101 Reasons Not To Have An Abortion

568 Pages·2010·4.63 MB·English

101
REASONS TO HAVE
AN ABORTION

A Girl‘s Guide to Informed Choices

CONTAINS
TRUE

STORIES

I wish someone had told me
the TRUTH about how much
this one decision would affect

so many other areas of my life
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SERENA GAEFKE

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101 Reasons Not to Have
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A Girl‘s Guide to Informed Choices

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in·formed choice (in-fawrmd chois) noun 1. Knowing what you are getting into before
you decide. 2. Having the power to make your own choice. 3. Knowing all the
arguments before you make a decision.

a·bor·tion (uh-bawr-shuh n)noun 1. A choice that cannot be reversed after it is taken. 2.
A life-altering decision. 3. Quite often the regret of a lifetime.

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March 2010 Edition

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Acknowledgments
With grateful acknowledgment of permission granted by:
 All the woman who have so generously shared themselves for this book.
 AbortionTV (www.abortiontv.com)
 Anne Lastman (www.victimsofabortion.com.au)
 Elliott Institute (www.afterabortion.org)
 Fatherhood Forever Inc. (www.fatherhoodforever.org)
 Life Issues Institute (www.lifeissues.org)
 Love One Another magazine (www.loveoneanothermagazine.org)
 Priests for Life (www.priestsforlife.org)
 Sarah Hinze (www.sarahhinze.com)

Acknowledging: God‘s Grace, without which this book could never have been
conceived; the priceless moral support and computer assistance of my husband Charles; the
thorough manuscript proofreading by my wonderful mother-in-law Ellen; the professional
manuscript proofreading volunteered so generously by Virginia, Lynne and Sarah who
allowed themselfves to be God‘s instrument for me to move forward when my project
became stuck; the PA Public Libraries which allowed me to borrow countless books from
them; LifeSiteNews.com which gave me many ideas for leads, and anyone else who
provided feedback, encouragement or assisted me in some way. Finally, I want to
acknowledge the mothers of the world — without whom none of us would be here to

debate this topic today.

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To each and every one of you.
May your choices be informed, your regrets be few and your life
be full.



