Table Of ContentSecrets Of The Alpha Man
How to Get Rid of the Nice Guy
… and Get Laid
By Carlos Xuma
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“Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men
who've ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see squandering.
God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables;
slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and
clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need.
We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place.
We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War's a
spiritual war... our Great Depression is our lives. We've all been
raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be
millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't. And
we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off.”
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Tyler Durden – “Fight Club”
LONDON, England (Reuters) – 7/2003 -- Geniuses and criminals may
not seem to have much in common but they both do their best work in their
30s -- and mainly to impress the opposite sex.
When Satoshi Kanazawa, of the University of Canterbury in New Zealand, studied
biographies of prominent, mostly male scientists he discovered that they made their key
discovery before their mid 30s, around the same age that criminal behavior peaks.
He believes the male competitive urge to attract females is a driving force for the
scientific and criminal achievements, according to New Scientist magazine.
"They do whatever they do" in order to win the sexual attention of women, Kanazawa
said.
He added that the competitive drive decreases with age and as men's priority shifts from
competing for women to taking care of their offspring.
"Kanazawa also found that marriage dampens the drive in both arenas," the magazine
added.
(Reprinted from CNN.com)
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“When women go wrong, men go right after them."
Mae West.
"Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another."
HL Mencken
"Even if man could understand women he still wouldn't believe it."
AW Brown
“Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. That is
the difference between the sexes.”
Oscar Wilde
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Introduction .........................................................................................................13
Why do we need this book? ............................................................................14
My Story..............................................................................................................23
A Few Words About Change...............................................................................25
IMPORTANT: You Better Find Your Pain And Use It..........................................29
Anger...............................................................................................................31
Part I: The Science of Alpha Behavior ................................................................34
ALPHA.............................................................................................................34
More Alpha Definition ......................................................................................35
Alpha Man Characteristics...............................................................................36
Famous Alpha Men .........................................................................................38
STAR TREK is Good for You...........................................................................40
Beta Guys........................................................................................................43
Self-defense ....................................................................................................44
A.M.P. .................................................................................................................47
Dominance ......................................................................................................47
Submission......................................................................................................48
The Pecking Order ..........................................................................................49
Congruency .....................................................................................................52
Asking For What You Want .............................................................................55
Survivor Instinct...............................................................................................56
Navy Seals...................................................................................................57
Bushido – The Warrior Way.............................................................................60
Summary Traits of the Alpha Man ...................................................................63
Nothing Is Neutral ...............................................................................................64
Part II: How to Compensate for Your Shortfalls ..................................................65
Your Age .........................................................................................................65
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Your Hair .........................................................................................................67
Your Money .....................................................................................................68
Your Car ..........................................................................................................68
Forget About The Size of Your Dick ................................................................69
Your Intelligence..............................................................................................70
Your Looks ......................................................................................................71
Your Job ..........................................................................................................74
Your Physique .................................................................................................75
Your Self-Confidence ......................................................................................76
Comfort............................................................................................................79
Accountability ..................................................................................................80
Who Cares What They Think?.........................................................................80
You Make the Rules ........................................................................................82
Risk-Taking......................................................................................................83
Persistence .........................................................................................................86
Giving Up – The Exception..............................................................................87
Gender Roles ..................................................................................................90
Ways to Develop Your Alpha Power................................................................92
Always Have A Say......................................................................................94
Learn to LOVE a Challenge .........................................................................95
Long-Term Vision vs. Short Term Rewards .................................................95
State of Mind.......................................................................................................97
Playfulness and Sophistication......................................................................102
Physical Dominance......................................................................................105
Tallness......................................................................................................106
Physique ....................................................................................................107
Diet ............................................................................................................107
Body Language .............................................................................................110
The Alpha Handshake...................................................................................112
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Woman’s Intuition..........................................................................................112
Eye Contact ......................................................................................................116
Relax!................................................................................................................118
Shyness – The Alpha Inhibitor ..........................................................................120
Impatience – The Alpha Killer ...........................................................................121
Social Status/Social Perception ........................................................................124
You Better Be Able to Walk Away .................................................................125
The Politics Of Haggling ............................................................................125
Hyper-vigilance .................................................................................................129
Obsession .........................................................................................................130
Monogamy, Polygamy, what these women do to me… ....................................132
Never Ask for Permission – OR Forgiveness....................................................135
Never Apologize................................................................................................136
Forget Yourself..................................................................................................138
The Conversational Style of an Alpha...............................................................141
Don’t Ask Questions That Can Be Turned Down...........................................143
Don’t Argue With Rhetoric .............................................................................145
Don’t Listen TOO Much .................................................................................151
Frustration .....................................................................................................152
Voice Exercises.............................................................................................160
Pain Threshold..................................................................................................165
Male Emotional Strength ...............................................................................165
Perceived Value................................................................................................166
Alpha Lifestyle...................................................................................................170
Yin-Yang and Balance...................................................................................171
