mindset 67
Step Four: Erotic Development 83
Step Five:The Opening Strokes 107
Step Six:Thrilling Caresses 133
Step Seven: Feedback Loops 153
Step Eight: Spreading the Sweet Spot 191
Step Nine: Live aTurned-on Life 227
StepTen: From Here to Further Mastery 261
About the Author 287
Acknowledgments
I have long held a vision near and dear to my heart that women and men
everywhere can begin to share in some of the exquisite joys and pleasure we have
been fortunate enough to bring into our own lives. I thank all those who have
supported me in helping make this vision a reality.
With deep appreciation I want to acknowledge in particular some of the
people who have helped me bring my vision to fruition.
First and foremost, I thank my loving husband and partner of sixteen years,
Allen. From the beginning, Allen has let me know that giving me pleasure is one
of his greatest joys in life. He has taught me to value my own wants and desires.
Allen’spassion,joyforlife,andcommitmenttoexpandedorgasmhasinfusedme
with a lifelong foundation of security, joy, and pleasure. It has been a joy to
connect, play, and teach with him.
Next, I thank Jim Heynemann for our many years of friendship and success
in working together. His gifts as a brilliant teacher are priceless and evident to
all who know him. I am deeply grateful for the privilege of knowing Jim and
working with him.
I thank my dear friend and teacher Lori Star for all she has taught me about
Tantra. To this day, Lori inspires me to progress ever forward, through her own
teaching, her love, her encouragement, and her friendship. I also thank
Celebrations of Love, in Marin County, California. This community continues
to nurture my soul deeply.
Thank you Victor Baranco and the many gifted teachers at More University
for the incredible quality and quantity of information you have developed and
shared on extended orgasm, relationship, community, communication, and
pleasure. My life has been deeply and permanently transformed as a result of
studying with you and meeting so many people in this wonderful community.
Thank you Bill Lamond for taking such a stand for turn-on and pleasure
in the world. I am constantly amazed and inspired by your vision, integrity,
and foresight, as well as your brilliance and warmth.
I thank Osho for his everpresent words of inspiration on Tantra and other
great religious traditions of the world.Thank you for opening my mind up even
further to the great power of spirituality and the variety of ways in which this
precious energy can be experienced and enjoyed.
I thank Stan Dale and the Institute for Human Awareness for your informa-
tion and your community. You have been instrumental in opening me up to the
riches of intimacy and the beauty and power of win-win relating, in, as they say,
“a world in which everyone wins.”
I thank all my friends and clients who have taught me more than I can ever
fully acknowledge here. Know that you live in my heart and that you teach me
just as much as I could ever teach in return.
Finally,Ithankmyagent,CarolynGrayson,forbelievinginthisprojectwhen
it was little more than a query letter; and my editor, Deb Werksman, for seeing
thepotentialinthisbookfromthestart.Hervisionforthepotentialofthisbook,
plus enthusiastic encouragement and skillful editing, has played an essential role
in bringing this book into print.
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Introduction
“Knowing I can expand gives me a tremendous feeling of power and calm.”
“This experience makes me look and feel younger.”
“It’s like a kaleidoscope of delicious feelings, thoughts, emotions, and
physical sensations.”
“I feel refreshed, renewed, even reborn afterward.”
“Thispracticehasimmenselyincreasedmysenseofwell-being andself-worth.”
“Men who never noticed me before now find me intoxicating. They can just
sensehoworgasmicIam,withoutmysayingawordoractinganyparticularway.”
What if there was something you could do that would reliably and dramati-
cally increase your sense of well-being, give you great pleasure, improve how you
feel about yourself and about life, and practically guarantee a great relationship?
And suppose it was legal, free, and readily available?
What would you do to seek out this “something”? Would it be worth
hunting it down?Taking the time to learn how to use it? Getting those you love
to share it with you?
This book is for those who want their lives to be filled with these bene-
fits—and many more. The “something” that yields these benefits is an
experience called expanded orgasm. Building upon—and far beyond—“regu-
lar” orgasm, expanded orgasm is practiced by a surprising number of women
and men who are finding deep fulfillment in it.
Orgasm is not an easy subject to talk about. To discuss a dramatically
enhanced kind of orgasm presents new challenges. In order to make it easy for
you to understand—and achieve—the benefits of expanded orgasm, I’ve
employed stories about the practices and results of women and men who
engage in it frequently. More important, you will follow two couples—Sam
and Linda, and Kelly and Jason—through ten expanded orgasm lessons from
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