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Contents

Acknowledgments .................................................................................................................. iv
Caution! This book contains TRUE stories .............................................................................xi
Why this book is needed ...................................................................................................... xiii
More reasons this book is needed… .....................................................................................xiv
An open letter to all women who have had abortions ......................................................... xv
Where do you stand? .............................................................................................................xvi
How to read this book — which one are you? .................................................................. xviii
Reason #1: The benefits of abortion are outnumbered ........................................................... 3
Reason #2: We know when life begins .................................................................................... 7
Reason #3: You have been lied to .......................................................................................... 13
Reason #4: Abortion clinics are allowed to lie to you .......................................................... 19
Reason #5: Most women want support — not abortion ....................................................... 21
Reason #6: Abortion is an unwanted choice ......................................................................... 26
Reason #7: No one likes abortion ........................................................................................... 32
Reason #8: If only you could see what she looks like ........................................................... 35
Reason #9: It‘s not just a bunch of cells! ................................................................................ 38
Reason #10: Your baby exists now, not in the future ........................................................... 44
Reason #11: A fetus is a human and humans are persons ..................................................... 48
Reason #12: Abortion in the physical sense is also abortion in the spiritual sense ............. 53
Reason #13: At what point is it too late to abort? ................................................................. 57
Reason #14: So what if the baby isn‘t viable yet? .................................................................. 61
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Reason #15: Abortion is not an act of love ............................................................................ 66
Reason #16: Do you kill a child for their own good? ............................................................ 70
Reason #17: Ignorance is bliss, until you discover the truth ................................................ 72
Reason #18: Is this what you really want? ............................................................................ 76
Reason #19: There are practical options to make things work for you ................................ 79
Reason #20: There is a plan .................................................................................................... 87
Reason #21: To fulfill her plan your child needs to be born ................................................ 91
Reason #22: Maybe you are pregnant for a reason ............................................................... 95
Reason #23: Being young and pregnant isn‘t the worst thing in the world ........................ 99
Reason #24: It‘s better to be alive with one parent than dead with two ........................... 103
Reason #25: Abortion is about a woman‘s body, but… ...................................................... 107
Reason #26: Pro-choicers admit abortion is killing ............................................................ 113
Reason #27: Women know that abortion kills a baby ........................................................ 115
Reason #28: God will forgive, but there are still consequences ......................................... 117
Reason #29: Abortion may affect your future fertility ....................................................... 122
Reason #30: Abortion carries risks ....................................................................................... 126
Reason #31: Abortion is not safer than childbirth .............................................................. 135
Reason #32: Abortion isn‘t a quick fix ................................................................................. 137
Reason #33: Abortion clinics target you when you are vulnerable and desperate............ 140
Reason #34: Abortion is an irreversible choice ................................................................... 146
Reason #35: Counseling at abortion clinics is a joke ........................................................... 149
Reason #36: ‗Freedom to choose‘ does not tell you what you have the freedom
to choose ........................................................................................................... 158
Reason #37: It‘s your choice! ................................................................................................ 161
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Reason #38: You are not alone ............................................................................................. 163
Reason #39: Some things in life are wrong.......................................................................... 167
Reason #40: Are you getting an abortion for someone else? .............................................. 170
Reason #41: You may regret your abortion for a very long time ....................................... 174
Reason #42: Your mom chose life ........................................................................................ 178
Reason #43: Do to others as you would have them do to you ............................................ 181
Reason #44: Going against your value system might not make you happy ....................... 183
Reason #45: Who cares what other people think! .............................................................. 186
Reason #46: Being responsible is more rewarding than copping out ................................. 191
Reason #47: Is abortion the responsible choice? ................................................................. 193
Reason #48: So you wouldn‘t be a good parent? ................................................................. 197
Reason #49: Abortion procedures are brutal ....................................................................... 203
Reason #50: Abortion may make you unhappy .................................................................. 212
Reason #51: Abortion creates secrets, suppression and denial ........................................... 219
Reason #52: Suppression leads to anger, depression and forbidden grief .......................... 224
Reason #53: The fetus can feel pain ..................................................................................... 227
Reason #54: You can begin bonding with your baby now! ................................................ 237
Reason #55: Your unborn child can feel, taste, smell, hear, and see .................................. 242
Reason #56: Abortion is playing God .................................................................................. 250
Reason #57: Why should God bless America when we kill His children? ........................ 255
Reason #58: Saving the planet starts with ending abortion ................................................ 258
Reason #59: You can‘t compare humans to animals ........................................................... 264
Reason #60: The abortion industry is a business ................................................................. 267
Reason #61: Abortionists don‘t enjoy their job ................................................................... 271
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Reason #62: Abortionists are known to have bad records .................................................. 275
Reason #63: Women have died from abortion .................................................................... 280
Reason #64: Abortion is not real medicine .......................................................................... 291
Reason #65: Right or wrong? It‘s all in the words .............................................................. 293
Reason #66: Every child deserves life .................................................................................. 298
Reason #67: You might be aborting a genius ...................................................................... 300
Reason #68: Planned Parenthood clinics are not neutral ................................................... 301
Reason #69: Planned Parenthood‘s beginnings were unsavory ......................................... 307
Reason #70: Hitler would have loved abortion ................................................................... 310
Reason #71: Hormonal changes cause moodiness around the time most
abortions occur! ................................................................................................ 313
Reason #72: Abortion isn‘t natural ...................................................................................... 317
Reason #73: Abortion is not a form of birth control ........................................................... 319
Reason #74: Abortion is selfish ............................................................................................ 321
Reason #75: Abortion may change your relationships ....................................................... 324
Reason #76: Slavery was legal too ........................................................................................ 326
Reason #77: Abortion is unconstitutional ........................................................................... 330
Reason #78: Have a child now while you can ..................................................................... 334
Reason #79: The population explosion is an urban myth ................................................... 336
Reason #80: Abortion is a betrayal of women ..................................................................... 341
Reason #81: Abortion after rape is a double tragedy .......................................................... 346
Reason #82: There are so many couples who would love to parent if you don‘t .............. 353
Reason #83: The father might regret it too ......................................................................... 357
Reason #84: Real feminists won‘t ask you to kill your own child ...................................... 364
Reason #85: There is still hope for your special needs child .............................................. 368
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Reason #86: Abortion fetuses are often used in research ................................................... 373
Reason #87: Your unborn baby is intelligent ...................................................................... 377
Reason #88: We are self-aware before birth ....................................................................... 382
Reason #89: There could be a soul just waiting to come into your life.............................. 387
Reason #90: Abortion is not just a Catholic issue................................................................ 389
Reason #91: The Judeo-Christian heritage is pro-life ......................................................... 391
Reason #92: Move with the changing attitudes on abortion .............................................. 393
Reason #93: Abortion may not be medically necessary ...................................................... 397
Reason #94: Had one abortion? Don‘t make it two ............................................................. 404
Reason #95: What if the timing is right but you just don‘t know it? ................................. 408
Reason #96: Read the messages from women who have been there ................................. 410
Reason #97: Parenting is not something you can ever be fully prepared for .................... 412
Reason #98: Motherhood is an awesome experience .......................................................... 415
Reason #99: Save a life today ................................................................................................ 417
Reason #100: You can still live your dreams ....................................................................... 419
Reason #101: Be prepared — you might just enjoy being a mom! ..................................... 421
Final Words ........................................................................................................................... 425
Resources ............................................................................................................................... 427
About the Author ................................................................................................................. 437
Endnotes ................................................................................................................................ 438

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