Alpha Socialization............................................................................................174
Networking.....................................................................................................175
Get Used To Saying Things You Might Not Mean.........................................175
Alpha Thinking ..................................................................................................177
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Brain Language .............................................................................................177
Revise Your Rules.........................................................................................179
Early failures in life are learned limitations – not true limitations. ..................182
Preparation....................................................................................................183
Getting Rid of Fear ........................................................................................185
Emotional Intelligence.......................................................................................190
Emotions .......................................................................................................190
How an Alpha Man Uses Emotions ...............................................................194
Coping Skills..................................................................................................196
Organic Problem Solving...............................................................................198
Autogenic Training.....................................................................................199
Pain And Pleasure Motivators...........................................................................204
Don't Ignore Reality - It Has Teeth ................................................................205
Proactive Nature............................................................................................212
Disclaimer for Crazy Women.........................................................................214
PASSION..........................................................................................................216
Goals.................................................................................................................219
The Boob Tube..............................................................................................223
DISTRACTIONS – Focus and Balance .........................................................225
Bravado, Boldness, Cockiness, Confidence, Self-esteem ................................227
Alpha Self-Confidence ......................................................................................229
Stop Defining Yourself in Her Eyes ...............................................................232
Quantum Leap Method..................................................................................234
Verbal Sparring with Women ............................................................................238
Consistency and Inconsistency – Testing......................................................243
Adventure and Danger – The Alpha Man as “Bad Boy” ....................................245
Part III: POWER – The Alpha Man Light Saber.................................................250
Dependency Theory Of Power and Bargaining .............................................254
Don’t Misunderstand the Power of Money.....................................................257
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Find Your Power............................................................................................259
Great Leadership Traits.................................................................................259
Emotional Self-Control ......................................................................................267
Emotional Caregiving.................................................................................269
Emotional Maturity .....................................................................................270
Batteries are Full...............................................................................................271
Purge the Beta – Welcome in the Alpha........................................................273
Get Rid of Those Whiney She-Man Boyfriends of Yours...............................274
Hang With the Other Alphas ......................................................................274
Indirect vs. Direct Attraction – How it Works .....................................................275
Why Women Want and NEED Resistance........................................................279
Make it Hard...............................................................................................280
Don’t Be Fooled.............................................................................................281
Subordination ................................................................................................282
Let Her Fall In Love First ...............................................................................286
Mixed Signals ................................................................................................287
Y.A.S.S. – Recognize the Chick Players .......................................................290
No Strings Attached.......................................................................................293
Mystery..........................................................................................................294
Marinade....................................................................................................295
The Three Domains of Interaction .................................................................296
Buying Temperature ..................................................................................296
Peacocking....................................................................................................297
Lipstick Tactic................................................................................................299
How to Make Compliments Work ..................................................................299
The Simplest Sure-fire Opener Ever..............................................................301
Opening Sets.................................................................................................302
Isolating Your Target From the Set................................................................306
Lighter Fluid ...............................................................................................306
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A Caveat for Good Looking Guys......................................................................308
Alpha Man Re-Framing.....................................................................................309
How to Tell When a Woman is Lying to You.....................................................311
Jealousy............................................................................................................313
Fun = Sex in a Woman’s Mind ..........................................................................316
Sexual Chemistry – The Missing Factor........................................................317
Dancing – The Power Of Rhythm..................................................................321
What Sex Means to Each Sex ..........................................................................322
Stay In Control ..................................................................................................324
How to Know When You’re In Control – Read the Signs...............................324
What She Doesn’t Know Helps You. .............................................................325
How to Know When to Leave ........................................................................326
Alpha Humor .....................................................................................................328
What a Woman Is..............................................................................................332
She Can’t Be Your Best Friend......................................................................334
Rapport – The Critical Success Factor of Seduction.........................................336
Get Rid Of The Infatuation Up Front .................................................................339
CSFs.................................................................................................................344
A Note On Overcoming Objections ...................................................................348
Diagnosing Your Game With Women ...............................................................350
Step 1: The Introduction ................................................................................350
Step 2: Close for Phone Number or Email.....................................................352
Step 3: Phone call for meeting/Close for Meeting..........................................353
Step 4: First meeting/Rapport........................................................................355
Step 5: First Kiss ...........................................................................................356
Step 6: First Sex...........................................................................................357
Defuse Your Enemies .......................................................................................360
Cockblocker...................................................................................................360
Heckler’s Dance.........................................................................................364
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Tame Your Demons..........................................................................................367
Alpha Trait Review............................................................................................371
Self-Development..............................................................................................373
The Meaning Of Life..........................................................................................376
The Alpha Man Code ........................................................................................378
You Know You’re An Alpha When….................................................................379
APPENDIX I: How to Sex Her Right..................................................................381
Make it comfortable .......................................................................................382
Use Variety at the Right Time........................................................................382
APPENDIX II: How To Stay With A Woman......................................................384
APPENDIX III: REQUIRED ALPHA MAN LEARNING MATERIALS.................386
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Get Your Game Face On
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Introduction
Haven’t you always wondered what it was that certain men – GREAT men – had
that made them so successful in life, how they managed to rise to the top of the heap?
You’ve probably even heard and understood that the men who get the most out
of life – the most women, the most money, the most success, better jobs, the most sex
and satisfaction overall – those men were of a slightly different breed than, say, the
clerk at the 7-11 or the Circle-K. They have a certain dominance about them. Yes, they
are assertive, but it’s much more than that. They have some innate character quality
that allows them to be more confident, persistent, and generally get whatever they go
after.
It’s called Alpha Male behavior in scientific terminology. We’ll call it Alpha Man
behavior for the work we’re about to do.
This quality is what I’ve studied for years, and now I want to pass along the
secrets of it to you. You see, the fantastic thing about this behavior is that it’s not
something you have to be born with, as it is in the animal kingdom. There, if you’re a
submissive male, you will only be the animal that gets the scraps of food, the job of
defending and bowing down to the Alpha Man, and you’ll probably never ever get any
sex. Now, if you behave this way in the human world, as a submissive male, you’ll get
the same results. But you’re not condemned to this fate if you have the ability to learn
the right behaviors.
That’s right. You can change your status in the world from the needy to the
wanted.
When I was younger, I knew that success with women was important, but it really
reflected a higher level of status in other areas. Getting laid was really an offshoot of a
confident and aggressive male pattern of behavior that meant success in ALL areas of
my life. If you succeed with women, you have the seeds of greatness for success with
your career, your family, your friends, your hobbies.
Ask yourself: What would you give to know what the Alpha Man is made of?
Well, I’m about to show you how to find out.
Some of the areas I’ve researched in the creation of this book:
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Biological cause and affect of the Alpha Man
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Sociology – influences reinforcing our patterns of behavior
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Human motivational psychology
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Dating and seduction of women
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Body language
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NLP
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Essential Leadership Abilities
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Charisma
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Eastern Philosophy
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Martial Arts
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Negotiation and persuasion
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Sales
I’ve investigated these and many other areas of human potential so that I could
discover what the Alpha Man was all about, and how I could model this prodigal man for
others to study and learn from. Not just to understand, but to make massive changes in
beliefs and behaviors to turn your life around and make it what you want.
The world has changed quite a bit over the last couple hundred years. What once
was a fairly stable landscape of male-female interaction and behavior has evolved
(though not in the same way we have evolved) into a rocky terrain of uncertainty and
despair.
Why do we need this book?
Men, more than ever, have lost their way. They’ve fallen prey to a popular media
that tells women they can have it all, be liberated, and they think that this is now their
birthright and entitlement. Women are acting more like men, and it’s only because most
men don’t act like men, so someone has to.
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Women need men to be Alpha Men now, more than ever. They don’t need “Nice
Guys.” They also no longer need men for the reasons they once did – hunting for food,
protection from rival tribes, physical strength, etc. They can buy their meat safely in a
Safeway. They can pay their taxes and have the Army, Navy, Air Force, or Marines
protect their homeland, as well as the local police and firemen to be on call for their
emergencies. They can hire a man to move their stuff or fix their appliances.
They no longer need us to survive.
So now a woman is free to feel attracted to the specific behaviors that she once
used to decode which guy would be good for her and which guy wouldn’t.
Dominant males in our society are in the minority.
The truth is, they always have been.
Have you ever watched one of those nature shows where the male lion gets to
sire his offspring with many females – as many as he can find time to bang between
naps?
Well, I hate to tell you this, but real life for humans works much in the same way.
The men with the genes that grant the characteristics to be most successful in their
environment are the winners in this race. Note: This does not mean the strongest, or
the smartest.
Just the “fittest.”
All organisms in this planet have one imperative that overrides all our other
conscious thoughts. When it comes down to it, the one thing we will always struggle to
do is to survive.
Remember one thing: This is a course in DOMINANCE, not aggressiveness.
They are not the same thing.
I’m going to teach most of these concepts from a particular vantage point – that
of the single man that wants to date and sleep with single women. However, I’m going
to branch out from just this one area and show you how Alpha Man behaviors are
demonstrated in many other areas of your life. I’ll touch on your sphere of influence in
the world, which includes:
o Your job
o Your friendships
